Need help with the elite eye contact thing (Video)

[Gamms]

Hi. First post!

I know I'm only a beginner, but I'm intent on working fast.
So I read the article on elite eye contact and I thought I might try and master the "halfway" contact early on so as to give myself a needed boost in confidence.
It's been challenging. Try as I might, I feel I can't get it down. I spend a good deal of time practicing using the recorder on my phone, though, so hopefully someone better at it can give me some tips?

http://youtu.be/vUW6Ynum9N0

I'm also experimenting with the special walk for the first time, I'll leave that for another thread though.

I think my conversational skills are already pretty solid, that's why I'm focusing on the nonverbals for now.

 

[PrettyDecent]

Welcome to the board, Gamms

Video was a good idea. So my critique: if it's that slow, the girls are going to think you are staring into space, and then staring into space somewhere else, and then you notice them. Try "speeding" it up so the whole thing is around 1.5-2 seconds total.

~Nick

 

[Gamms]

Welcome to the board, Gamms

Video was a good idea. So my critique: if it's that slow, the girls are going to think you are staring into space, and then staring into space somewhere else, and then you notice them. Try "speeding" it up so the whole thing is around 1.5-2 seconds total.

~Nick

I appreciate the advice! I have to keep working on this.
I just don't want to do the exact opposite: do it too fast and come off as nervous because my eyes seem to be darting all over the place. That's why I purposely slowed things down.
I'll have to work on perfecting this. It's harder than it sounds. It would be helpful if a pro at it would post a quick video, that would be awesome

 

[Gamms]

Ok so here's my second attempt. It might be a bit too fast, in which case I'll just have to keep practicing till I finally get it right.

http://youtu.be/VmZzUfFxEjQ

 

[PrettyDecent]

Better than the first one, my friend!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=02uvkZkI ... e=youtu.be is an example. From 0:03 to 0:05, that's when the action's happening

I think the idea is you're looking somewhere else completely, then when you move your head a little, and that's when you "notice" them looking at you. That's when you go for the full EC.

~Nick

 

[Gamms]

Better than the first one, my friend!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=02uvkZkI ... e=youtu.be is an example. From 0:03 to 0:05, that's when the action's happening

I think the idea is you're looking somewhere else completely, then when you move your head a little, and that's when you "notice" them looking at you. That's when you go for the full EC.

~Nick

Thanks again for the help.
All right, I think I pretty much have this one down.

http://youtu.be/meQ9YSWip-4

The only problem I can see with this one is the intimidation factor.
Gotta remember to crack a smile next time. Oh, and to take care of the acne. Lol.

 

[PrettyDecent]

Looks better man! Try it next time you're out and write an FR about it

~Nick