So, long story short:
I'm working at the reception in my local gym, and one evening some girl came to get a monthly membership. I promptly asked her if she is on a college (since we have membership for students/elderly that is cheaper than normal one, and also because she looked young). She took it as a compliment, but said she isn't a student anymore. Made a membership, gave her a key and she went to change into gym clothes.
After she came out she asked me about which times during the day is the gym least crowded. I countered that first, she should give me an IG, and then I will tell her. She said if I will tell her the times, she will give me her IG. Yet, as far as I was surprised, I persisted and asked her to tell me first. It worked! She caved in. So I honored my part, and told her the times.
After a few days, and a few goofy message exchanges (which she initiated), she asked me if I could coach her in the gym, and help her get into the habit. So I accepted.
Since my style of training was only based on a experience of training my guy friends, I was kinda harsh at her in the beginning, making sure that she didn't quit and keeping the track of her completing everything in her training regimen. She used to be quite angry and pissed many times, that I would be so harsh on her, but it didn't move me. She even complimented me on my veins since she works as a nurse, and said I look better than her (yes, she had low self confidence, we will get to that later). She completed her first day and after being sad during the process, she was actually happy at the end of it, thanked me, and texted me afterwards that she was sorry for being mean.
We grabbed a coffee later, and I discovered she takes pills for depression, has BPD, low self esteem, and considers herself a quitter. Also a red flag for me was that she likes to go partying. After that I believed I moved her in my mind her from potential GF to maybe FWB.
To be honest, one part of me wanted to help her lose weight, and see if I can become a good training coach, and the other was more pessimistic, believing that I was wasting my time if she would go for some guy, that wasn't even involved in this process.
I think that at our third day of training, she was very pissed, because she couldn't sleep, and was telling me if I won't stop training her so hard, she will leave. Before that I of course realized, that I can't be too harsh on her, but after that, I started to be more soft, so she wouldn't quit.
She also had a tendency to always write me after our training to tell me she was sorry for being mean to me. I considered it something that I didn't care about, so I haven't responded, and she assumed I must be mad at her.
The training became more fun for her, but I sensed something was wrong. She wasn't even giving me compliments anymore like she used to. I believe that around the fifth day, she gave me a call, and asked me if we would not cancel it, and I said that I don't care if she doesn't want to go, but I will go do my training. Five minutes after that she tells me she quits, but it was nice knowing me.
What do you guys think was the problem?
I'm working at the reception in my local gym, and one evening some girl came to get a monthly membership. I promptly asked her if she is on a college (since we have membership for students/elderly that is cheaper than normal one, and also because she looked young). She took it as a compliment, but said she isn't a student anymore. Made a membership, gave her a key and she went to change into gym clothes.
After she came out she asked me about which times during the day is the gym least crowded. I countered that first, she should give me an IG, and then I will tell her. She said if I will tell her the times, she will give me her IG. Yet, as far as I was surprised, I persisted and asked her to tell me first. It worked! She caved in. So I honored my part, and told her the times.
After a few days, and a few goofy message exchanges (which she initiated), she asked me if I could coach her in the gym, and help her get into the habit. So I accepted.
Since my style of training was only based on a experience of training my guy friends, I was kinda harsh at her in the beginning, making sure that she didn't quit and keeping the track of her completing everything in her training regimen. She used to be quite angry and pissed many times, that I would be so harsh on her, but it didn't move me. She even complimented me on my veins since she works as a nurse, and said I look better than her (yes, she had low self confidence, we will get to that later). She completed her first day and after being sad during the process, she was actually happy at the end of it, thanked me, and texted me afterwards that she was sorry for being mean.
We grabbed a coffee later, and I discovered she takes pills for depression, has BPD, low self esteem, and considers herself a quitter. Also a red flag for me was that she likes to go partying. After that I believed I moved her in my mind her from potential GF to maybe FWB.
To be honest, one part of me wanted to help her lose weight, and see if I can become a good training coach, and the other was more pessimistic, believing that I was wasting my time if she would go for some guy, that wasn't even involved in this process.
I think that at our third day of training, she was very pissed, because she couldn't sleep, and was telling me if I won't stop training her so hard, she will leave. Before that I of course realized, that I can't be too harsh on her, but after that, I started to be more soft, so she wouldn't quit.
She also had a tendency to always write me after our training to tell me she was sorry for being mean to me. I considered it something that I didn't care about, so I haven't responded, and she assumed I must be mad at her.
The training became more fun for her, but I sensed something was wrong. She wasn't even giving me compliments anymore like she used to. I believe that around the fifth day, she gave me a call, and asked me if we would not cancel it, and I said that I don't care if she doesn't want to go, but I will go do my training. Five minutes after that she tells me she quits, but it was nice knowing me.
What do you guys think was the problem?