Need someone's opinion

[Wolfie]

So a bit of a backstory about me .

I used to work modelling ( i still do , but now I am an actor and a rapper ) .

So i was a director back then and would direct models. And actually launched many of the celebrities in my country, I mean they started off with me .


So there is this particular girl and yes to certain extent i am still in love with her .


So anyways this girl came to me and the first photoshoot she did was of a seductive one showing off clevage and all .She did not had great tits but this was a challenge I took her and taught her poses and stuff like that .

We were good she liked me too , 2 weeks later we decided to do a music video, that was a turning point a start off for her and me as an actor and not as a director.it was a love music video of course.

We had fun and she would hold my hand, slept on my arm during travel and was very loving and caring towards me .


Months passed and I asked her to hangout at my studio, we did and when i flirted she was a bit hesitant or i felt that wasn't reciprocated well . We spent entire day alone, she made me some tea and said next time she will cook a meal and bring it for me. And now some of you would say that i should have kissed and fucked her and all ofc I didn't and dropped her back at home .


Our music video for released tagged her and she said wow and then another time I tagged her she didn't reciprocate.


And ofc life went on and i worked with different female co artists , many of them were beautiful than her and they were very aggressive sexually.

I Posted a pic from couple shoot thing with a very sexy and famous model she was my co artist so it was actually a poster shoot and then found out that she just unfollowed me.

Yes i work with co artist who are always try to pounce on me and wanna sleep but I feel kind of disgusted by that and sometimes don't like that .


On my last shoot i worked with a white girl and ofc i am brown. And after shoot she said he ( aka me ) am the first lovely man to meet in this country.


But still my heart goes to the first girl , and recently got to know that she slept with some producers to progress ahead and I feel like it's true sometimes she would post pictures of her and some guys partying..

Dodged a bullet? I don't know, i world with many beautiful girls but still I don't know.



I just wanna know what to feel and what to think about it .......if you guys can help me understand my feels and come to a conclusion it would be great.



P.S. - it sucks someone else fucked that pussy and not me

 

[the player of games]

my opinion

1. you failed to escalate right from the beginning
2. when you did escalate, she effectively rebuffed you - "Months passed and I asked her to hangout at my studio, we did and when i flirted she was a bit hesitant or i felt that wasn't reciprocated well"
3. too little, too late, because by then, she'd already put you in the friend zone - "We spent entire day alone, she made me some tea and said next time she will cook a meal and bring it for me."
4. "We had fun and she would hold my hand, slept on my arm during travel and was very loving and caring towards me ." - you are definitely in the friend zone!

She knew what she was doing. Girls nearly always do. She used her physical presence and touch to manipulate you. But that doesn't necessarily mean you should take it as something bad. it's a normal way for girls to interact with the world to get what they want out of men. Some call that manipulation. Well, some would call game manipulation - it's what men do to get what they want out of women!

Sounds like you got put in the zone early on. The fact that you are asking whether you dodged a bullet or not and are racked by strong feelings shows you have a big romantic involvement with this girl - which is purely in your head. Well, if you are looking for a serious relationship, then yes, it sounds like you did. But first you have to ask yourself, what do you want? A serious g/f? Casual sex?

You are in a unique position. You have access to attractive women through your work, but it sounds like you have no system or plan for bedding them. Moreover, when you make comments like

Yes i work with co artist who are always try to pounce on me and wanna sleep but I feel kind of disgusted by that and sometimes don't like that .

then this shows you have some fixed ideas about sex and relationships. If you want to keep these ideas, then I suggest you are not going to get very far with the girls you meet through work, though you may get lucky. This is a seduction forum. Its focus is on seduction of women. It's actually called SkilledSeducer. The seducer is you. Not her. So you have to do something, not her. There is a superabundance of material on what exactly to do in this place. Use it.

But still my heart goes to the first girl , and recently got to know that she slept with some producers to progress ahead and I feel like it's true sometimes she would post pictures of her and some guys partying..

