My 'Game' Cheat Sheet.

[dcl]

While cleaning out a desk/dresser of mine I found an old cell phone (BlackBerry Bold). I charged it up and started to explore and came across what I would call a ‘cheat sheet’ I made in a notepad-app about three years ago.

I rearranged the rough content to have some-what of a flow to it. Hope you enjoy…

-statements make educated guesses and are far more engaging
-effective language = speaking with fewest words possible while still maintaining your meaning and intent
-women do not see features they see how you present yourself
-women do not hear words they hear your intentions
-talk louder, then louder than that
-always make people break eye contact with you before you break it with them
-when engaging in conversation, suppress the urge until its your turn (one-up-ing)
-lean back
-do not lean forward
-watch others
-do not put head down
-pause, relax and slow down
-do not laugh at things you do not find funny
-take up more space
-stop approval seeking
-my boundary/frame is established, eg. “I value honesty, curiosity, education, intelligence and authenticity, etc.”
-keep your approval, keep your power
-project self-image and beliefs
-honest signals to practice
-do not stare, moral looking time
-dominant and confident posture and walk
-slower than usual movements and gestures
-be conscious of your body language until it becomes unconscious
-allow her to orient her body to you
-tone of voice, “hey what up”
-rub a girls back while hugging, do not pat
-physical escalation
-eye contact
-verbal contact
-hand to arm
-hand to shoulder
-shoulder to hip
-hip to leg
-face to face
-mouth to mouth
-things to talk about
-F.O.R.D (good things to talk about)
-Family, Occupation, Recreation and Dreams
-R.A.P.E (would not recommend using these as talking points)
-Religion, Abortion, Politics and Economics
-the inflection of your voice, do your statements sound like questions?
-be aware of the strength you finish your sentences with, some people trail off when they do not think others are listening
-ignore her beauty
-keep your eyes at normal resting size, if not a little bit tighter than usual
-while making eye contact do not over focus on one eye, move back and forth, find your rhythm
-soften your gaze to the point you can comfortably see both eyes with out focusing on either one
-smile big with your whole face, like you just saw your best friend for the first time in a year
-breath from your belly
-before an act or action we need oxygen as fuel
-draw air into the bottom portion of your lungs before the chest muscles expand and draw further air into the upper portion
-funny shit-test responses to “do you play video games?”
-“no I use mature media modules”
-“no I dabble in adult entertainment simulations”
-quotes
-“No persons time, attention or companionship is more valuable than your own.”
-“You cannot allow your ego to become attracted to receiving specific reactions and responses from people.”
-“What you make yourself to be is a choice. What happens to you as a result of what you are, is not.”
-“Whatever it is you are feeling is a perfect reflection of what is in the process of becoming.”
-“Confidence is the reward for being Courageous.”
-“Men have approach anxiety and women have last-minute-resistance anxiety.”
-have preferences to create your identity
-if a guy is looking your girl up-and-down
-“Chief, eyes on your own paper.”
-keep moving on, but preserve what works

Enjoy. -dcl

 

[Franco]

Good list here, DCL. Thanks for sharing. =)

- Franco

 

[dcl]

Thanks Franco.

 

[xilb51x]

nice list!

 

[dcl]

Glad you like it!
Cheers.

 

[Mr.Rob]

Can you explain "keep your approval, keep your power" please?

Liking the check list btw.

-Rob

 

[dcl]

Hey Rob.

"Keep your approval, keep your power."

I can see how it might be a little confusing as 'keep your approval, keep your power' is two lines down from 'stop approval seeking'.

'Stop approval seeking' is self explanatory, as I am sure you know, but in case someone does not, basically don't be needy. Do not let your ego expect certain reactions and responses from people (also in list).

I remember watching a david deangelo dvd about three years ago that was quite long and heavy on theory, anyways, there was a section that talked about keeping your power as a man. Amazing if you can find it.

'keep your approval...' - if you have already established boundaries for yourself and other people (very important) which is to say you have acquired manly-preferences to create your identity, then people will notice, in most situations you will have been 'pre-approved' of by others. NOTE: Remember this is not to say that you must be seeking approval its just that given that you are perceived higher status and alpha you will be accepted into the group WAY easier. You now have (some) power.

