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Just got a new girlfriend who we've known for 2 months now, we started becoming girlfriend/boyfriend half a month ago. I am usually aggressive and i have never entered into a relationship of this kind where we became boyfriend/girlfriend and we haven't had sex within a week. Actually, most of my past experience, we have sex before the bf/gf relationship even begins. She is a virgin and I knew it before we became together and I told her I am willing to respect her decision to have sex after marriage, but at that time I knew inside that it is my job to seduce her and I will eventually help her break her social internal barrier (she is not into any religion btw).
Other than that what had bugged me was the following:
a) I introduced her to some of my friends and she had no problem meeting them but for her, it seems like she does not want her friends to meet me or she is not ready yet. Again, I rarely came into this problem, usually its the girl that wants me to meet her friends.
b) She is kind of introvert and her effort to keeping the momentum or conversation going is really low. It seems like its always me that put effort into keeping the conversation going and come out with fun activities to do together. Although I have no trouble doing that, but it seems like I am contributing way more than her to move things forward and she does not show a high amount of investment.
I have already not initiated a text message or call her for 3-4 days in a row and wait for her to initial contacting me first which she did. I met her last night and it seems like she is more passionate about me after me not caring so much about her. The problem is, I don't know if this is healthy since we only been dated for half a month and she is already showing minimal efforts/contributions. I don't think effortless approach is the right way at this stage since we are together after all and I should instead take the lead and help her lower her social barriers with family, friends, her past etc..
I don't want to appear as clingy but she is really way to cool and I don't like girls like that especially during the first few months of being together. I need advise.
Other than that what had bugged me was the following:
a) I introduced her to some of my friends and she had no problem meeting them but for her, it seems like she does not want her friends to meet me or she is not ready yet. Again, I rarely came into this problem, usually its the girl that wants me to meet her friends.
b) She is kind of introvert and her effort to keeping the momentum or conversation going is really low. It seems like its always me that put effort into keeping the conversation going and come out with fun activities to do together. Although I have no trouble doing that, but it seems like I am contributing way more than her to move things forward and she does not show a high amount of investment.
I have already not initiated a text message or call her for 3-4 days in a row and wait for her to initial contacting me first which she did. I met her last night and it seems like she is more passionate about me after me not caring so much about her. The problem is, I don't know if this is healthy since we only been dated for half a month and she is already showing minimal efforts/contributions. I don't think effortless approach is the right way at this stage since we are together after all and I should instead take the lead and help her lower her social barriers with family, friends, her past etc..
I don't want to appear as clingy but she is really way to cool and I don't like girls like that especially during the first few months of being together. I need advise.
