My first ever direct approach - I did it!

[132]

So tonight me and 3 other friends decided to go to watch live basically the bulgarian version of the show of Jay Leno. Cause there were some trained parrots that rode bicycles and drove mini cars and it was super funny.



When we went there at the entrance of the building there was like sth like a small cafe/store combo. I went to buy a pack of gum and saw the girl that worked there. She was sooooo cute I can't even describe it. I gave her a sexy smile and she lit up.

There were 4-5 people waiting in line behind me and I decided that I shouldn't approach her in front of those people. So I went to go wait in front of the studio to get in. But I said to myself this girl is too damn cute to pass up. She was literally one of the cutest girls I've even seen.
If it were just a hot girl I would've passed. But in this case the possible rejection would hurt 10000 times less than the regret and not knowing.
So I told my friends to wait there and went to talk to her. There were again 6-7 people that came right after me so I pretended like I was still deciding what to get and let all the people get what they wanted and leave. All those people went away and there were only 2 guys drinking coffee at a table 15 feel away from where we were.


I told her "can you come a bit to the side so I can tell you sth".
She said "Yes".
We stood not more than a foot from each other and I said "I know this might be a bit to forward, but I think you're really cute and I want to get to know you. Lets get coffee some day this week."
She blushed and smiled widely and said "umm well I have a boyfriend.. but.." and took out a piece of paper to write her number. I didn't have time to ask for her number yet so she took w piece of paper and pen to write it on her own.
Then she said "well I can't give you my number cause my boyfriend might see if you call me or text me.. so I'll give you my facebook and you can message me there.. wait no he can see that too.. I'll give you my e-mail.. that's the safest way to contact me "
And she wrote her e-mail and her name Kristine (idk how you'd spell it in english),
I said "So your name is Kristine, nice to meet you I'm Ico(it's pronounced Itso, short for Hristo)"
She said "write me"
And at that moment one of my friends came looking for me and said that I must go cause the audience was getting in their places and I held all our tickets



Ah and she's 17 and in a dance group and doing performances.

It felt good. I don't know how to take it because

- She seemed to give me an approach invitation.
- She blushed when I told her she's cute and I wanted to get to know her.
- She told me she had a boyfriend.
- But I didn't even have time before she offered to give me her number and then thought that it'd be best to write e-mails so her boyfriend won't find out. Idk if this is the real reason or if she wanted to blow me off and won't answer my e-mail.
- She told me to write her.



So what do you think guys? I want an honest opinion of what you think happened in the interaction. How you think it went for my very first direct approach ever.
Plus what would you recommend I write her in the first e-mail?

 

[Gentle_Phrases]

Hey Ico,

Congrats man!! The way you wrote it, it doesn't seem like you think it was a blow off. I can't see why you wouldn't email her. You have nothing to lose.

 

[132]

Today I did my second ever direct approach.

I was doing shoulders today at the gym and there was this unbelievably beautiful blonde girl. Everybody at the gym was staring at her. I don't like to use the 1-10 scale but she was 9 or 10. And looked really serious.

She wasn't my type exactly, but I'd gone out and slept with her in a heartbeat.


At the end of my workout I said to myself screw it. Went to her smiled and told her to come in the yoga room when she's finished with her exercise. She smiled wide and said okay. I actually do 15 minutes of yoga after every workout to cool down.

She came and I went direct again(rough translation into english, some of the things are hard to translate) "I know this might be a bit forward but I think you're really cute and think your hair is amazingly blonde. My name is Ico btw". She said "nice to meet you I'm Simona"
She smiled really wide and I noticed her pupils got really dilated. And the whole time while talking she was smiling, blushing and had her pupils really dilated.
I continued "I'd like get to know you and wish we had time to talk but It's the gym.. how about we get coffee some time this week"
She said I'm so sorry but I have a serious boyfriend. You two actually share the same name.
And she continued to apologize "I'm really sorry, I know it's hard to talk to a girl out of nowhere and I'm sorry I have to decline."
She continued to talk and said "But we should definitely talk when we have more time. I bet we'll run into each other again at the gym these days. Which days do you come here to workout?"
I said "Every day"
She said "woah I come only 3 days but 6 is really dedicated. Btw are you from Sofia (the name of the city)?."
I said "no I'm actually from Stara Zagora"
She then said "hah I'm from Sliven it's pretty close to where you're from"
We then talked for a couple of minutes about where and what she studied and where each of us lives, etc.

