New Girls Being "Not into it" when you kiss...

[TheWrangler]

Hey everyone,

Had a question about how to deal with or how to improve, taking a girl home on the first or second meeting/date and them being not that into it (kissing back with no passion, not putting their hands on your body, etc) or saying something like "oh 'this' so fast." I should mention I have my physical fundamentals down pretty well, and these girls are attracted to me either the said it out loud or made it very clear. It seems like being immediately persistent in that moment is NOT the right thing to do just by these girls reactions, maybe I'm wrong about that. What can I work on to make this happen less?

 

[PinotNoir]

I couldn't find the specific article, but one thing you can do is physically put her hands on you and on your body while making out. I would also suggest the manhandle kiss here.

This is going to sound "rapey".... but, if a girl says "oh this is so fast," but is not physically pushing you away and saying "no," then don't stop. Keep kissing and massaging her body (face, neck, torso, legs, butt) up and down. Then go for taking the clothes off (bottoms first ) or fingering her. Girls will say these things just to make sure the guy does't think she does this all of the time and is a slut.

Value a girls actions over words.

It sounds like to me these girls value their reputation (possibly met them in social circle?) and also value you as a potential boyfriend after sex (so don't want you to think they're sluts -- which lowers their status as potential long-term mates).

There are some great LMR (Last Minute Resistance) articles on the main site I'd suggest reading.

 

[TheWrangler]

Thanks, PinotNoir!

I have read the LMR articles and apply them when appropriate, but in the situations I'm talking about you can feel the non-physical and physical vibe that the girl is not into it... I'm kinda guessing the most likely reason is that she values me as boyfriend material. So assuming that's the case, what have people on the site used/said to help separate themselves from being pinned as boyfriend material (I know there are articles and I've read them), but does anyone here have anything specific that helped them with this issue.

OR if anyone has things they've done/said (that aren't in any Chase articles) which worked in letting a girl know that you won't judge her for sleeping with you fast, that would be helpful to me and probably a lot of other people on the site.

Thanks!