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[SlyGuy]

Okay so I will be twenty years old at the end of this month, and I will be done with College in two years. I will be graduating with my Software Engineering degree. Now to the point.
In my classes, which almost all are part of my major, there is about 1 girl for every 10 guys. And over all on campus there is about 1 girl for every 3 guys. I have not approached any girl on campus with the intent of moving things forward romantically/sexually (pathetic). But I have heard from other guys that they are all stuck-up and conservative; which I think makes sense since there is so much attention on them. Not only are there very few girls in general, even fewer are sexy/gorgeous/drop-dead, and if you throw in cute and fuckable there is a little more. But point being, not very many girls on campus. On top of all this, I live in a very quiet, small population area. I live close to Melbourne, Florida. There is practically ZERO nightlife unless I want to travel about an hour away to Orlando, but even then I am only 19 (practically twenty though). So what is there for a guy like me to do? Attempt a shot at the very few but existing beautiful girls at my school, (and probably become known as the kid that tries every girl), get a fake-id and attempt to go to Orlando night-clubs, hit on the girls at the beach? Not very many girls at the beach but that is where they like to flock.

I have even considered transferring schools to go to a school where the girl-guy ratio promotes my goals. It would be rough transferring though but I have seriously considered it, still am considering it...

I would like to know what you guys think about my situation and how should I handle it.

Should I just focus on school and exercising for the time-being, and once I graduate I will have plenty of time to find and improve my skills on meeting and bedding beautiful women? I do not like that option because I want to be improving NOW but I don't see a lot of opportunity to do that. Also a lot of women see college as a time to experiment sexually, and I want to take advantage of that. I am torn on what to do. Am I just being a pussy, making up excuses for not approaching women, and finding every reason I can think of to say it's my situation, not me, and I'm just a victim? I like to think that's not the case, but maybe I am..

Please give me what feedback you all have to say about this situation.

 

[SlyGuy]

suck it up and approach anyways?

I just ended a friends with benefits that was basically my only source of sex for 11 months, sexy, but she lied uncontrollably. And was not a loyal person, so I never actually became exclusive with her. But she's sexy and was always down to hook up for 11 months, so I took advantage. Plus she lives real close.. But now from lack of exposure to new women I am beginning to miss the simplicity and convenience that I had with this other girl. But there's no going back, I can't date someone who lies and has a past of cheating on her boyfriends, plus I want to continue to be a 'lover' to other women, and she is ready to move on from fwb, and frankly so am I.. Wasn't making any progress towards anything, just having easy sex wit a slutty girl.

So should I start approaching the girls at my school, the %15 to %20 of the people at my school that are cute enough to approach girls? Risk the increased chance of rejection and learn from the most pedestalized women? Attempt to go out to clubs, the beach, and cities an hour away? Even though I have a heavy homework load and work 14 hours a week. Also another option is local High School parties, the girls are old of enough to consent, but I wasn't extremely popular when I was in highschool nyways, and I don't like being close to, if not already, the oldest person there.

I would like some suggestions. I hope I am providing enough detail.

 

[Thommy]

Hey man!

I am no expert by any means (would consider myself early intermediate at this whole stuff), but just until recently I have been in a somewhat similar situation as you. I am 22 and just finished my bachelor at a technical unversity with about 20% girls and 80% guys. And although there were some clubs in my town, I'm a 100% daygame type and as you mentioned, girls could afford to be A LOT more picky.
During that time I spent a lot of focus on improving myself (Fundamentals + Fitness) and did some daygame, because yeah, part of it is just sucking it up and approaching, no real way around that. It's not a superb situation, but something you have to deal with obviously. For my masters I chose a university with LOTS of girls (about 60%, though that was not the only reason to go here of course), but it's just SO MUCH better here + I am improving a lot faster.

So yeah, what I would do if I were you:

1) Focus a lot on upgrading yourself
2) Keep approaching anyway, as I see no real other way from your description.

3) Maybe consider relocating. I can totally imagine what a big step and change this is, but I can now tell from experience what big of a positive difference it makes when there are lots of girls around and working on your social skills is one your primary objectives in life.

 

[SlyGuy]

Hey man!

I am no expert by any means (would consider myself early intermediate at this whole stuff), but just until recently I have been in a somewhat similar situation as you. I am 22 and just finished my bachelor at a technical unversity with about 20% girls and 80% guys. And although there were some clubs in my town, I'm a 100% daygame type and as you mentioned, girls could afford to be A LOT more picky.
During that time I spent a lot of focus on improving myself (Fundamentals + Fitness) and did some daygame, because yeah, part of it is just sucking it up and approaching, no real way around that. It's not a superb situation, but something you have to deal with obviously. For my masters I chose a university with LOTS of girls (about 60%, though that was not the only reason to go here of course), but it's just SO MUCH better here + I am improving a lot faster.

So yeah, what I would do if I were you:

1) Focus a lot on upgrading yourself
2) Keep approaching anyway, as I see no real other way from your description.

3) Maybe consider relocating. I can totally imagine what a big step and change this is, but I can now tell from experience what big of a positive difference it makes when there are lots of girls around and working on your social skills is one your primary objectives in life.

Thanks Thommy, glad to find someone whos been in the same boat and I appreciate your feedback. I've seriously considered relocating and will look into it but I have to decide if it is really worth it.

 

[tvktvk]

Hey SlyGuy!

Looking at things long term, relocating seems like the most logical thing, yes.
In the meantime however, I would suggest you try out day game in all places except your school!
Grocery stores, book stores, cafes, libraries, gyms, etc. If you have a lot of approach anxiety I would recommend
you use the indirect-direct technique while approaching, it becomes less scarier then. And always warm up by
asking random people easy questions to get you loosened up. Just like any sport for example

The main things right now though are your fundamentals like Thommy said, which you can work on by yourself mostly:
Fashion sense, physique and posture, voice, facial expressions, eye contact, just message me if you want help with any of these
(I may have no lays but that's mostly because my game has so many holes, not because of my fundamentals).
Just keep working hard but smart and you will get where you want to be!

TVKTVK

 

[SlyGuy]

Thank you tvktvk I appreciate the advice and support!

 

[ray_zorse]

I agree with both sides here. Location matters a lot, it's kinda just the vibe of the thing, some places make daygaming fun and self reinforcing, some places make daygaming effortful and stressful... however, you won't know which they are until you've done a ton of approaches in each spot to find your style
cheers, Ray