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Hey guys,
Looking for some general ideas you might have on taking things to the next level. I've been thinking about a few things lately I want to improve on.
1) Giving myself "permission"
Sounds kinda silly doesn't it? There are certain times, places, environments I feel totally comfortable and at ease doing this. Just the other night I almost amazed myself I was at a venue I am pretty familiar with and chatting with a friend when I caught eyes with a cute brunette. As if almost on auto-pilot I stood there and just extended my arm and beckoned her to come over. She complied and it was pretty obvious she dug the confidence to do that. The rest was a piece of cake.
But I was out last night too in a new place... I didn't know this place yet and for some reason the idea of doing the same thing just wasn't working for me. I felt I couldn't. I'm not sure why... but if I am comfortable in a certain place or environment I feel ultra confident but the opposite is also true when something seem unfamiliar.
2) "This is my world" attitude.
Actually I'm not sure Chase has written anything on this and it might be a really great article if he did. I feel like the most successful people in life are those who seem to just have the attitude that it's their world and the rest of us are just living in it. Instead of sometimes shying away from something with too many "what if's", usually surrounding "What will she think of me", etc... they just don't care. The world exists for them, like a video game or something. The only thing that exists or matters is what they see in front of them. If a girl is not interested... for example... it doesn't matter, who cares what she thinks, this is "MY" world, she's just living in it.
I don't know why but sometimes I have this and sometimes I'm also not feeling it. Does anyone know of any good resources on maintaining this? I feel it's so powerful.
3) Self-worth.
Same, this is something that comes and goes with me. There are times I feel confident and can't believe any girl would rather another guy. But of course, sometimes you just come across those girls you perceive as your "10" and all of a sudden you come down to earth a little and feel like you're not on the same level. It's an attitude also I guess but I difficult one to maintain, it can be situational... but I need to work on this too.
Anyway, that's my rambling for Sunday evening... any and all comments appreciated.
E.
Looking for some general ideas you might have on taking things to the next level. I've been thinking about a few things lately I want to improve on.
1) Giving myself "permission"
Sounds kinda silly doesn't it? There are certain times, places, environments I feel totally comfortable and at ease doing this. Just the other night I almost amazed myself I was at a venue I am pretty familiar with and chatting with a friend when I caught eyes with a cute brunette. As if almost on auto-pilot I stood there and just extended my arm and beckoned her to come over. She complied and it was pretty obvious she dug the confidence to do that. The rest was a piece of cake.
But I was out last night too in a new place... I didn't know this place yet and for some reason the idea of doing the same thing just wasn't working for me. I felt I couldn't. I'm not sure why... but if I am comfortable in a certain place or environment I feel ultra confident but the opposite is also true when something seem unfamiliar.
2) "This is my world" attitude.
Actually I'm not sure Chase has written anything on this and it might be a really great article if he did. I feel like the most successful people in life are those who seem to just have the attitude that it's their world and the rest of us are just living in it. Instead of sometimes shying away from something with too many "what if's", usually surrounding "What will she think of me", etc... they just don't care. The world exists for them, like a video game or something. The only thing that exists or matters is what they see in front of them. If a girl is not interested... for example... it doesn't matter, who cares what she thinks, this is "MY" world, she's just living in it.
I don't know why but sometimes I have this and sometimes I'm also not feeling it. Does anyone know of any good resources on maintaining this? I feel it's so powerful.
3) Self-worth.
Same, this is something that comes and goes with me. There are times I feel confident and can't believe any girl would rather another guy. But of course, sometimes you just come across those girls you perceive as your "10" and all of a sudden you come down to earth a little and feel like you're not on the same level. It's an attitude also I guess but I difficult one to maintain, it can be situational... but I need to work on this too.
Anyway, that's my rambling for Sunday evening... any and all comments appreciated.
E.
