New Girlfriend Madly in Love with Me

[Troy]

So I now have a girlfriend that is madly in love with me. Now someone reading this will want to slap me in the head : I have never met her in person. How I met her? Well in the summer I was on a bus and a guy lost his phone. I tried numerous times to get in contact with him through his contacts.. I did but he wasn't interested in coming for his phone .One day his sister called the guys phone ( his name is Ryan) and I explained what happened, they don't live together obviously . From that day she would text me every now and then and sometimes call me late at night.

A few days ago she got back her whatsapp and started messaging me a whole lot. The conversations is a lot so I will list important details.

1) She at first kept telling me she couldn't find a boyfriend

2) Then said she wanted a boyfriend and a watch set for her birthday which is December 31...she wants to ring in 2016 with kisses and cute stuff

3) She keeps telling me how she is very worried when I'm on the road late and if I'm OK

4) She tells me how when I'm not talking to her, apart of her sole is missing. She waits on my texts and can't wait to read them, no other guy has made her feel so good ( even though we haven't met )

5) Yesterday she profuses her love to me

6) I ask her to meet up but she can't right now because her school fee is still outstanding and ALL money is for that.

7) She wanted to go to a football match with her friends but all have boyfriends except her. I suggest taking her ( a date ). She says no because we aren't together and it's a dumb match anyways. I tell her I'm going anyways and will go with someone else. She gets upset and starts crying.

8) Finally she confesses her love

I don't do this except with one girlfriend before in 2012. I asked her to be my girlfriend and of course she said yes . I like her too. But I won't say " I love ". What if I later didn't mean it and it was just a crush? I don't want to hurt her .

She texts me tonight asking if I'm OK and she loves me .

In this situation how do I get to sex as fast as possible. Her name is Ally and she is 17. She has had sex once two years ago. Very conservative and easy to get hurt yet loving with her words .

How do I set good precedent early? Like I don't want her to check up on me now and then later in the relationship she stops texting me. Tonight I texted her " thanks for being so concerned about my safety kiss emoji ". She wanted to know I was OK.

How do I NOT hurt her . Something as simple as me not telling her " I love you " made her feel awful because she claims I only LIKE WHILE SHE LOVES.

IMO she could be a good girlfriend . I just need to set good precedent ,get to sex and keep her happy . I could give her amazing sex to start the New Year. I'm looking to prevent fires here. I don't want to wait till I'm in relationship problems to fix what can be fixed now. Thanks

Troy

 

[ray_zorse]

She claims you only like while she loves -> drama. Bit of a red flag. But no worse than a lot of women's shit tests etc. Don't reward it.

Won't go on date with you, weak excuse (money, not an important game etc) -> she's shy. In love with the IDEA of you.

I would treat like Tinder. Had a 1wk flirtation with a hot 40yo Filipino living 1hr from me. We hit it off v well and created sex game/stories with lots of innuendo. I repeatedly told her I was deleting Tinder acct and would need her no. To stay in touch. Nogo eventually deleted and NEXTed. If your investment gets too high cut her off. Otherwise ask for date, wash, repeat etc.

Ray

 

[Lotus]

What the fuck bro.

Have you not learned anything. When are you going to stop pointlessly sinking your life into whatsapp crazies and live your life.

No amount of advice is going to be productive in this situation.

-Lotus

 

[Troy]

Won't go on date with you, weak excuse (money, not an important game etc) -> she's shy. In love with the IDEA of you.

Update Ray. I asked her again and she agreed to spend time with me since we are " together ". I told her I want to get Chinese then we eat at a restaurant or go to my house. Remember my logistics kinda suck . Well I realized that my neighbors aren't around much on Wednesday's so I'm going to push for first date sex . We eat at home then I make my move. She already told me she can't wait to kiss me. Anything I can do to make it a successful escalation?

Have you not learned anything. When are you going to stop pointlessly sinking your life into whatsapp crazies and live your life.

What do you mean? What's crazy about her? Have you never had a girl in love with you that she says the dumbest things? Please point out what you see wrong.