At the end of the conversation she said"It was really nice to meet you! Again I'm sorry that I can't go out with you. But thanks for the compliment. I've actually never had this happen to me outside a club. We'll definitely see each other again soon."





The weird thing is yes she rejected me. But it felt really good. I got to direct approach a super hot girl. She was super nice in rejecting me and actually made me feel better about myself. The adrenalin rush felt really good also. And I feel good that even though she rejected me - I did the right thing. I approached her and made her day better and put a big smile on her face.
It wasn't bad as I thought it would be. The world didn't end. And I actually have a big smile on my face for being able to do it.
And the thing is I don't care that she rejected me. I'm happy that I approached her direct. It was just bad luck - she had a boyfriend or didn't like me enough. I'll just approach other girls till I run into wan that is single/likes me.


I hope I can approach other girls the coming days and get real results and set up a date with a girl I like.

 

[Franco]

Great to see the progress here, Ico! I'm proud of you, man! =)

Keep up the approaching and positive attitude and you'll start to see more and more positive results in no time.

- Franco

 

[Nova]

well done, keep going and you will naturally find out what works and what doesn't, what works better and what doesn't work quite as well. use the info on girlschase to help speed up the learning process and conceptualise what your doing.

 

[PinotNoir]

Wow, I have to say that I'm impressed. Your first approach ever, and you used compliance like a boss right off the bat:

"can you come a bit to the side so I can tell you sth".

I think you may be the new NJ if you keep approaching

"well I can't give you my number cause my boyfriend might see if you call me or text me.. so I'll give you my facebook and you can message me there.. wait no he can see that too.. I'll give you my e-mail.. that's the safest way to contact me "

Wow, she is one naughty girl. She's definitely thinking about cheating on her boyfriend with you.

To be honest, if I was in this situation, I'd just be a risk-taker and do a hard pull (I think that's the term?). I'd send an email like this:

Subject: how do you take your coffee?
Body: hey Kristine, I've been thinking about something hot and steamy all week.... and black. I'm talking about coffee! you have such a naughty mind. I can't believe you would even think that! anyway, when you free this week? I know a great place that's quaint and unique. We'll sip and chat and laugh about stories from the night. Nothing to lose, and maybe something to gain... an adventure with a memorable meeting. Write back when you get a chance. -lco132

If you want to be a true risk-taker and direct, then I'd even invite her over for coffee at your place.

Either way, if she says no, no big deal. Approaching is like a snowball falling down a hill, and it just gets better and better. You'll be getting dates with plenty of single girls soon.

 

[ProblemSolving]

Awesome Ico!

In fact, I think I'm going to steal that, "When you're done here, meet me over there", gym technique. It's perfect screening for girls on cardio machines - if she's interested, she follows, if not, things stay the same. Since the effort is so low, there's little chance for awkwardness which is so important for social circle game.

One thing that will help you in your future approaches is to not jump for the number/date so quickly. Be curious about her and find out what she's like BEFORE going for the number. This accomplished two things:

First, it kills some of the "stranger danger" that a lot of girls feel on the initial approach. It is very possible to get a girl's number after one or two lines of dialogue, but the flake rates go way up with this minimalist approach because you're still considered a stranger to her.

Second, by getting her to talk about herself, it puts you in the position of power. She's got to say the right things to win YOU over, only then, when you've heard enough, do you reward her with a number/date close. This makes you look like a much higher value man than the, "You look pretty. Can I have your number?", guys.

And remember, not all girls are going to be available/single. You can't control that, so don't feel bad about it.

