Hello GC Fam,
So yesterday I went out to my local college campus and decided to try out day game both for practice and because my dating pool is so small (except clubs once a week). Obviously I was extremely nervous but eventually, after about 4 hours, I finally made my move.
As I was kicking myself for passing by all the hot girls who gave me looks who I said nothing to I saw a very cute girl out in a field hula hooping and her friend was with her. It was getting dark at this point and it lit up with different colors and patterns as well and just looked really cool. I kept looking at her and eventually she turned and looked at me and started speeding up her moves, doing more complicated maneuvers and such. I took this as her sort of showing off for me, whether she was interested in me personally or just liked the attention I didn't know. But once her friend walked away I decided to make the last 4 hours worth it and go talk to her. I slowly sauntered over and she looked over and smiled. I told she was pretty amazing and she thanked me and immediately told me her name and asked me mine. I told her and shook her hand gently. After she asked if I went there and I said I was thinking of going next semester and I was just checking out the campus and that's when she asked "You're not in high school are you..?" And I told her no and she had this huge sigh of relief which was another good sign. After a little more talking I said "I have to ask, are you single?" And she sort of answered slowly "Unfortunately I am..not.. I have a boyfriend in Massachusetts that's where I'm from..." (For reference were in Virginia) And I talked a little more with her and as I was about to make my grand exit she said "wow you know that shows a lot of confidence just walking up to me like that." I don't remember what I said I was just so elated that the interaction went smoothly. Then before I left she said "well if you ever want to talk or something I'll be here tomorrow! I'm usually out here hoopin haha." And I told her I might stop by.
Now I've realized I honestly don't know what to say to move an interaction forward if she says she has a boyfriend but is showing obvious interest. I don't get awkwardly silent. It's just I become stagnant in conversation. It flows but not in the right direction. For a first time day game/cold approach I feel ok about it but I know it could have gone worlds better. I'll be sure to change that next time.
Baldr
So yesterday I went out to my local college campus and decided to try out day game both for practice and because my dating pool is so small (except clubs once a week). Obviously I was extremely nervous but eventually, after about 4 hours, I finally made my move.
As I was kicking myself for passing by all the hot girls who gave me looks who I said nothing to I saw a very cute girl out in a field hula hooping and her friend was with her. It was getting dark at this point and it lit up with different colors and patterns as well and just looked really cool. I kept looking at her and eventually she turned and looked at me and started speeding up her moves, doing more complicated maneuvers and such. I took this as her sort of showing off for me, whether she was interested in me personally or just liked the attention I didn't know. But once her friend walked away I decided to make the last 4 hours worth it and go talk to her. I slowly sauntered over and she looked over and smiled. I told she was pretty amazing and she thanked me and immediately told me her name and asked me mine. I told her and shook her hand gently. After she asked if I went there and I said I was thinking of going next semester and I was just checking out the campus and that's when she asked "You're not in high school are you..?" And I told her no and she had this huge sigh of relief which was another good sign. After a little more talking I said "I have to ask, are you single?" And she sort of answered slowly "Unfortunately I am..not.. I have a boyfriend in Massachusetts that's where I'm from..." (For reference were in Virginia) And I talked a little more with her and as I was about to make my grand exit she said "wow you know that shows a lot of confidence just walking up to me like that." I don't remember what I said I was just so elated that the interaction went smoothly. Then before I left she said "well if you ever want to talk or something I'll be here tomorrow! I'm usually out here hoopin haha." And I told her I might stop by.
Now I've realized I honestly don't know what to say to move an interaction forward if she says she has a boyfriend but is showing obvious interest. I don't get awkwardly silent. It's just I become stagnant in conversation. It flows but not in the right direction. For a first time day game/cold approach I feel ok about it but I know it could have gone worlds better. I'll be sure to change that next time.
Baldr
