NewBeeWinner: Building a Lifestyle

[NewBeeWinner]

Hey guys,

Why I'm Starting this Journal

I'm started a new journal because I want to move on from the way I was being and start fresh. There was a lot of valid comments on my previous journal and I want to respond to those with action. I'm not where I want to be - and I most likely keep moving the goal post. I'm happy with my life, but I struggle knowing it can be so much more. So this journal is my shot at that.

My goal for this journal is simple: build a lifestyle. Build a lifestyle that supports my ability to meet new women, grow business connections, and provide me new opportunities in things like travel.

Currently

So here's where I am right now. I'm currently still living with my parents and am looking for a place to move to with a roommate. We've been looking at apartments but recently decided to focus exclusively on houses because apartments here are relatively expensive (the average 2 bed 2 bath apartment is around 1400-1600/month). It's more worth it to us to get a house so we're on the hunt for that. The goal for moving out is by the end of May - June, July at the absolute latest.

I work a "9-5" job that usually has me doing a lot of overtime for the first two weeks of every month (I'm usually working 7 am - 6 pm on these days). But after the first few weeks, it drops to being a normal 8 hour work day. After this, I usually go home to eat dinner and either work on my photography business or, depending on the day, go out with my best bud or meet up with my grandparents for dinner. For downtime, sometimes I watch movies with my parents in the evenings or go for a walk around the block.

I'm currently on a few dating apps (Tinder, Badoo, FB) and swipe when I can. I've gotten mixed results but haven't met up with anyone yet from it (but probably will soon, actually). I've been able to get laid once in the past 3 months since a FWB and I split paths. I'm not a fan of online dating and 10:1 prefer meeting women in person but haven't figured out the best way to do that yet (hence: this journal).

So my time's a bit restricted but I can work with it. I'm getting burned out just working all the time and seriously need a break from it all soon.

The Lifestyle I Want

As properly stated, the goal of my lifestyle is to meet more of the kind of people I want to meet. So what kind of lifestyle do I want to build?

There are 3/4 potential lifestyles I can see working for me (to varying degrees).

1) The Traveler Lifestyle
2) The Artist Lifestyle
3) Digital Nomad
4) Business Owner

Let's take these bit-by-bit.

Right now, outside of my 9-5 job, I am a business owner. I own a pet photography business and have finally built it up completely after 4 months and am now ready to start taking on clients. I also own an online proofreading business I am going to do on the side and eventually grow that into freelance writing or something similar (my focus right now has been on the photography business).

Because of this, I have a lot less time and need to be more selective who I spend my time with. I've been coming to the conclusion lately that I'm dying to meet some people who can enrich my life and share some of my passions.

Therefore, one group I people I want to surround myself more with is other business owners. I want to find mentors, people I can network with, and people I can talk business with. I can host networking events, community events, connect with local pet-based businesses, and partnerships.

With my proofreading business, I want to connect to more writers and bloggers. As part of being able to work anywhere with this business, I can work out of coffee shops, outside at parks, lounges, the library, or anywhere with internet connection. I will need to ensure I am active in approaching.

Of course, with my photography business, that is also an inherently creative profession. I can go to (and host) art gallery showings, events with animals, connect with other photographers, and host local training events.

However, I am also learning the guitar and piano and enjoy playing those during my free time. In this point, I can connect with other people who play instruments, have a small group of us that play together a few times a month at different venues, and meet people that way.

As I grow in my business and financial endeavors (like renting rooms or owning rental properties), I also want to begin traveling more. Therefore, I can take a couple of weekends throughout the year (or sometimes a few weeks off at a time) and use that time to travel to somewhere new. I've been able to travel a little bit, but not as much as I would like (I've never even been on an airplane lol).

In terms of building a woman "pipeline", there are a couple ways and places I can do this at: through social circle, online, the gym (MMA or workout), going to the mall, shopping, or on hikes (cold approach), and building multiple social groups. I could go out on weekends for cold approach to meet women in different ways (hiking one weekend, the mall the next, shopping the next) and line up dates for the week. This way, I'm not feeling the time crunch to meet new women during the week and can relax and focus on enjoy the labors of the previous weekend. I can use the allure of my piano/guitar/photography as an excuse to bring women home.

For girls I don't lay or hook up with, I will invite them to social events/parties and/or hook them up with one of my guy friends. I will also allow coach-surfing at my place. This will help build my reputation, credibility, and let me provide value to others in a greater way. I can also take them on camping trips, hiking trips, and open outdoor networking events.