 

[132]

Wow, I have to say that I'm impressed. Your first approach ever, and you used compliance like a boss right off the bat:

I didn't even notice this was compliance. At the time I thought that I need to get her a few feet away so the guys sitting at the table won't be able to hear us.
And at the gym I told the girl to come in the yoga room, cause again the gym was full and there were people staring at her and the yoga room was empty.

But now that you mention it both times I started with compliance before even starting to talk. Nice! I guess I've subconsciously remembered that from reading GC.

I think you may be the new NJ if you keep approaching

Not sure who NJ is, but I'll be approaching at least 1 new girl every day for the next month. Or maybe more. And from mid April to June I'll be upping the numbers to 5-10 per day. And finally during the summer I'll be approaching like crazy. My natural friend and I are planning a few weeks living in Italy in a house on the beach(his grandmother married a rich Italian and they'll be in the US during the summer so if everything goes well we'll have a beach house in Italy and party with pretty Italian girls, hopefully) and after that spending a month in Sunny Beach which is insane and filled with hundreds of thousands of tourists and people there to party. It's insane the whole beach is filled with clubs/diskos and the pary is 24/7.
And hell if I'm gonna let him be better with girls. He might be a natural, but I'll work my ass off the next 3-4 months and amount more approaches and experience than he'll ever have. I'll be working hard on my fundamentals, and process, till I get it.

Wow, she is one naughty girl. She's definitely thinking about cheating on her boyfriend with you.

My thoughts exactly, I think if she had no interest she wouldn't have volunteered to give me her contact info. And if she viewed me as only a friend she wouldn't have had a problem if her boyfriend found out we were texting.

I'll be more aggressive and direct with her. And plus I have an advantage - I'm 21(have my own apartment and cars and my own company) and her boyfriend is 17. I think that's a plus in the sense that I'm more mature and look more like a man and thus more sexy.

In fact, I think I'm going to steal that, "When you're done here, meet me over there", gym technique. It's perfect screening for girls on cardio machines - if she's interested, she follows, if not, things stay the same. Since the effort is so low, there's little chance for awkwardness which is so important for social circle game.

Yeah use it. Hope it helps you. I thought that's was a great thing to say when a girl i in the middle of an exercise or doing cardio. You tell her to come over when she's done cause you want to tell her sth. It's also better when there are people around her and you want some privacy. Also as you pointed out it screens for interest - if she's not interested at all she won't come. And as PinotNoir pointed out it's a compliance right off the bat.

One thing that will help you in your future approaches is to not jump for the number/date so quickly. Be curious about her and find out what she's like BEFORE going for the number.

I disagree here with you for a few reasons.
-First in those two situations there was no time. It the first scenario the show was starting and my friend came looking for me, and there were people that came and the girl was working.
- And in other scenarios during day game there is no time. On the street she might be in a hurry and there is no time to chit-chat.
-I'm new at approaching and it's easier to go direct and ask to go get coffee early cause I'd fumble a conversation and trying to remember which goes where.
- It's a lot bolder and more confident and less of a time waster. Girls who are definitely not interested will say right off the bat. The girls who are interested will say yes. And the ones that are sceptical - idk maybe say "I don't know"
- The stranger danger is not a problem here. In Eastern Europe people are a lot warmer than in the western countries. Here people treat strangers like close friends. It's our culture. Unless the person is a creep or annoying.
- Another cultural thing. Here girls are harsher than in the US. Here when you ask for a girls number or to go out - she considers if she wants to sleep with you. She won't give you her number if she only wants you as a friend. And she won't give you a number if she wants to blow you off. So a number is solid every time you get one.
So your number close rate will be lower than in the US but the numbers will be solid.



And I don't want to waste my time with girls who don't like me from the moment they see me. I won't try and convince a girl to like me by talking to her. She either likes me from the get go and there's chemistry or she doesn't. I don't care if my rate is lower. I want the girls I go out with to be solid and really excited to go out with me. I'm running a company and patenting new inventions and figuring out how to get financing for trying to develop new tech. I don't have the time to waste talking to girls who are not sure and go out with them and try to convince her to like me.



