Claude1993 said:
By the way, there is something I'm curious about. For example: I'm go for a regular clothes or something like that (not really sexy clothes one). There's a girl in front of me and I'm going to approach her while she didn't saw me, do you think she will "auto reject" me when I opening to her? (The reason I'm asking this question because I never seen or meet the PUA in my whole life, regardless what're they look like, or is he skinny or fat, or is he black or white, etc.)
You're making PUAs seem like a distinct subset of people with our own uniforms and whatnot, as if we're firefighters or policemen. I personally dislike the term "PUA". I feel like the term PUA negatively and incorrectly stereotypes us, similar to how the term "alpha male" reminds me of a douchey, fratty, obnoxious guy in tank tops, salmon shorts, Sperrys, and a sorority hat worn backwards.
We are simply men who are trying to improve our social skills with women so that we can effectively and efficiently get ourselves female friends, a long-term girlfriend, a wife, one-night stands, or friends with benefits. No lame pickup lines, no gimmicks, no tricking women into bed, and no overly flashy attire (I've actually seen a Steven Tyler lookalike in a purple 3-piece suit, white scarf, cowboy boots and hat, with sunglasses inside a club once...HE is what I get reminded of when I hear "PUA". I actually never saw that guy interacting with a girl that night). We may be tall, short, skinny, fat, muscular, black, white, green, yellow, poor, rich, whatever. Like I said, we're simply men trying to better ourselves.
I don't know what your definition of "regular clothes" is, but for the first two years of engineering school I wore plain v necks, straight jeans, and worn-out Nikes. That was my regular clothes, and that's what I felt comfortable in. Did I get girls? LOL. No. Ask yourself this question: "Do I want a girl who dresses well or a girl who dresses like shit?" I'm pretty sure you want a girl who dresses well. Probably one who dresses in a sexy way if you think about it; what would make a girl more desirable to you--a girl in a tight mini dress, a girl in volleyball shorts, or a girl in plain shirt and jeans? You'll probably find the first two girls the most attractive. Similarly, girls would prefer more a guy who dresses well. Sexiness is also a factor here; who do you think girls will be more attracted to--a well-groomed guy in trendy attire or a plain Joe in a plain shirt and basketball shorts?
I think dressing well is subjective. For example, wearing all black may appeal to gothic girls while others may ignore you. Furthermore, wearing a button-up shirt with slim fit jeans may serve you well among college girls but probably slightly less with professional women who would probably prefer more a man in dress shirt and slacks. I think the venue in which you meet the girl matters as well. The one opportunity I had in the first year was at a Sexy Joggers and Hunky Loggers party. I didn't have the necessary clothes to fit the "Hunky Logger" look, so I went to the party in a tank top and basketball shorts. I was on the boxing team at the time so my body was alright. There were 3 girls interested in me that night. I could've made shit happen if I new about GirlsChase back then =/Anyway, you don't want to be wearing a purple 3-piece suit, white scarf, cowboy boots and hat, with sunglasses inside a club. Actually, don't ever wear that. For a better example, if you're going to day game at a beach, then dress like you might actually go in the water or you'll look a little odd.
The girl in front of you...I don't know what context this is in, but this also depends a bit on the venue. In a crowded club/bar/party, a girl is more likely to be cold if you're dressed badly relative to the other men there. Also I think you are referring to a girl's initial reception of you rather than
auto-rejection, which is something else.
