New to Instagram game: To use the comment section- or not to use?

[Smiling_Stray]

So I'm a writer and I run one Instagram account for both personal and professional posts since they usually overlap (I blog as a way to brush up on my writing and generally write about my experiences since I tend to live a chaotic life that people seem to be interested in... fuck if I know why. I just know my ratings currently have a positive trend ) and I've noticed I get a lot of attention from women which isn't much of a surprise. I've been told I'm a pretty good looking guy, my stories tend to be somewhat sexual, and despite being a starving artist, I have some shinny things. Usually I just take the like/ view and move on since Instagram isn't really something I've ever seen as a way of meeting women and would rather just preserve a good image for my profile like I would at any workplace (thus, I've never used Instagram to meet women... accept a couple times where some women I met IRL gave me their Instagram instead of their phone numbers).

BUT it was just tonight that I got a very warm comment (that for once, surprisingly doesn't seem like spam!) on one of my posts from a woman I've never met that's also a writer and from what I can tell, she's fairly attractive as well. She commented a little late in the day and I currently just feel tired as hell. So I just decided I'd reply tomorrow but neither of us have many followers (I have around 90 followers and she has around 110 followers). I just watched one of Hector's videos about meeting woman on Instagram and I get that the general idea is to just DM her and get to the point where she's out on a date (although not now... it's corona time!) with you but I've also seen some guys milk it for what it's worth and talk to them a bit in the comment section and gain some more preselection from the comment.

So my question is, should I just outright like her comment and DM her in response or would it be better to reply in the comment section a little before moving to a private message? (a little like one would with day game, although granted texting and online seductions tend to go pretty differently)

All that being said, I'm very late for an important date with my bed- but in the meantime, any and all insights relevant here would be much appreciated

 

[FunGuy]

DM her something related to the comment, but create good context as to why you replied in a DM instead of commenting back (otherwise it makes you look thirsty). Don't sweat it too much keep it short and simple.

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

@Wanderer.o'7 dude! The one thing I'd add to @FunGuy response is like the comment before you DM or comment back. It acts like a pre approach (not that it's needed because she opened) but it's warm, low effort, rewards her for qualifying herself/investing and makes you look active on your page to other followers.

If you get enough traction on your page this makes a lot of difference and can act as encouragement for other girls to comment.

(Ironically girls don't comment much on my posts and usually go straight through dm)

 

[jonjames]

I do better using Facebook and snapchat. They aren’t as popular so women aren’t getting dm there as much. If you want to meet strangers Insta is good for guys who are hot and shredded or rich. Online dating is much better than insta for meeting new girls.

For your specific situation dm her. She is a somewhat warm lead. Put yourself out there and see if she starts showing interest. I wouldn’t push for it. Just be friendly. If you’re good looking she’s not going to be rude and will likely respond giving the circumstances.

I’ve been playing words with friends and get messaged on there from girls I don’t know. People are lonely now. If you’re getting a signal shoot that shot.

 

[Smiling_Stray]

Thanks for all the advice guys! We've talked a bit in my comments section now (exchanged like two messages as of now), she's been pretty warm thus far and I remembered hearing something about how it's important to be following each other before DM-ing so I've starting following her account (still waiting on her to return the favor as of a few moments ago). So was that something I shouldn't do in the future or is it really so important for me to wait for her to follow back before DM-ing (since as far as I know, she may never follow back)?

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

@Wanderer.o'7 dude! I'm pretty sure she'll follow back or she wouldn't have been warm on comments. The issue with Instagram is if they don't follow you your comment ends up in a different inbox to be approved, if they overlook this notification (I've done it myself when I've had to many notifications) then it can sit there for a while.

There's no issues with following them as an approach and it makes the dm warmer/expected. Typically if I follow them, they follow back and then I message. Arguably you can message, get a response and then follow them. You can always unfollow if they don't reciprocate.

(There's some issues at play with this platform for investment, I've talked to loads of people that regularly unfollow people that don't follow back or unfollow them anyway to have a higher follower to following ratio but that goes outside the scope of this)

Keep us updated

 

[Smiling_Stray]

Not much to report back on here, I started following her and a few minutes later she liked some of my posts (a fresh one and a couple old ones on my profile) and all the comments I left in our comment section conversation but didn't follow. Nonetheless I shot her a message and still haven't gotten a response since. My guess is that my message got overlooked in that inbox you mentioned @Fluxcapacitor

Hey, at least I got the preselection I got a few messages from some other girls after that

 

[trashKENNUT]

Facebook Dating with Great Pics

= God Mode.

really.