Ico

 

[mindful]

Wow man congrats. This was a great read! Keep up the approaches!

 

[132]

Today again I approached a girl at the gym. Cause I'm busy and don't gave much time to go out and approach. I basically have the hour at the gym and the hour of rest and having lunch and write this. Btw I am social with all the people at the gym. The girls working at the counter. The cleaning lady, the instructor. Some of the regulars. So I'm not only talking to the girls I approach.

I think I got rejected because she went into auto-rejection this time. Keep reading and tell me what you think.

This girl was a bit more average looking like a 6-7 but has amazing body and was wearing tight grey yoga pants and pink top. So sexy,
I noticed her doing exercises near me and our eyes locked a few times. I also caught her staring at me a few times, with my peripheral vision. Like looking a me for 20-30 seconds. Then when she was on the hamstrings machine and I was coming near her she asked how to adjust it. I showed her in a bored way(like ..fine..). And I said by the way me name is Ico. She said I'm Ulia(like Julia but with a U). I took her hand and didn't shake it bu rather hold it gently but firm and said Nice to meet you Ulia. She also said nice to meet you.

And I went to continue my set. After 5-10 minutes we crossed paths and I told her "come for a second I want to ask you sth."
She said ok and came. I went direct again. like the last 2 times. Basically "I think you're cute and I'd like to get to know you. Lets get coffee sometime"

She rejected me again with "No.. I have a boyfriend". And didn't say anything else.
I said okay, it's still nice meeting you, Ulia.

And I went to continue my work out.


The weird thing is after that she again came to work out near me and with my peripheral vision I could see her checking me out. She was actually staring at me during every set I did. Literally staring at me. I didn't loot at her again, only used my peripherals. I also didn't re-engage her. Cause she game a "No!"




I think this might have been a case where she went into auto-rejection, because as I said she was a bit more average and I can say I'm above average. I caught her looking at me a bunch of times and we locked eyes a few times, but I took 20-30 minutes to approach her. She asked for my help.
I might have been a bit to direct and she might have gotten thrown back by me going direct like that. And it might have been a reflex to say "No.. I have a boyfriend".
Plus she continued to work out near me(when I change place in the gym she was like following me) and she stared at me for 10-15 minutes while she was resting between sets. Or she might have been staring because I approached her direct like that and she couldn't believe it.

The thing that makes me think it was auto-rejection was that she said it kinda serious and harsh "No.. I have a boyfriend" and it kinda sounded like a knee jerk reaction. I think most girls if they are not interested will be nicer and won't stare at me before and after I approached her.



What do you think?

 

[PinotNoir]

Hey man, just a word of warning here. Don't ask too many women out at the gym. I've heard of guys getting banned for it. I think you're probably safe as long as you only do 1-2 a week, but still a gamble. And in your most recent example, there's probably a lot of girls with boyfriends; it may be best to use a situational opener and then to gracefully find out about a boyfriend ("your boyfriend must love that you can do yoga so well").

 

[xilb51x]

Today again I approached a girl at the gym.

bold move cotton!

 

[132]

Hey man, just a word of warning here. Don't ask too many women out at the gym. I've heard of guys getting banned for it. I think you're probably safe as long as you only do 1-2 a week, but still a gamble. And in your most recent example, there's probably a lot of girls with boyfriends; it may be best to use a situational opener and then to gracefully find out about a boyfriend ("your boyfriend must love that you can do yoga so well").

I'll definitely keep that in mind and limit my approaches there. Mostly I'll talk to girls who check me out and give approach invitations. The girls who'd love to talk to me and want me to say hi.

I honestly don't care that she or the one before rejected me with saying they have boyfriends. I'm not approaching to get a girlfriend right now. I'm doing it to get used to approaching and talking to girls. It's actually good that the first few are rejections to show me it's now that scary to get rejected.