Places I will rotate doing cold approach at will include:
- coffee shops (as I work on my businesses)
- stores (clothing and grocery as I need to buy things)
- parks (as I host events, trainings, or go out with a group of friends)
- bookstores (as I browse for new books)
- dance classes (as I learn salsa/bachata)
- yoga classes (possibly if I get into it and don't do it on my own anymore)
- public events (for weekends that I have nothing to do or there is a really cool event going on)
- out on vacation
- social clubs
- charity events
- stand-up comedy hours
- cool, quiet lounges on nights I want to relax or chill with friends
- the lake or outdoor relaxation areas (there a couple cool places I could go in town)

This is the base of the lifestyle I want to build unique to me and my situation. Getting to this point is the goal of this journal.

I will be implementing this lifestyle piece-by-piece and documenting it all here.

Here's to the future.

NBW

 

[NewBeeWinner]

Update 4/26:

Well this past weekend was a heck of a weekend - a mix of both good and not so good things.

Anyways, I've looked a lot more into the digital nomad lifestyle, including what needs to be done for my online businesses to operate in multiple states.

I can really see this lifestyle working well with me these next couple years - it even matches my 5 year plan goals pretty well. So I'm going to look at moving towards this further.

Step 1 of making this lifestyle: Finding a house (or multifamily home) to purchase and rent out.

I've put together all the paperwork I can on my finances needed to get preapproved and have been saving up for a downpayment. I know the type of loan I am going to use and need to interview some different lenders this week.

I have it on my schedule to interview with 5 lenders by the end of this week.

I am also going to work on selling some of my items that I no longer use/need this week.

Step 2 is finding a social outlet I can go to right after work.

I find that I generally am in a very social mood after getting off work (hence: happy hour) and therefore find it is a big blow to my energy and drive when I have to go straight home after work (just to do more work - although it's for my businesses).

For this, I'm wanting to do MMA. I did martial arts for years and years in the past and loved it and want to get into something a little different. I've found a place in town that does a mix of MMA, BBJ, muay tai, some wrestling and some judo. A mix of martial arts like this is something I've been looking for.

So the last thing I want to do this week is check out this MMA place and see if I like it.

Therefore my 3 goals this week are to:
1. interview with 5 lenders by the end of this week.
2. work on selling some of my items that I no longer use/need
3. check out this MMA place and see if I like it.

NBW

 

[NewBeeWinner]

Update 5/1/21:

1) Interviewed with the lenders. Figured out a loan assistance program in my state and am having my VA research some loan lenders that work with that program.

Once I figure out the top 3 lenders, my next step is to get preapproved and find a realtor.

2) Had some fun with trying to figure out my new $400 camera lens that doesnt fit my camera. yay! (sarcasm) but in all honesty, im realizing how hard it is to let go of things.

3) checked out the MMA place and it was pretty sweet. A little pricy but Im definitely interested

Overall been a great few couple days but Im pretty burned out with life atm bth. So its been a mix.

Next week goals are to:

1) Get preapproved and interview 4 realtors

2) Putting $ into my business account, model calls to friends/family, getting rid of subscriptions I dont use, selling some items from my to sell list

3) Create a digital nomad roadmap and determine next steps to finish setting up my proofreading business (now that my photography business is completely set up and focused on marketing)

With women, its been hit/miss so honestly I just cant focus a lot of time on it right now. Im happy but too distracted with how unhappy I am with my current lifestyle so first things first.

NBW

 

[NewBeeWinner]

Update 5/27/21:

Was on the edge of being preapproved and then had a complete change of course. Now I'm waiting until after I come back from Vegas for a week before continuing on my home search. I'm still a bit stuck between renting or buying or maybe buying some land and building a barndominium (something I just learned was a thing). This is not a great time to buy haha but I'll figure it out - I'm not giving up yet!

Tried to sell some of my stuff and haven't gotten too many buyers (got a few). Got my new camera lens and have been printing out posters for my business and figuring out where I'm going to post them after I get back. Marketing - whee!

Haven't been meeting too many women. I've gotten back to talking with the single mom milf (she's 40) and she has a daughter. We had a great day this past weekend and she's gotten more comfortable with my touch so that's going well. We won't be able to meet again until I'm back.

I changed up recently where I go for walks. I think I've worn out my neighborhood and the surrounding parks within a 5 mile radius. So I started to go to another place after I get off work and that's showing some hope.

Been online dating but I'm really not that into it. That's all I'll say about that. No new news.

But yeah. Learned about some new places from a buddy of mine to visit, including a nude beach here in CO, which I always wanted to try lol. I'm realizing if I want to get anywhere here - since it is soo spread out - I have to be willing to drive 30-45 min one way to get anywhere women are.

NBW

 

[NewBeeWinner]

Update 6/6:

OK guys. Got some more clarity on where I'm going with the lifestyle thing.

1) I'm renting. I've decided so now the goal is to find a place to rent in a trendy neighborhood by the end of June.