And whatsapp is not a time waste. Have you ever used whatsapp? It's similar to Google Hangouts and SMS . It uses a internet connection. It could be free Wi-Fi. It's just a alternative to SMS. It's a communication app, not a social media app. On Google Hangouts we can have group conversations. Same on whatsapp.

95% of people in my country don't SMS a lot. That takes money . Whatsapp is free . Phone calls are free as well. Their are different service providers and if I'm with company a and she has a company b number it's a whole lot of money to send SMS.

I really don't see why their is a hatred for apps like this.

Troy

 

[Troy]

Troy,

its not whatsapp the app. Its the way you're using it to meet girls. I have to +1 lotus here.

YOU'VE NEVER MET THIS GIRL! Thats why she's wacko lol. No cute girl says she loves a guy before meeting him in person. Go watch a couple episodes of catfish lol. She sounds like she's lying about a lot of things. Who would want to date a girl SO DESPERATE that she tells a guy she's never met in person she loves him. Sounds like a serious serious red flag danger zone sign to me. Its a red flag danger zone sign for a girl to say "I love you" after regularly fucking her brains out in less than 2-3 months in my book. No matter how conservative.

Dude, go learn cold approach pickup and journal it. Stop this whats app online nonsense until you are good with girls already.

Radeng

Well that makes sense. Sorry about that Lotus . So should I break up with her? Should I still meet her? If I choose not to meet her or breakup I could accidentally crush her. I don't want that. She says I " mean a lot to her ". Thanks Radeng

Troy

 

[Rage]

Yeah I had this friend when I was younger who would make a fake profile of a hot Indian girl, and then have all these guys from India messaging him even though the girl in his profile was underage.

And he’d lead them on a for a while and tell them intimate details and flirt and stuff; and then would lash out and say you’re a pervert and stop messaging me and shit… and then would play hot potato and give them hope again and ask some question about where they graduated from and the guys would leave another fucking paragraph for him.

Lmao it was all really weird and I didn’t find it funny as much as I did like weird and thinking like “why the fuck are you doing this or showing me this dude lol” (kind awkward in a way).

There is a moral or a theme in this though, and I think that’s that well online everyone’s a stranger, as they say “no one knows that you’re a dog on the internet”. Haha.

You can get anything or any odd person, some catfish kinda shit.

And if it isn’t that, this girl sounds pretty crazy and there is bound to be a lot of crazy online (ive been tindering lately and cant get through that shit without dying laughing ebacuse the profiles and descriptions and pics of some of the girls are so ridiculous and simply ludicrous).

There is something to be said too as well about the guys that are getting roped into these things and who keep messaging people, messaging underage girls like my friends fake catfish profile or just keep getting strung into and hung up on online girls and chatting endlessly and shit. What do you hope to get out of it?

Radeng and Lotus’s advice is sound, its much more healthy and effective to meet girls in person and build the skill, because even if you do get results or get better at online game it doesn’t really translate to real life.

I think theinternet problem can sort of stem back to a problem with internet addiction even, and go that far man; because have seen this with my friend who has all these crazy chicks into him that message and text him constantly and he goes on and on with them. Something in the guy’s psychology getting roped into this that is not healthy, is bad for them, and is making them run into these crazy chicks time and again. Maybe its cause they're online but maybe additionally because some psychology in them is attracting these girls to them.

Id think about that and differentiate from others and be a bit worried about that if I were tou ; and then look into fixing that and getting out more to meet girls. Online long game can be addictive and doesn’t differentiate much from other internet addiction or from porn addiction.

Kinda scary to see the internet addict generation social media and the net has been breeding this generation; I’d do all I can to fight to have my own mind in all this and stay clear of these things to the degree they form changes in my brain and seem to trick or shift or change my own mind.

When you have your own mind more its much more difficult to get addicted into this online shit. And then you just see things like this or run into crazy girls like this or have internet addcitive urges crop up briefly and you immediately think “why the fuk would I want to waste my time with that and do that”. And you just next and move on with your life.

Doing that and ditching whatsapp and going out and meeting some girls in the day would be the healthiest thing to do in my opinion. Maybe you can only do a step or two leading towards that direction, which if that’s the case, I still think is a healthy direction and on the right track. And where you want to be headed really.