Plus it's their loss. They don't know me. I'm 21 and millionaire with my own company and will be getting famous for my work in the next 7-8 months. I'll change the world with the inventions that I'm working on and get massive recognition. This is what my goal is and I'm gonna achieve it no matter what.
I don't care if some girl has a boyfriend, or isn't interested, or rejects me for whatever reason. I'll focus on the ones who do want me.

 

[Franco]

Plus it's their loss. They don't know me. I'm 21 and millionaire with my own company and will be getting famous for my work in the next 7-8 months. I'll change the world with the inventions that I'm working on and get massive recognition. This is what my goal is and I'm gonna achieve it no matter what.
I don't care if some girl has a boyfriend, or isn't interested, or rejects me for whatever reason. I'll focus on the ones who do want me.

This is all the right attitude to have, Ico. That's the kind of confidence that makes you attractive to women in the first place. Intertwine that with practice and experience and you'll have girls chasing you in no time!

Glad to see you got past that initial approach barrier. =)

- Franco

 

[xilb51x]

Hey man, just a word of warning here. Don't ask too many women out at the gym. I've heard of guys getting banned for it. I think you're probably safe as long as you only do 1-2 a week, but still a gamble. And in your most recent example, there's probably a lot of girls with boyfriends; it may be best to use a situational opener and then to gracefully find out about a boyfriend ("your boyfriend must love that you can do yoga so well").

I'll definitely keep that in mind and limit my approaches there. Mostly I'll talk to girls who check me out and give approach invitations. The girls who'd love to talk to me and want me to say hi.

I honestly don't care that she or the one before rejected me with saying they have boyfriends. I'm not approaching to get a girlfriend right now. I'm doing it to get used to approaching and talking to girls. It's actually good that the first few are rejections to show me it's now that scary to get rejected.


Plus it's their loss. They don't know me. I'm 21 and millionaire with my own company and will be getting famous for my work in the next 7-8 months. I'll change the world with the inventions that I'm working on and get massive recognition. This is what my goal is and I'm gonna achieve it no matter what.
I don't care if some girl has a boyfriend, or isn't interested, or rejects me for whatever reason. I'll focus on the ones who do want me.

great mindset! no girl ever rejects you for "you" its based of immediate factors such as looks, how you approached them, how you sound, smell, they have a boyfriend or the shits..the list goes on! nobody knows who you are within 1.5 seconds of you saying hello. its never personal, its just "poor timing" that is a simplistic way of seeing a rejection.

 

[132]

great mindset! no girl ever rejects you for "you" its based of immediate factors such as looks, how you approached them, how you sound, smell, they have a boyfriend or the shits..the list goes on! nobody knows who you are within 1.5 seconds of you saying hello. its never personal, its just "poor timing" that is a simplistic way of seeing a rejection.[/quote]


Yeah, they reject how you project yourself. Like today I might have come off too strong and made the girl too nervous. She might really have a boyfriend. She might not like the way I look. Or it might be bad timing.

Like in business everybody has a preference. Apple are the biggest company and their products are amazing. But there are still billions of people buying Android phones and using Windows PCs.


I guess I have only 4 things to do to get better:

1) approach more girls on a regular basis
2) work on my fundamentals and process to get better
3) focus on the girls who do like me
4) keep working on my company and changing the world

 

[132]

Plus it's their loss. They don't know me. I'm 21 and millionaire with my own company and will be getting famous for my work in the next 7-8 months. I'll change the world with the inventions that I'm working on and get massive recognition. This is what my goal is and I'm gonna achieve it no matter what.
I don't care if some girl has a boyfriend, or isn't interested, or rejects me for whatever reason. I'll focus on the ones who do want me.

This is all the right attitude to have, Ico. That's the kind of confidence that makes you attractive to women in the first place. Intertwine that with practice and experience and you'll have girls chasing you in no time!

Glad to see you got past that initial approach barrier. =)

- Franco

Thanks Franco.

I'll keep practicing and getting better with every day. I hope I get my first date within the next couple of months and my first close.

 

[ProblemSolving]

In fact, I think I'm going to steal that, "When you're done here, meet me over there", gym technique. It's perfect screening for girls on cardio machines - if she's interested, she follows, if not, things stay the same. Since the effort is so low, there's little chance for awkwardness which is so important for social circle game.

