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Hello forum members- this will be my first post!
I have been reading GC for a few months now after first coming across the "How to Get Your Girlfriend Back" article.
I believe this fact nicely sets the frame in which I was viewing the material I gradually began to explore.
I have since read and digested a lot of the presented concepts- finding some to crystallise already held beliefs, extending some into new ones and in some cases it was only for me to discover that I decidedly disagreed with the position or mindset described here.
I have only very recently explored the forums and have quickly decided to register and post (though I am member of no other forum- as yet) though perhaps to contest as well as praise some of the ideas shared- I have a feeling that I will actually have many people willing to discuss these topics and look forward to hearing what people have to say. I can say that the quality of insights posted to this forum is most alluring, with greatest respect I suppose unavoidably going to Chase for his ridiculously consistent on-point-ness.
I will attempt to address the conflicts I find from a top-down approach- beginning the fundamental beliefs communicated in the website's message, and will try to add the context of my own thinking where possible. This is just the first of many.
This indeed brings me to my first conundrum-
Are two (or more) girls really better than one?
What I mean by this is that is what can be found to be the net emotional (+/-) difference between leading polygamous/open/casual/single relationship patterns as opposed to monogamous/committed relationships.
It is obviously assumed that if you are involved in a committed relationship that does not permit additional sexual partners then this should be respected - It is also therefore assumed that there is a distinct choice that must be made between commitment (for any given length of time) and multiple sexual partners.
This then makes us ask the question- which of these two competing set-ups is most beneficial?
It depends...
I know.
Still, I ask the readership what advantages (if any) they perceive to be of of having continuous multiple, dare I say - 'novel' sexual partners while equal sexual fulfilment plus, I might argue, a whole lot more can be found in a good, healthy and well-managed yet committed relationship. Perhaps I could be enlightened.
I expect that the emotional toll or potential 'blow up in your face' risk when ending even short-term committed relationships will be a major factor of avoiding committing whilst still in the screening phase.
However I have never been able to work out if the ultimate goal of GC's general membership is to finally find 'the one' and settle down?
i.e. is the ideal of a 'revolving door' of high quality women is simply an effective screening process playing itsself out to find the ultimate match and then adjust motivations into the LTR mindset?
With anticipation,
Felix
I have been reading GC for a few months now after first coming across the "How to Get Your Girlfriend Back" article.
I believe this fact nicely sets the frame in which I was viewing the material I gradually began to explore.
I have since read and digested a lot of the presented concepts- finding some to crystallise already held beliefs, extending some into new ones and in some cases it was only for me to discover that I decidedly disagreed with the position or mindset described here.
I have only very recently explored the forums and have quickly decided to register and post (though I am member of no other forum- as yet) though perhaps to contest as well as praise some of the ideas shared- I have a feeling that I will actually have many people willing to discuss these topics and look forward to hearing what people have to say. I can say that the quality of insights posted to this forum is most alluring, with greatest respect I suppose unavoidably going to Chase for his ridiculously consistent on-point-ness.
I will attempt to address the conflicts I find from a top-down approach- beginning the fundamental beliefs communicated in the website's message, and will try to add the context of my own thinking where possible. This is just the first of many.
This indeed brings me to my first conundrum-
Are two (or more) girls really better than one?
What I mean by this is that is what can be found to be the net emotional (+/-) difference between leading polygamous/open/casual/single relationship patterns as opposed to monogamous/committed relationships.
It is obviously assumed that if you are involved in a committed relationship that does not permit additional sexual partners then this should be respected - It is also therefore assumed that there is a distinct choice that must be made between commitment (for any given length of time) and multiple sexual partners.
This then makes us ask the question- which of these two competing set-ups is most beneficial?
It depends...
I know.
Still, I ask the readership what advantages (if any) they perceive to be of of having continuous multiple, dare I say - 'novel' sexual partners while equal sexual fulfilment plus, I might argue, a whole lot more can be found in a good, healthy and well-managed yet committed relationship. Perhaps I could be enlightened.
I expect that the emotional toll or potential 'blow up in your face' risk when ending even short-term committed relationships will be a major factor of avoiding committing whilst still in the screening phase.
However I have never been able to work out if the ultimate goal of GC's general membership is to finally find 'the one' and settle down?
i.e. is the ideal of a 'revolving door' of high quality women is simply an effective screening process playing itsself out to find the ultimate match and then adjust motivations into the LTR mindset?
With anticipation,
Felix
