Hello everyone.
So this is my first post on the boards.
First of all, I would like to thank Chase and his team for the data and all the advice provided on his website.
I'm in my mid twenties and still highly unexperienced when it comes to seduction and romantic relationships. I was starting to feel completely helpless when it came to seducing girls, and the information I found in the articles helped me a lot to improve my mindset and start trying to seduce girls.
I'm writing this thread to get some insight into an interaction I had with a girl, which, I thought, was beginning well, but crashed down when I attempted to get a date with her.
In conclusion, I am proud that I attempted to seduce her and persisted even though I was afraid to call her after she did not respond. Even though I would have liked to go on a date with her, I feel that I learned a lot: I realised that I could get phone numbers and that I could emotionally cope with rejection.
Nevertheless, I try to observe my approaches as objectively as possible, and I would be very happy to know what my mistakes were and what areas I need to work on in the future to make my next approaches successful.
Julian
So this is my first post on the boards.
First of all, I would like to thank Chase and his team for the data and all the advice provided on his website.
I'm in my mid twenties and still highly unexperienced when it comes to seduction and romantic relationships. I was starting to feel completely helpless when it came to seducing girls, and the information I found in the articles helped me a lot to improve my mindset and start trying to seduce girls.
I'm writing this thread to get some insight into an interaction I had with a girl, which, I thought, was beginning well, but crashed down when I attempted to get a date with her.
- I started taking dance classes a few months ago. There, I met a girl who I thought was really cute. I talked to her during class, but nothing more.
- Every time she left the dance school, she didn't stay to chat, so I never truly had the opportunity to build attraction with her through a 5-10 minutes discussion before asking her out.
- Once, as I was walking home, I saw her heading toward a bus stop and turning her head several times in my direction as she walked. I can't say whether she did this to see if I would catch up with her to talk to her or for some other reason. Since I didn't want to appear to be chasing her, I didn't react and went home.
- I thought that a good way to talk to her alone would be to take the same bus as her. So one evening, I accompanied her to the bus stop, pretending that I also needed to go to the city served by the bus line's terminus.
- I started chatting with her, following Chase's advice, in particular trying to increase compliance by asking her to show me a ring she was wearing on her finger and trying to steer the conversation towards her dreams and plans, while trying to keep things as light-hearted as possible. Unfortunately, before I reached the hook point, this girl got a call and stayed on the phone for about fifteen minutes before getting on the bus. I waited for her to finish her call so we could continue our conversation. To remain credible, I got on the bus and sat in a double seat next to where she could have sat, but she walked past my seat, smiled at me, and said goodbye. I got off one stop after her and then went home: a very lame failure.
- Another evening, not wanting to seem like I was pursuing her, as we were chatting until she reached her bus stop, I asked her, unfortunately not on a high note, if she would be interested in having coffee with me the following week. She didn't seem bothered by the suggestion, and even offered to meet for coffee after our next classes. Very happy with this outcome, I asked her, rather awkwardly, for her number, which she gave me without hesitation. She had trouble entering her number into my iPhone, as she was used to a different type of phone, and I took the opportunity to joke that I was an iPhone fool. To reward her for her good behavior, I complimented her on her outfit (a genuine compliment, I thought it really suited her), then said goodbye with a handclasp.
- Two days later, when there was a dance class she could have potentially attended, I sent her a message in the morning asking if she was available to have a drink with me in the evening after the dance class. No response, and in the evening she didn't come to class (which is common, I go much more regularly than she does).
- The next day, sensing that something was wrong, I decided, following Chase's advice, to call her to see if that would break the deadlock. Surprisingly, she answered. She first asked who it was, and I jokingly told her that she was breaking my heart by not recognizing me. She then told me, in an irritated tone, that she didn't recognize my number, that something different was displayed on her screen (which is strange, since I used the same phone to send the first message and to call her). To try to add value to the conversation, I told her the news I had about the change in the course level she was interested in at school, but she doesn't seem interested. I asked her if she was very busy, if she had a lot of work, to which she replied yes. I then suggested we go for ice cream at a high-quality ice cream shop I know to relax, but she said she was too busy without suggesting any other times. Realizing that the game was lost, I left the ball in her court, telling her that she had my number and could call me. I said goodbye and (I know I shouldn't have because it rewarded bad behavior, but I didn't realize it at the time) that I kissed her (which is perfectly acceptable to say in my language, whether within a family, between platonic friends, or within a couple, but it is rather affectionate).
In conclusion, I am proud that I attempted to seduce her and persisted even though I was afraid to call her after she did not respond. Even though I would have liked to go on a date with her, I feel that I learned a lot: I realised that I could get phone numbers and that I could emotionally cope with rejection.
Nevertheless, I try to observe my approaches as objectively as possible, and I would be very happy to know what my mistakes were and what areas I need to work on in the future to make my next approaches successful.
Julian