Yeah use it. Hope it helps you. I thought that's was a great thing to say when a girl i in the middle of an exercise or doing cardio. You tell her to come over when she's done cause you want to tell her sth. It's also better when there are people around her and you want some privacy. Also as you pointed out it screens for interest - if she's not interested at all she won't come. And as PinotNoir pointed out it's a compliance right off the bat.

One thing that will help you in your future approaches is to not jump for the number/date so quickly. Be curious about her and find out what she's like BEFORE going for the number.

I disagree here with you for a few reasons.
-First in those two situations there was no time. It the first scenario the show was starting and my friend came looking for me, and there were people that came and the girl was working.
- And in other scenarios during day game there is no time. On the street she might be in a hurry and there is no time to chit-chat.
-I'm new at approaching and it's easier to go direct and ask to go get coffee early cause I'd fumble a conversation and trying to remember which goes where.
- It's a lot bolder and more confident and less of a time waster. Girls who are definitely not interested will say right off the bat. The girls who are interested will say yes. And the ones that are sceptical - idk maybe say "I don't know"
- The stranger danger is not a problem here. In Eastern Europe people are a lot warmer than in the western countries. Here people treat strangers like close friends. It's our culture. Unless the person is a creep or annoying.
- Another cultural thing. Here girls are harsher than in the US. Here when you ask for a girls number or to go out - she considers if she wants to sleep with you. She won't give you her number if she only wants you as a friend. And she won't give you a number if she wants to blow you off. So a number is solid every time you get one.
So your number close rate will be lower than in the US but the numbers will be solid.



And I don't want to waste my time with girls who don't like me from the moment they see me. I won't try and convince a girl to like me by talking to her. She either likes me from the get go and there's chemistry or she doesn't. I don't care if my rate is lower. I want the girls I go out with to be solid and really excited to go out with me. I'm running a company and patenting new inventions and figuring out how to get financing for trying to develop new tech. I don't have the time to waste talking to girls who are not sure and go out with them and try to convince her to like me.



Ico

Well, with a handful of approaches under your belt, you obviously have this stuff all figured out. Good luck!

 

[132]

I'm thinking of trying out sth a bit different today.

Instead of being super direct and give girls a compliment and tell them I'd like to get to know her.
I'll open a bit situational with indirect-direct.
Introduce myself.
Give her a compliment and light banter for a couple of minutes,
get to know her just a little bit.
Then on a high note I'll propose we meet to continue talking, over coffee sometime or to just exchange numbers.

I won't be saying " think you're beautiful and I'd like to get to know you.." You know imply with a little compliment early on that I like her but keeping her guessing a bit.


I have so few approaches and I want to try this out. To see how it is. If it's easier to do and say. At the very least it'll get a bit more sociable and talking a bit to a few girls.

I know I'll have to do tens and hundreds of approaches with any given method to see consistent results and to know what works better. I get it that 10-20 approached are gonna with be highly variation based results. You might catch a bad streak and run into 10-20 girls who have boyfriends, are busy, are not interested, despite you having great fundamentals and process. Or you might run into a few girls who really like you despite you being bad at approaching. Short term results are not a measurement for your skill level. That's what I've learned running a company - you need some time to see if you're really good/bad or if it was just random run of chance. Only doing hundreds of approached will you get the variation/chance out of the way and see what your real results are.

So this is not to try out if it works better on girls, rather if it works better on me. It makes me calmer and less nervous.

Lets see how it goes.

 

[132]

today I did better - 4 approaches and a few girls invited me to chat. Actually I approached 3 girls and one approached me.
The only free time to go out I have this month is basically walking to the gym and back, and to the supermarket, the few breaks I do between working to listen to some music and check out GC, going for an hour long walk every time I get a block(I've found when my mind stops responding and is overloaded with work it works great to take an hour long walk and clear my head). Will be like that for the next 3-4 weeks until the new company and website launches.