Good luck

-Rage

 

[Mr.Rob]

How in God's name do you find these girls.

She tells me how when I'm not talking to her, apart of her soul is missing. She waits on my texts and can't wait to read them, no other guy has made her feel so good ( even though we haven't met )

This occurred and you didn't think this was odd or out of place?

Dude you're getting set up or something. You're going to meet up with this girl and instead be greeted by some dude with one eye, stroking himself in public, and a blood stained hatchet in his other hand.

Beware.

I would cut contact and the very next time she texts you, you text her this

Hello (Name) this is Troy's mother. We found Troy's phone next to his lifeless corpse that was ejected from the car in a serious car crash. You probably heard about it on the news. Do not worry or feel bad for him, he was killed instantly and did not suffer. We had his funeral/cremation yesterday and emptied his ashes into our garden to help grow our petunias so know he is still doing good in the world. Best regards

 

[Rage]

I would cut contact and the very next time she texts you, you text her this

Hello (Name) this is Troy's mother. We found Troy's phone next to his lifeless corpse that was ejected from the car in a serious car crash. You probably heard about it on the news. Do not worry or feel bad for him, he was killed instantly and did not suffer. We had his funeral/cremation yesterday and emptied his ashes into our garden to help grow our petunias so know he is still doing good in the world. Best regards

HAHHAHAHA I'm dead man.

But yeah Troy making up some excuse and NEXTing is prudent.

 

[Troy]

Dude you're getting set up or something. You're going to meet up with this girl and instead be greeted by some dude with one eye, stroking himself in public, and a blood stained hatchet in his other hand.

Beware.

Haha I doubt it. I actually spoke to her. I saw her in her college uniform pic and we voice message. Funny what you said though. I will beware. I also know she is really herself because I checked her facebook ( ps. No I don't look for girls on it ). I saw a bunch of her friends and family on the profile with her.


What is making me beware now is that as was said, she doesn't have a lot of options thus unattractive. Thinking about it now, yeah I think it's strange she would fall in love so fast . A girl with options won't do that. She would just meet me and see how it goes. See if I will lead from my experience.

I won't bother meeting her. First I should block her on facebook so she doesn't see me online then block her on whatsapp and SMS and phone calls. Then delete her number and move on .

Finally I don't want this happening again . Can someone write a post identifying crazy ? I know there is from Drexel but I think I need some guides so I can next and avoid before I even make a post . Stuff like if she admits feelings too fast next her , if she does xyz next her etcetera etcetera . I think it's important to know even for cold approach so I don't end up going out with crazy chicks. Unfortunately this tread has come to all this...another one... Hopefully my last :/

Troy

 

[Lotus]

Finally I don't want this happening again . Can someone write a post identifying crazy ? I know there is from Drexel but I think I need some guides so I can next and avoid before I even make a post . Stuff like if she admits feelings too fast next her , if she does xyz next her etcetera etcetera . I think it's important to know even for cold approach so I don't end up going out with crazy chicks. Unfortunately this tread has come to all this...another one... Hopefully my last :/

And it comes full circle my friend

The easiest way to filter out the largest amount of crazy is to avoid where crazy goes.... aka the internet, where people can hide behind false names and pictures and pretend to be whoever they want!

Secondly you seem to be unable to distance yourself from interactions and thus become invested way too much. Not necessarily emotionally in the girl but in the outcome of the interaction itself. Once you post, you kind of know how we are going to react which is why in your second sentence you said you wanted to be slapped. So try to look at these situations from an outside perspective. When you can do that crazy becomes A LOT easier to identify.

But other then that... the entire screening process we go through helps filter out crazy, the "games" we play via texting and on the dates themselves are all tests to see what the girls are made of. Developing your own process for pick-up and how you run dates, texting, relationships will naturally filter out the girls who fit in your "crazy" scale.

So once you get to a certain place you won't even run into crazy because you dropped their ass long before they even mattered

-Lotus

 

[Drck]

Keep it simple. Tell her that you love her too and that you can't sleep because of her - and watch how fast she'll disappear....