Need to Spice Up Daygame

[BarryS1]

Should of seen this 3 months ago, but I hit a major comfort zone and need help getting over it.

Approaching girls during the daytime while shopping is not as fun as the first two months. That “thrill” seems to be disappearing from the entire interaction - approach to close. At first, the excitement of approaching disappeared after repetition. Now, the conversations do not excite me, even after getting a phone number.

My performance is nowhere NEAR where I want it to be, but I need ideas for making the interaction exciting again. My quickest gains were in the first two months where I was always scared with excitement. Approaching girls while running short errands fits my schedule the best, though I'll attend a social meetup.com event occasionally.

Anyone suggest ways to spice up daygame while shopping?

Here’s a list of tactics I’ve used beyond the Newbie Assignment:

-Pre-opening
-Eye-contact flirting
-Compliance (moving girls)
-Sexual frames (when I get a chance)

Thanks!

 

[Richard]

Barry,

This is a good sign actually =P

I know that I and a few other of the more experienced guys have hit this point, and it's more or less a line that exists.

Some guys when they hit their comfort zone where they can pull numbers, and bed women just stop learning and stop making progress. Those guys kinda continue to live with the feelings that you mentioned.

While the experienced guys, and the guys who become the best recognize that they're comfortable, and well... bored with doing what they were doing.

I hit this point and got extremely bored and lax with pick-up. I felt like there was more to it and that I was missing out. Day-game approaches became pretty repetitive, so what did I do?

I threw myself into situations where I was pushed out of my comfort zone!

Most day-gamers tend to go after their special type of woman (walking alone, pretty, etc...), and avoid the girls in groups, with their families, with male friends... So what did I do?

I direct approached those girls anyway: I picked up girls who were with family, or friends, or in a group to challenge myself.

That's what I recommend to you bro Challenge yourself by approaching girls in groups, with friends, and with family.

-Richard

 

[Marty]

Barry, this is just my 2ȼ but it works wonders for me:

Up your standards in terms of the girls you're choosing to open.

Go for the hottest ones you can possibly find. What this does for you (or it does for me, at least!) is rebuild the thrill and excitement, but on top of your newly-improved skill base.

It's not a coincidence that there is an almost perfect correlation between the girls who've actually gone on dates with me, and the cutest of all the ones I've cold-approached (all in day game). She can feel the sincerity, I promise you

-Marty

 

[BarryS1]

Most day-gamers tend to go after their special type of woman (walking alone, pretty, etc...), and avoid the girls in groups, with their families, with male friends... So what did I do?

Richard, that's exactly what I've been doing. Taking a sniper approach by targeting girls walking alone, carrying handbasket/pushing cart, and between 20-30 y.o. I did the mass approach method my first couple months and targeted the girls who gave the greatest reception. I tried a couple sticky situations starting off doing daygame, but my skillset has grown since then. If groups made approaching interesting for you, I'll give it a shot! In fact, I'll do only group approaches for awhile and report back

Up your standards in terms of the girls you're choosing to open.

Marty, by approaching groups, I can increase the number of attractive girl approaches during daygame. I admit to always passing by an attractive girl in a group for a less attractive one by herself.

It's not a coincidence that there is an almost perfect correlation between the girls who've actually gone on dates with me, and the cutest of all the ones I've cold-approached (all in day game). She can feel the sincerity, I promise you

I've had similar experiences! The less attractive girls sometimes ask if I was joking and/or just wanted a one-night stand after opening. I'm gonna start keeping track of that too, thanks for pointing that out.

 

[Nova]

have a curry

 

[Franco]

Barry,

Just saw this one.

Another thing that hasn't been suggested yet is literally to just take a couple weeks off from approaching. Sometimes you lose the motivation simply because you've been at it SO frequently, SO much that you legitimately can't muster 100% of your focus and energy to do it.

It's times like these that it's good to take a break and go have some fun with other hobbies you enjoy! Maybe go for a hike, or hang out with some friends, or beat that video game you've put on hold for awhile! All these types of things will be a lot more fun since you haven't done them in awhile.

...and that's exactly how you'll feel about approaching in a couple of weeks after taking a break: it'll be a lot more fun again.

There were a few times during my learning period where I literally just took a week or two off from thinking about women in general. It can get exhausting when you're learning (and having minimal to average success), so those small break periods really helped me to blow off some steam and take care of other things that I had been meaning to do -- and then come back at it at full force when I was hungry for it again!

Anyway, don't underestimate the value of a well-timed break.

- Franco

 

[BarryS1]

Another thing that hasn't been suggested yet is literally to just take a couple weeks off from approaching. Sometimes you lose the motivation simply because you've been at it SO frequently, SO much that you legitimately can't muster 100% of your focus and energy to do it.

Franco, thanks for the feedback! I've taken breaks between 7-12 days from schedule conflicts, but never separated from GC material also. I find myself reading the forum, book, or website if I did not approach that day. I'm sucking all the fun from you guys

I'm at the point where taking a break does not result in regaining approach anxiety. I'll look around the store, find my specialized target, then boom! It's not quite a sense of burnout, but a compulsion to be entertained again. I got a lot of energy and a need to prove something, but my venues have not been as exciting as the past.

I'll try Richard's group idea first and see if any changes happen!