'...keep your power.' - basically your sticking with the groups perceived approval of you, your power. Once accepted into the group you simply continue holding that power or Frame, this is when the power is no longer perceived but understood and accepted. Holding Frame is of the utmost importance when dealing with friends, family, coworkers and in this case, women.

Keeping any approval or power you may have acquired is going to be easier if you have characteristics like honesty, loyalty, humility etc. These are also good things to look for in other people, especially women you consider for a LTR or SLTR.

I hope that answered your question. -dcl

 

[Lucid]

Hi, new to these forums, and have just been reading articles on girlschase for a few days (great stuff), but I skimmed through your list and saw this

-funny shit-test responses to “do you play video games?”
-“no I use mature media modules”
-“no I dabble in adult entertainment simulations”

And it got me thinking because I've normally been a guy who's been gaming a bit, and quite a lot for some periods - but nowadays I'm focusing on other things and I never really felt like gaming was a big part of me and I don't want to be identified too much with it. So I started thinking of what I could possibly respond with should I be asked if I am playing computer games. I liked the funny tone in your suggestions there, but I didn't feel it would be something I would say personally. So I thought a response to it for me could be something like: "Not much, but I could probably beat you in a computer game.."

What do you think? I'm thinking it might sound a bit clichè, but at the same time I also think it would be a fun thing to say with some humour. It also seems dominant without making me seem like a nerd, I think. And to be clear, I'm definitely a beginner with women, I'm on day 3 on the beginner book and I read about "Game" today and I've yet to start dating. Also, I hope my English is okay enough, because I haven't been writing English in some time.

 

[dcl]

Hi Lucid.

Having other shit to do other than pick-up women and video game is great. Whether its fitness, a couple of part-time jobs, rec-sports, physically-active hobbies etc. Not only is it good for your physical self-development but it will help you with your interactions with people, namely, women.

Right on! for focusing on other things.

"Not much, but I could probably beat you in a computer game.."

Good response. I would drop the probably. Chances are she won't play video games that often, if at all, so assume you could beat her. If you genuinely believe you can beat her in a video game, and when delivered with good-strong-eye-contact in combination with a sexy smile (mouth shut), you may come off as a confident and funny man, and perhaps, a man she is interested in.

I am not any seasoned player or anything like that. I know what works for me. I am an adequately-socially collaborated late-twenty-something year old male. I am also pouring through the archives of GirlsChase, like yourself, and loving it. I recommend reading (then applying) the articles on Eye Contact, Law Of Least Effort, Conversational Skills like baiting and deep diving (just to name a few), Becoming a Dominant Man, and many many more. OH! and if you haven't already I STRONGLY recommend reading everything you can (until its drilled into your brain) on Abundance Mentality.

Abundance Mentality is one of the hardest concepts for me to implement. Not to say I don't understand it, it makes SO much sense. Its just that all of the bullshit-Disney social stigmas and beliefs about male-female dating and mating where ingrained into my head so hard as a young boy up until fairly recently (last three years), that it is proving difficult to shake them from my unconscious processes. Get your fundamentals down. Practice makes perfect. Have fun. Never stop gaming (women and people that is ha). -dcl

 

[Lucid]

Thanks for the good feedback.

I will consider dropping "probably". However, English is not the spoken language in my country, so in my language the word "probably", will likely not be as prominent in that sentence as it might have been in English, and I might for that reason say it with the "probably". Plus, I'm not trying to start a competition, I simply want to have a witty response to that question in a way that doesn't make it seem like I'm putting a lot of effort into ridding myself of that gamer-label. I don't really care whether she beats me in a video game or not (not until it actually happens, anyway . Nonetheless, good thoughts, appreciate it.

And of course, I have nothing against gaming, I just find that it's often (though not always) a counter-productive activity for me to do. Maybe it's because I tend to just play the same games over and over again.

The Disney-movie male-female image has definitely not helped my understanding of women either. I feel like I just woke up, or am about to, because I used to be the "why the hell doesn't she like me when I've been so nice to her" kind of guy. And it made me so miserable. That's why I read several articles on here every day and make it my main objective to get better with women. What Chase Amante writes makes so much sense that I sometimes just have to laugh. However crazy that sounds. I will definitely look into those articles you mentioned. And for the record, I'm in the early twenties myself.