The first one was on the way to the gym this brunette girl walking towards me. I noticed her looking at me and I approached her. I went direct with a compliment about her hair - she actually did have gorgeous hair. Introduced myself and she gave her name - Magi(might be spelled Maggie in English). I asked if she was heading anywhere interesting. We bantered for a minute or so. She was definitely smiling and looked like she enjoyed it. When I went for the close - she said she'd love to go get coffee if she didn't have a boyfriend. She thanked for the compliment and said I just made her day and that it is unfortunate she has a boyfriend.

The second This was the girl who started talking to me at the gym. It is my second leg day for the week and I was almost done working out. And throughout the workout I noticed her looking around the gym like she was bored and checking me out a few times. I didn't approach cause she wasn't my type and was 6.5-7 looks wise. Not ugly, not much beautiful, just kinda cute, also she was a bit too skinny.
She came to workout near me and told me she liked my glasses and that they look good on me. We bantered a bit while we were resting. She also asked me what the exercise I was doing, is. I showed her. We talked a bit more and it was time for me to go. She offered we chat some more and gave me her facebook and told me to find her later. But she was really nice and a cool person, so I enjoyed talking to her and will definitely continue talking to her.

The third . After the workout I went to the supermarket on my way home. In the fruits and veggie isle I saw this redhead near me and we kinda bumped when she moved back and I almost dropped the coconut I was checking it it was ripe. We laughed and I told her she almost owed me a coconut. She said she didn't see people buying coconuts and asked me what I'd do with it. I told her I was cooking my own rice meal where I use the coconut milk and also chop the meat of the coconut. She said "whoa you can cook such dishes! every guy I know can only make instant noodles in his dorm room or purchase pizza" she then said if you cook that means you're not in a dorm right?(there are no kitchens in dorms here) and said she wished her boyfriend would learn to cook. And just then her boyfriend showed up(he was looking for sth in another isle) she introduced us. But he was kinda protective and snappy. Which was funny cause he was a big guy with lots of muscle and a shaved head. I felt he wanted to try and beat me up.
So this was a bust. I think if I had asked for her number 15 seconds earlier she could have given it without her boyfriend seeing. But when he showed up he pulled her away and said they had to go.

The forth On my way home I was this blonde girl who definitely had put lots of work to make her self stunning. I went direct again (on the street I didn't see another option) I have her a compliment on her style and told her it shows she takes care of the way she looks and i stunning. She smiled warmly and thanked me for the compliment. But she said she wished you can talk but she was late for university and had to hurry. She went away to quick and I couldn't ask for her number.



The other thing is, on the biggest social media website in my country(it's big with girls from 14-20). And since the company/site I'm co-launching is connected to this social site, I made a profile a couple of months ago to check everything out. Yesterday I decided to make it a real profile and upload some quick info and put a 2-3 pictures of me. Today I noticed 4 girls had invited me to chat, and one invited me for a webcam chat. They are between 16-18 (I'm 21) and all of them except one are average, nothing spectacular and I'm reluctant to answer them.
But one is really hot she's called Stella. She's 16 but looks older (plus in Europe 14 is the legal age for sex so I can't go to jail ) She looks really hot: really cute face but in a naughty way, she's slim but busty and her pictures are provocative. We started chatting and getting to know each other a bit(she asking questions and not just answering, so she's actually keeping the conversation going). I noticed she had a tongue piercing and asked her how she decided to get it(deep dive?) she told me how she did it cause her parents told her she couldn't do it. I said "so you're a naughty little rebel, I like that" she then said she has another piercing on her belly button.
She just asked me to tell a bit about myself. Which university I was going to, If I had room mates or not. This tells me she realizes I'm 21(has seen my profile info) and doesn't have a problem with it.

I don't have much time left, gotta get back to work. So I'll finish this and continue working. I'll continue the conversation tomorrow and will propose we webcam chat, cause it's easier than writing. I guess talking a seeing each other is better than sending messages. I think it'll build some more comfort and then I can propose we meet for coffee/shoot pool/sth else, and see if she goes for it.