NEED Relationship Advice!

[Anonymous]

Hi All

Currently I am serving NS. There's this girl whom was my previous poly classmate. We are together for 3 Years 2 months whom just called it quits with me over Family Related Issues and Time Commitment as I am currently in NS. And as I do shift work my weekends are not guranteed.

She broke the news first to me via text as first saying she is considering our relationship as she was very stress with her studies, personal commitments, Family Issues as well as Extra Curricular Activities in school. We thrashed matters over massage as she was busy mugging for her Quizzes up in a few days time. I even dropped by her school to look for her unannounced to tell her how much I miss her and love her and we talked for a bit before she told me she needed a cooling period to cool off.

Honestly I was devastated and smothered her with messages of how much I love and miss her daily and even called her but to no avail during the cooling off period. I know I should not have done this after consulting some of my friends.

After 1 week she texted me saying she thought enough and that she came to a decision. That she don't think that we can ever resolve the issues that she thinks are problems in our relationship. I replied citing to meet up for her to break the news to me as a courtesy of our 3 years relationship and she agreed to the meet up after her upcoming exams.

I asked her to allow me to buy her a meal when she came over for the agreed agenda. As I really love her and want to chase her back to be part of my life.

Any Recommendations or advice you could give me to make this turnaround a success?

 

[Drck]

Sorry bro, she's gone.

Currently I am serving NS.
>>>> What is NS?

She broke the news first to me via text as first saying she is considering our relationship as she was very stress with her studies, personal commitments, Family Issues as well as Extra Curricular Activities in school.
>>>> She sends a lot of negative messages. Negativity in relationship is no good, she associates you with bad feelings and she tries to justify her leaving you...

We thrashed matters over massage as she was busy mugging for her Quizzes up in a few days time. I even dropped by her school to look for her unannounced to tell her how much I miss her and love her and we talked for a bit before she told me she needed a cooling period to cool off.
>>>> You are expressing too many feelings for her. Well, you shouldn't be doing that, your friends are right...

Honestly I was devastated and smothered her with messages of how much I love and miss her daily and even called her
>>>> Too many emotions. She is NOT looking for emotional guy. She is looking for a man, not for a guy who chases her.

After 1 week she texted me saying she thought enough and that she came to a decision.
>>>> Just the fact that it took her the whole week to decide already means no. If a girl is in love it takes her minutes to say Yes.

That she don't think that we can ever resolve the issues that she thinks are problems in our relationship.
>>>> She is breaking up with you. Nope, the issues can't be resolved and solved.

I replied citing to meet up for her to break the news to me as a courtesy of our 3 years relationship and she agreed to the meet up after her upcoming exams.
>>>> She's breaking up with you, and she is nice about it (since you are begging so nicely)...

I asked her to allow me to buy her a meal when she came over for the agreed agenda. As I really love her and want to chase her back to be part of my life.
>>>> She is breaking up with you, and you are rewarding her with lunch. Then you tell her you love her again. No good. You can't really chase her back, she is gone. You never reward girls for bad behavior.

Any Recommendations or advice you could give me to make this turnaround a success?
>>>> Yes. Start reading GC, start dating other girls, learn about Nice Guys, abundance mentality and not Chasing. Don't forget to read about rejections and how to "man the fuck up".