Negative feelings

[RLS]

I was reluctant to write this and I thought I could deal with this by myself but it's been two weeks and these negative feelings have put a damper on all aspects of my life so I was wondering if I could get some help on what I could do to get rid of these feelings. These negative feelings are mostly anger and sadness towards a girl, but I think the anger is also towards myself. The situation is I found out this girl I really care about was hooking up/screwing another guy while I was pursuing her( I didn't know she was messing around at the time). She kept baiting me and I thought there was a chance for us, there was a point in time she was giving me a lot of attention( Only because the other guy was done with her and found another girl). But in the end she said nothing was going to happen between us and I found out about the other guy. I'm mad because in my head I keep seeing them screwing while I look like the fool who invested and cared too much. It's humiliating.

 

[Thedoctor]

RLS,

All you can really do is improve and meet more girls. The longer you sit around and think about this, the worse it will get. Read up on some articles on the main board and get on your way to becoming a better version of yourself. Start by reading (or re-reading) this one:

https://www.girlschase.com/content/cant- ... more-girls

Then post your field reports which will keep you on track in reaching your goal of meeting more girls and developing an abundance mentality.

-John

 

[RLS]

Thedoctor,

Thanks for the reply. I read that article and I recently read the "7 decisions" article and they were great; they made me realize I need to work on myself for about a month or two before I go approach more girls.

 

[Smith]

they made me realize I need to work on myself for about a month or two before I go approach more girls.

unless you're overweight or depressed, then you should be meeting new girls at the same time. It's the best way to get over that girl and actually improve yourself cause u need feedback from the world =)

 

[Thedoctor]

Have to agree with Smith on this one. But even if you are overweight and depressed, go out and meet girls! There's never a good excuse to delay improving yourself, improving your life, and feeling better.

-John

 

[Mr.Rob]

Thedoctor,

Thanks for the reply. I read that article and I recently read the "7 decisions" article and they were great; they made me realize I need to work on myself for about a month or two before I go approach more girls.

Glad you liked the 7 decisions! Though I agree with the others you should work on yourself by going to meet women. If your not obsessing over this very small matter to the point it's making you crazy I'd recommend just brightening a girls day it'll make your self-esteem/worth go up and make you feel better as well.

I'm mad because in my head I keep seeing them screwing while I look like the fool who invested and cared too much. It's humiliating.

Okay so I've done this as well and it is humiliating, but come to terms that you are the fool who invested and cared too much, and that you are humiliated. Accept what is, and accept that the event (of you not taking action or overinvesting) itself will not change though your emotions will (to something better). Also accept that it's the past and that you're not actually that person, it's just something that happened and not something to ascribe any meaning too. (I know that's a little new agey but try and follow me here).

Lastly, and most importantly, what did you learn from this? All this is was a learning experience (that's all anything is in life), so what did you learn? How are you better prepared for next time?

-Rob

 

[RLS]

Smith & TheDoctor,

Well I could lose some pounds since I haven't been as active for little over a month; I've become pudgy and soft lol unsexy. Also I don't think I'm depressed. It's just this incident with the girl and some other crap just all hit me at once so I'd say it's more of a slump. The reason I wanted to wait before approaching is because there is so much I didn't know and I want to absorb everything in most of these articles and be prepared before I approach.


Mr.Rob

Yea I'm coming to terms with it, I have to forgive myself. I wish she had been real with me without the lying and I wish I had called her out on it, but now I'm left not knowing how to treat her or her family who I was very close with even if I run into them years from now. What I've learned from this girl is that she has an inexhaustible amount of bullshit that exits her mouth cunningly to manipulate certain situations. lol but in all seriousness I've learned a lot: first hand how terrible over investing is; friend zone is a place without respect where you'll get used; displaying emotions is terrible for seduction; attraction windows are real; and moving fast with girls is how it should always be done. There's so much more.

 

[Mr.Rob]

The reason I wanted to wait before approaching is because there is so much I didn't know and I want to absorb everything in most of these articles and be prepared before I approach.

If that's your perspective, if you're like most people, you won't be fully "prepared" until like 5 years from now. You'll never be fully prepared, your ready just as you are. This is all you need to do: Read an article on opening, watch an infield video on youtube, and go out and do likewise.

Girls are not evil dude. The world is your mirror...

Your not the same friendzone worthy guy you were a month ago (or whenever this happened) your fucking prepared to handle this shit! Go out meet some new girls (even if it's just "Hi... bye") and come post a field report and tell us about it! I want to see what your game looks like homie! Go now! Your ready!
Newbie assignment! Get er' dun!



peace
-Rob