More fixed ideas. It sounds like you have the madonna-whore complex. There are good girls and bad girls and good girls don't put out therefore she is a good girl.

Wrong. This girl puts out. In fact, even before I read that part, right at the beginning I thought this girl will do what it takes to further her career. I have a friend who is in show business and the things he tells me these girls will do...

P.S. - it sucks someone else fucked that pussy and not me

This is very good news. You should use that feeling to do one of two things;

1. Feel good about the fact that you 'dogded a bullet' and continue your search to find a girl who fits your beliefs about what a good girl should be.
2. Change your fixed ideas and start living your life accordingly.

 

[mirror]

So there is this particular girl and yes to certain extent i am still in love with her .

What's most sexy? Confidence
Own up to it. Tell her you want her and see where it leads.

So anyways this girl came to me and the first photoshoot she did was of a seductive one showing off clevage and all .She did not had great tits but this was a challenge I took her and taught her poses and stuff like that .

Look, all fine and all, but you are comparing. Dont compare. Look at the relationship at itself. What is it that attracts you in her, what does not?
What attracts her about you?

We were good she liked me too , 2 weeks later we decided to do a music video, that was a turning point a start off for her and me as an actor and not as a director.it was a love music video of course.

We had fun and she would hold my hand, slept on my arm during travel and was very loving and caring towards me .

Sounds great, dont see an issue.

Months passed and I asked her to hangout at my studio, we did and when i flirted she was a bit hesitant or i felt that wasn't reciprocated well . We spent entire day alone, she made me some tea and said next time she will cook a meal and bring it for me. And now some of you would say that i should have kissed and fucked her and all ofc I didn't and dropped her back at home .

Well whatever, dont overthink it

Our music video for released tagged her and she said wow and then another time I tagged her she didn't reciprocate.

Sad for you, still missing context

And ofc life went on and i worked with different female co artists , many of them were beautiful than her and they were very aggressive sexually.

Irrelevant if you have oneitis or are looking for something longterm

I Posted a pic from couple shoot thing with a very sexy and famous model she was my co artist so it was actually a poster shoot and then found out that she just unfollowed me.

Look, if she posted a pic of her with some very attractive dude. What would you do?

Yes i work with co artist who are always try to pounce on me and wanna sleep but I feel kind of disgusted by that and sometimes don't like that .

All good, you are trying to justify yourself/your morals. No need for that. You do what you think helps you

On my last shoot i worked with a white girl and ofc i am brown. And after shoot she said he ( aka me ) am the first lovely man to meet in this country.

That's great, sounds like you had a good time with a very nice person.

But still my heart goes to the first girl , and recently got to know that she slept with some producers to progress ahead and I feel like it's true sometimes she would post pictures of her and some guys partying..

Look, sex matters 0 at some girls, the most important part for some of them is the safety they feel and the intensity of emotions or connection present with you

Dodged a bullet? I don't know, i world with many beautiful girls but still I don't know.

Look, life has no clearcut answer. Maybe you did, maybe not. In the end, it's not about getting the best of the best. It's about getting what is best for you and what is best for life. No checklist can replace real intimacy and satisfaction

I just wanna know what to feel and what to think about it .......

okay i have good news for you. You can feel what you are feeling. That's it. Nobody can decide for you what you should be experiencing. I can judge, you can judge, everyone can try to do whatever. But in the end, you are going to be accountable for yourself
Love yourself, trust yourself to feel the right feelings that go together with the situation

if you guys can help me understand my feels and come to a conclusion it would be great.

.okay, you want to get in touch with your feelings and understand them.
Complex. You could try mindfullness; set apart a moment in time.. and allow every thought to come as you as is. Every thought, every feeling. Search for the feeling; when you spot or feel a feeling, go become it.

P.S. - it sucks someone else fucked that pussy and not me

Yeah i feel similar. Life sucks, dont let things that dont matter keep you from what matters

Own up to your feelings, thoughts etc. Dont push away what is part of yours