Need help from guys who have had success pulling girls at college bars. Urgent!!

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

So I hit the college bar scene this past Friday night and I must say, I had a much better reception than I did. It was my first time in a while hitting the bar scene seriously as well, I am in a college town btw.

I ended up getting a lot of good responses:

1. Girls wanting to dance with me
2. Girls getting close to me and wanting to rub cheeks with me so they can say things in my ear (loud music was playing)
3. Girls being open and receptive to my approaches
4. One girl even told me I am a handsome guy

All that said, I am still caught in this whole being a college student in a college town dilemma. If I do not escalate, chances are I won't get laid, if I do escalate and get too aggressive, chances are I might come off as a creeper and have a bad reputation on the college campus. The past Friday night I felt like I was not being aggressive enough which might have ended up costing me.

That being said though, I feel like out of all my options, the college bar scene is probably going to be the best for me.

Here are some questions I have:

1. How can I make things more sexual without coming off as a major creep?

2. How long should I wait (how long into the conversation) while first meeting an interested girl before I go for the make out or make things sexual?

3. What can I do in the long run to give myself a better shot at pulling from college bars?

 

[Mr.Rob]

Re: Need help from guys who have had success pulling girls at college bars. Urge

First off glad to see an action taking post. This is good.

If I do not escalate, chances are I won't get laid, if I do escalate and get too aggressive, chances are I might come off as a creeper and have a bad reputation on the college campus. The past Friday night I felt like I was not being aggressive enough which might have ended up costing me.

You don't necessarily have to get physical until you both get alone together. You don't NEED to makeout with a girl, get super physical, or even touch her much at all to have her agree to go home with you.

However it does help establish you being more sexual which could influence her decision to go home with you. Thus my recommendation for being sexual without being a creep is to baby-step your escalation.

Start by giving a high-five and let you hand linger on hers (don't take it away). Take note as to if she lets her hand stay long. If she allows it to stay you can go to interlock fingers with her.

Now you're holding her hand.

Next you can slowly pull her into you. If she doesn't want to come into you just keep talking normally as if nothing happened.

I think you get the idea!

By baby stepping the escalation you never push anything to the point it would be creepy and as long as you keep getting green lights to escalate (she complies) you can go to the next level and next level with confidence she is going to be receptive to you.

This link here is a great beginner to intermediate introduction to sexual escalation mindsets without being creepy, with live examples.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V3Z4Nq0OrrM

-Rob

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Re: Need help from guys who have had success pulling girls at college bars. Urge

Got it, will follow that but something else I want to know, how do I appropriately make the approach? Like what is the best way to make the approach itself?

Usually I look around to see which girls are not on tables with guys and then I approach them but my openers I think are not that great. Like what is a good way to open the approach at a bar? Do I comment on something in the bar or do I talk about them?

 

[Mr.Rob]

Re: Need help from guys who have had success pulling girls at college bars. Urge

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i6H4877mev4

Do your best to be cool and provide value to the interaction.

When you approach these girls do you feel as if you're having an awesome party and you're simply offering them to come join the fun or do you feel as if you are trying to enter the girls party and her fun?

Always seek to do the former.

If you have the best opener in the world but your vibe isn't fun or cool she's not going to dig you.

If you have a really lame shitty opener but you're having fun and feel cool she'll probably dig you. I play around with this all the time by coming up with the lamest openers and getting away with them.

If you're really stuck you can go with:
a direct compliment
"are you single?",
"are you checking your stocks right now?" (if a girl is on the phone)
"I love myself! My name is Altair"
"YOU! Get your little ass over here and tell me who you think you are!" (use at your own risk since you're still new)
"My virtue of Megans law I'm obliged to inform you I'm a registered sex offender. My name is Altair" (I've surprisingly had this work very very well)
"Hi there I'm really excited to meet you. Whats up? How is your night going?"

Its not what you say but how you say it.

Good luck.

-Rob

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Re: Need help from guys who have had success pulling girls at college bars. Urge

I think my question was a bit misunderstood.

Like for example, bars are loud and people can sometimes barely hear you. I want to know how I should act when approaching anybody, female I want to get with or a guy I just want to chat with. Do I go up to them and try to chat with them or what?

I want to know how I can meet people in a college bar without coming off as a social nuisance if you catch my drift. What I am afraid of is that I am going to be one of those guys that tries to talk to so many people who might not want to talk to him and then ends up getting the creep reputation.

 

[ray_zorse]

Re: Need help from guys who have had success pulling girls at college bars. Urge

It's a pretty general question so it's hard to really summarize, I guess you want to have non-needy body language so you want to be quite relaxed, standing tall and not leaning in, and make conversation, if you mean what kind of conversation well stick to small talk initially and then when they say something interesting, expand upon it. I'll give an example that could be a guy or girl.

You: hi there
Him: hey mate
You: I'm Altair what's your name?
Him: John (you shake hands)
You: so you're waiting to meet some people here?
Him: yeah we are gonna have a couple drinks here then check out some other bars
You: oh, awesome... what kind of day have u had up until now?
Him: not much just hitting the office and then ending up here
You: oh right, you work full time?
Him: yeah I'm an accountant
You: oh awesome, I studied that for a bit, but I had to change to focus on my major...you're trained in accounting, economics, finance...?
Him: yeah I used to like economics the most, maybe if I join a bigger firm I could do more on the economics side
You: the small firm vibe is still pretty good though, you have to be more of a generalist and just pitch in to help where needed
Him: yeah, tell me about it! for example, today ... (blah blah, sharing)

So basically the idea is to kind of gently prompt and probe to get information about themselves, and make "suggestions" that they can expand upon if necessary, until you get them sharing uninhibitedly.

Where you take it from here depends on what you want out of the interaction, if you need further advice let me have some specific questions.

Ray