2) I'm taking a week-long trip to Texas, either Houston or another big city there, in September to take a vacation and see if it's a place I would like to live

3) I am planning my weekends for fun activities and for "mini-trips" to nearby towns to experience different things (white water rafting, train rides, cave explorations, etc.) and inviting people to come with me (and bring people along) - will invite girls who I fail to lay or will hook them up with friends

4) I'm going to the gym 3 times a week and joining fitness classes. Great way to surround myself with attractive women.

5) I'm starting two groups of my own - one is a weekly hiking group and the other is a weekly cooking class that I host. I can start the hiking group now and then the cooking group once I have my own place.

6) I'm going to go shopping for food at health food stores (Trader Joes, Whole Foods) to purchase healthy foods, meet women at the food store (cold approach) and to source women to invite to my cooking classes. Cost is for food and the group will handle different roles hosted at my place.

7) Going to trendy coffee shops, juice stores, or happy hour bars for an hour or two after work to relax, read, or do "administrative" tasks for my businesses like check email, plan things, research, etc.

8) Going to parties, festivals, live music events as they come up (just went to one yesterday actually)

9) Reaching out to women already in my social circle to see if they have any single women they want to invite to activities I plan to do

Now this is a lot to implement, but I also eventually want to:

extra 1) begin a small band group
extra 2) begin finding high quality guys I can connect with
extra 3) begin connecting with other business owners

NBW

 

[NewBeeWinner]

Update 6/20:

Alright. Well this has been a fun time of figuring out what I want to do because I know I keep changing it.

But basically I'm scrapping that previous plan. It doesn't work for me. It's that simple. I'm not going to go into the long-winded story on it.

I determined this morning after some deep introspection on what I really want that it is this:

- A harem lifestyle with MLTRs

Pretty much. Not the wild social circles doing things all the time. Just a girlfriend that I can do fun things with so I don't feel empty because I'm doing them alone and by myself. And then I can take her home and have sex with her at the end of the night because that's what I want to do.

And I'm realizing most of the guys I meet are actually pretty boring and I really just enjoy being around women much more. SO MLTRs work. But I also love meeting new people so I can still cold approach and meet new women without being needy because I'd be in a relationship as well.

Also, I found an apartment in a trendy neighborhood and I'm moving in next Sunday. So that's a win.

That's that. Time to get off the computer.

NBW

 

[NewBeeWinner]

Update:

Hey guys. So Ive been having some success lately - got my lay count up to 5 girls.

Also went on a date yesterday but didnt get her back home.

BUT Im going to take a break from women for a while (through the end of the year to be exact). If a woman comes into my life during that time, great. If not, thats OK.

Why? I want to focus on my businesses. I got a business mentor for my photography business and need to build up my proofreading business to begin making money since I havent had the time to.

Why? Because Ive decided 100% on becoming a digital nomad. I want to save up money for the next few months and slowly begin selling things and figuring out travel destinations.

Why? Because even my parents are looking to move to a differwnt state to focus on retirement. I dont want to move to where they want to go and I dont have much else tying me down to here.

Also, Ive had recent trouble with police again, am going through a massive depressive episode, and am bored out of my mind at my 9-5 job and of this city Ive been in. I told myself that would be the last 9-5 job I have and I mean it.

Time for a change there and I do not have the time to put into women that Id like to have. I cant do both.

So thats where Im at.

NBW

 

[NewBeeWinner]

Hey guys,

Its the end of the year and I've been reflecting a lot on where I am and where I want to be next year.

So I wanted to write this update on exactly that.

Right now I have a FWBs - which has been nice for this holiday season. I've also done a lot of the internal work and have gone through a porn-quitting program and am now over 70 days clean. But last night I was drawn to looking up higher quality women because I've been doing a lot of online dating lately. The women from online dating are fun - but definitely not girlfriend quality. I also miss cold approaching and being out in my community - but I've also been burned out living here and have done and seen most of the things to do and see.

So I've been reading up on articles for getting higher quality women and I still have a very firm goal of becoming a digital nomad 100% by June-July of 2022. That's 6-7 months for me to get my shit together.

I want to be a digital nomad because it is a lifestyle aligned with my values and it provides me the greatest opportunity for growth and freedom - versus being stuck in a routine always seeing the same places and doing the same things. I highly value personal freedom and novelty.

I also want to have sex with 100 women by age 25 and am working towards that goal (currently 23) - but I also want to fuck around the world and expose myself to new cultures and ways of living. I want to experience "exotic" women who are very attractive. I want to have the freedom to move where I want to move and travel where I want to travel.

The whole reason I've had the issues I've had while living here is because I haven't had that freedom. I'm stuck in this location with this "safe" job that pays good and has excellent benefits - but doesn't provide me the flexibility and freedom I'm craving.

And it seriously affects my mental state. The past two times I was closest to using porn was exactly because I felt stuck in my life because of that. It seriously stresses me out.

