Hello everyone on gc. I posted an article previously where I talked about my limitations and I'm glad I did. Richard's comment made me realise I had a trace of victim mentality and Slay (I hope I got his name) challenged me when he revealed that even though he was underage, broke and sick, he was still heading out to cold approach. (I know it's coming quite late but how did it go?) He was determined to learn pick up (I'm glad they commented). So I dug up the articles on victim mentality and 100 hour rule. I have decided that once school resumes next month I'll follow the 100 hour rule for pick while I still study hard for my grades. My two focus would be: academics and pick up. Although I might face obstacles, my mindset would be set on"how can I...?".
That being said, this post is on something different - narcissism. I have a much older elder brother who had lived in the West for so many years. He returned about a year and some months ago. As he got back, I learnt a whole lot from him. He helped me get past being too religious and introduced the concept of being spiritual rather than religious. This concept is that everyone should seek for God personally rather than letting religions doctrines control and restrict your life. It was golden. It helped me get past my over religious phase.
Here's where the problem lies; he's a narcissist and so am I (the greatest men in the world have mostly been narcissist in nature who were very ambitious. From Alexander the great to Columbus to Steve Jobs and Donald Trump. There, lies the beauty of narcissism). But the good thing about mine is that it comes with a high degree of empathy as I try to understand the people around me while still holding some strong believes. Now my brother has all of a sudden changed his believes and has become religious (he calls it being spiritual as he does not follow the outrageous religious doctrines churches adopt here. He practises it in a way that makes him free to indulge). He now reads the bible every time and is so particular about attending church services. It would have been kinda ok if he kept it to himself, but no. He wants me to join him. He tells me that I need to be spiritual and that every successful man has a degree of spirituality as he has some strong believes. He said those born in China practise Buddhism, for Indians Hinduism and as long as I'm in my country I must be fully Christian. Yea he's pretty much trying to ram his believes down my throat. I know being spiritual is quite necessary (why do you think people do yoga and meditate. I plan on learning the art of meditation). The truth is I'm not 100% sure if God exist. Neither do I know if heaven and hell exists (I doubt that one though). Still I choose to let the believe in God stay. It's also quite dangerous to move from being very religious like I was, to atheism as it can have a psychological effect on the individual. He'll feel empty, betrayed and may become depressed.
I feel really bad that my bro is moving towards this direction as he's someone I love and respect. I have tried speaking against it, but as a narcissist, he believes his ideas are always right ( and that's almost correct as I have adopted most of his believes which are quite logical and intelligent, and they set me on a path to self improvement). He's making things unbearable as he's becoming quite religious. This has been what I've been running from as my parents are too religious, same with my environment...heck, my country is super religious. I remember he and I used to find faults in religion and how it's misleading people in my country. We both used to agree that people need to pray less and act more. The funny thing is that when two narcissist first meet they admire each other for their ambitious nature, a kinda game recognise game. But soon they'd start having misunderstandings due to their opposing strong believes. I'm trying to find my own path and when someone keeps on trying to convert me to my old ways that I hate so much, it irritates me. I know I only have a few weeks to school resumption, but I'm scared he might convert me. He did it the first time, what makes me sure he can't do it again. Everyone seems to have an idea of how you should live your life and they claim it's coz they love you that's why they want you to adhere to their advice. Well guess what? I'm gonna fucking live my life the way I want to. I guess when you're young everyone tries to control your life. I have a lot to learn and as I grow older and pursue my goals and passions, I hope to meet great mentors (I guess it's better if that mentor is not family so you can easily rid yourself of him when you realise he's too egoistic and you don't trust his methods). The thing I've observed is that when you first discover someone who you begin to respect and believe you tend to not observe his shortcomings (especially if he's very charismatic and speaks with passion), but with time you'll realise that because he's human he still has faults. I hope that as I keep on improving myself so will I continue to nurture my empathy. To all you narcissist reading this, do be careful so you don't drive away your loved ones and those who respect you away due to your lack of empathy.
God bless us all (whoa! did I just type that! Religion get the fuck off my head. hehe). Peace out hommies!
That being said, this post is on something different - narcissism. I have a much older elder brother who had lived in the West for so many years. He returned about a year and some months ago. As he got back, I learnt a whole lot from him. He helped me get past being too religious and introduced the concept of being spiritual rather than religious. This concept is that everyone should seek for God personally rather than letting religions doctrines control and restrict your life. It was golden. It helped me get past my over religious phase.
Here's where the problem lies; he's a narcissist and so am I (the greatest men in the world have mostly been narcissist in nature who were very ambitious. From Alexander the great to Columbus to Steve Jobs and Donald Trump. There, lies the beauty of narcissism). But the good thing about mine is that it comes with a high degree of empathy as I try to understand the people around me while still holding some strong believes. Now my brother has all of a sudden changed his believes and has become religious (he calls it being spiritual as he does not follow the outrageous religious doctrines churches adopt here. He practises it in a way that makes him free to indulge). He now reads the bible every time and is so particular about attending church services. It would have been kinda ok if he kept it to himself, but no. He wants me to join him. He tells me that I need to be spiritual and that every successful man has a degree of spirituality as he has some strong believes. He said those born in China practise Buddhism, for Indians Hinduism and as long as I'm in my country I must be fully Christian. Yea he's pretty much trying to ram his believes down my throat. I know being spiritual is quite necessary (why do you think people do yoga and meditate. I plan on learning the art of meditation). The truth is I'm not 100% sure if God exist. Neither do I know if heaven and hell exists (I doubt that one though). Still I choose to let the believe in God stay. It's also quite dangerous to move from being very religious like I was, to atheism as it can have a psychological effect on the individual. He'll feel empty, betrayed and may become depressed.
I feel really bad that my bro is moving towards this direction as he's someone I love and respect. I have tried speaking against it, but as a narcissist, he believes his ideas are always right ( and that's almost correct as I have adopted most of his believes which are quite logical and intelligent, and they set me on a path to self improvement). He's making things unbearable as he's becoming quite religious. This has been what I've been running from as my parents are too religious, same with my environment...heck, my country is super religious. I remember he and I used to find faults in religion and how it's misleading people in my country. We both used to agree that people need to pray less and act more. The funny thing is that when two narcissist first meet they admire each other for their ambitious nature, a kinda game recognise game. But soon they'd start having misunderstandings due to their opposing strong believes. I'm trying to find my own path and when someone keeps on trying to convert me to my old ways that I hate so much, it irritates me. I know I only have a few weeks to school resumption, but I'm scared he might convert me. He did it the first time, what makes me sure he can't do it again. Everyone seems to have an idea of how you should live your life and they claim it's coz they love you that's why they want you to adhere to their advice. Well guess what? I'm gonna fucking live my life the way I want to. I guess when you're young everyone tries to control your life. I have a lot to learn and as I grow older and pursue my goals and passions, I hope to meet great mentors (I guess it's better if that mentor is not family so you can easily rid yourself of him when you realise he's too egoistic and you don't trust his methods). The thing I've observed is that when you first discover someone who you begin to respect and believe you tend to not observe his shortcomings (especially if he's very charismatic and speaks with passion), but with time you'll realise that because he's human he still has faults. I hope that as I keep on improving myself so will I continue to nurture my empathy. To all you narcissist reading this, do be careful so you don't drive away your loved ones and those who respect you away due to your lack of empathy.
God bless us all (whoa! did I just type that! Religion get the fuck off my head. hehe). Peace out hommies!
