My first ever 'date'? But i've been thrown into the deep end

[Humay]

I'm an 18 year old English traveller in China.

She's a late-twenties, South Korean, chinese humanities teacher.

It's not like we've got much in common, but we're roomates and we sleep in the same room (with two other guys).

I was asking her if she could recommend me a restaurant (with innocent intentions) and if she can show me where it is (not so!). It would of been *very awkward* if i was direct with her upon meeting and she didn't like me, so i played my cards close to my chest.

But she said sure, and after she said that, she said 'I don't know if you're able to, but i'll like to take you to dinner after i finish my work tomorrow, would 7pm be okay for you?'

I tried to reduce my availability down, and ask if she had anything later. She said 'later? but that's already quite late!' And i said: 'okay, i'll try to be there at 7. But i might not if i'm too busy'. She said okay, and she'll be waiting here at 7.30pm. If i'm not here, she will cancel it.

Important: she is very beautiful but also very shy. So it's really hard not to chase without there being a big silence (but she was reading her book at the time).

A part of me feels this is too good to be true. Women don't just walk up to you and offer a date. But i think it might be my lucky day

 

[PinotNoir]

Re: My first ever 'date'? But i've been thrown into the deep

Sorry man, from what you have told me, this doesn't really sound like a date... but, I assume that's why you quoted it in the title? I don't think she sees it as a date, just roommates eating dinner together.

Still, try touching and chase/sexual framing like you normally would do. Maybe when you first see her say, "Well, I never realized you looked so beautiful before" or something to that effect to sort of let her know that you consider this a date. You may be in too deep now to say, "Hey, this is a date. You know that, right?" without coming off as awkward and un-savvy.

You'll have to be super careful if she is your roommate, and I expect her guard to be way up. Try to pick a location that you can be intimate in (logistics) after the meal, as I don't think it's going to happen back in the room, and use the classic yes-ladder to get there.

EDIT: Also, she's already in the leader position by setting up the date and time. You did well by pushing the time back a little. When you get there, lead her with your hand behind her back and try to position yourself more in the dominant role -- the one taking care of her and the "date." Then it will be easier to transition to the next part of the night... Since she's worried about time, I highly suggest Chase's great line for resistance at night: "Oh, when's your bedtime?" Girls instantly back-pedal a little, "I don't have a bedtime! I'm just... tired..." "But, you don't look tired; you're smiling! Grab a coffee, else you'll regret missing out on an adventure tonight. How often do you have adventure and excitement?"