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foggy

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Went out for a midday stroll.

Wasn’t long before I find myself sitting on a bench with a cute british tourist girl of middle eastern descent. She’s only in town for a few hours and is killing some time before she meets her friend to head out. We chat about the following:

- How my friend met a guy in a hostel and wants to bang him. She just wants to have fun. On the other hand, he’s trying to develop a deep connection with her. She’s worried that if she sleeps with him he’ll be clingy after.

- How Colombia is a sexually liberated place and the Colombians don’t have any hangups regarding sex, they feel more allowed compared to Canadians and Peruvians…and this causes sex to be a lot more fun in Colombia.

- That you can’t always assume the sex is gonna be good just because youre attracted to someone

- my staple: How my friend grew up in a religious household, and now she's started seeing a new guy but she's worried she's gonna feel sexual shame for taking the next step with him

She’s sexually engaged, but something interesting happens in the middle of all these frames: Her mouth opens up wide in a big yawn, the engagement instantly disappears, and she immediately tries to set me up with her friend [the same one she’s waiting for!] who, she says, is solely looking to get laid.

Well I didn’t follow my instincts so this yawn was understandable. I was feeling a strong urge to sexually qualify her, yet I held back due to hesitancy. So as the qualification window closed…I removed myself as an immediate sexual option for her. She got bored and tried to set me up to try with her friend who was in need. I suspect other reasons too.

Wasn’t a huge issue tho as I continued setting more sexual frames and she perked back up again. Then she starts reaching closer to me and randomly she says, “wheres a good place to eat around here?” Ok!

Moving Somewhere Else

I turn on my new DECISIVE MINDSET and off we go on a walk to the convenience store so I can grab a drink.

On the way there and in the store though, she starts furiously frame grabbing and teasing me, like a machine gun! This is the price I gotta pay for earlier…and I don't have it in me for this. My DECISIVE MINDSET sputters out as I retreat into a neutral position.

After leaving the store, we start walking towards my place…and once again, I have this overwhelming urge, like an itch, to invite her over. So I start chewing on how to phrase the ask based on the situation…1...2...3...the seconds are passing by. Then

Her: Hey wait where are we going. I can’t be going this way. I need to meet my friend for lunch!

And that’s where this ends. I grab her number and walk home alone, excitedly, because I get further and further every time. And with recent mindset and medication changes, things are going great!
 
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Tribal Elder
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If the girl yawn you need to address it and call her out on it....if is not because she is tired is cause she is bored..but redgardless needs to be called out and addressed.... by doing that you make them feel self concious and they will apologize. .
 

StrayDog

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If the girl yawn you need to address it and call her out on it....if is not because she is tired is cause she is bored..but redgardless needs to be called out and addressed.... by doing that you make them feel self concious and they will apologize. .
"Keep yawning like that and we're gonna have to put your ass to sleep"

It's amazing how much of the game is about just addressing the thing (all be it in a savvy way) rather than skirting the issue.
 
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