Which is why I've set this goal for 6-7 months to become a digital nomad. That will provide me the flexibility, adventure, and opportunity to meet women I'm craving. I don't want to walk the same mall for the twentieth time or go to that same coffee shop or park again and again and again trying to meet new women. I need new women and new locations to meet them.

So I'm buying a guide on becoming a digital nomad to help get me situated. I also finally have my editing/freelance writing business up and running and am primed for next year to start getting some more sales under my pocket for my pet photography business.

I just have to keep working my plan and I have a few business mentors to help get me there.

My goal for the end of this year was to quit porn - and I feel I've successfully done that. My goal for the next 6 months is two-fold - productivity and quitting my job to become a digital nomad. That's it.

So here's to 2022 and being the man I've wanted and needed to be for a long time.

NBW

 

[NewBeeWinner]

Update - End of Jan

Man this month has flown by!

As a quick update, Im still seeing my most recent date with the model/singer/actress. We met the day before yesterday for only two hours but we have the next meeting already set.

Im super excited for my businesses - Im still aiming for quitting my job in June/July and have a mentor for getting me set up for digital nomad life in 3 months.

I have a ton of work to do and I have to make sure I keep some balance of fun in my life for the time being (until Im free at least).

But thats going well and Im excited to see how it goes.

I also want to expand my vision for my dating life.

Originally it was have sex w 100 women by age 25 and that is still a solid goal I have.

But it was also originally to get a rotation of mLTRs but now that Im wanting to travel for pretty much the second half of my twenties, I want to expand my goal to becoming an international lover of women.

Having multiple FWBs with women in different countries (and honestly, the women I can meet is a pretty high reason I want to travel so bad).

So I've expanded my goal a bit.

But yeah. Day-by-day sometimes the stress gets to me. But I have a goal and I know where Im going and how to get there.

So its inevitable I'll succeed.

NBW

 

[NewBeeWinner]

Update Mar 23 -

hey guys. life's not too bad atm - my pet photography business is really picking up and Ive had a super busy month (and so will next month be!)

I honestly havent had much time fir dating so Ive been doing online dating. Had a very solid chance to get laid at a party in New Mexico during a weekend trip there - but thats another story.

Idk guys - Im pretty over online dating but Im just really working my ass off on my businesses to get me off my 9-5 so I can finally start traveling more. Im taking weekend trips once a month, but I mean on a more consistent basis. I dont trust cold approaching here anymore.

But anyways, yeah online dating is pretty shit. The quality just isnt there and Im tired of girls who Id smash the shit out of on the first date are acting like theyre gods gift to man. Not that Im bitter - Im saying Id get these girls in person no problem - but online they act so different.

Anyways, I was going to join a weekly dance group and I checked out 5-6 in town that I was interested in. But they were all either super expensive or just not at all what Im looking for.

So I'll have to brainstorm a bit more. I dont like dating apps n will honestly get off them as soon as I can. But they help right now when Im working 70 hour weeks.

Id like to move to more activity groups n the like to bring more people in my life so we'll see.

Overall though, doing pretty smashing. Business is going well!

NBW

 

[NewBeeWinner]

Update 5/22 -

OK. I need to summarize my thoughts on dating where I am. Because I'm frustrated. So I'm in Colorado - in a very, very military town. So that skews my results.
But here is what dating is like here -

1. Cold approach (Day Game with Some Night Game Mixed In)
- You meet a ton of single moms
- You meet really attractive milfs
- You meet a lot of married women (especially to military guys)

In general, there are a lot of hot, fit women here. However, in my experience, both in cold approach and through online dating -

Strike 1 - They act aloof, cold, and bitchy from the start because of all the male attention they constantly get flooded with
Strike 2 - They can be very sweet too. But usually, these women are in relationships
Strike 3 - When you do find a single, hot woman, it can be very nice and rewarding. Had a couple of FWBs that way. However, the issue is that this is the minority.

Strike 1 is definitely a US cultural thing right now. I've met tons of women who fall prey to feminist ideals and/or are so enamored by their own bodies, that's all they think about (definitely a cynical comment from myself). I've also met a ton of women who fall prey to having "strong, conservative Christian values", that take insult to you even inviting them home. (I've met amazing women who I would make a girlfriend out of that just would not do anything with me because of this). But on a serious note, there are attractive, fit, sweet girls that can become amazing girlfriends. They are just in short supply here.

Me and a buddy last week went out to a concert night and cold approached a group of three girls who knew the band players (a guy and very attractive violin-playing girl). I was absolutely interested in one of the girls, amazing body and personality. Totally my type.

Well, she was in a relationship, which her other friend verified to my buddy separately of me and her (so I know it was true).
The girl my buddy split off with was married (and she was like 20 years old!).
And finally, the remaining girl was single, but she was very bitchy, rude, and condescending.

Finally, the violin player and guy playing were in the friend group, but of course, the two playing instruments are a couple.

So that perfectly describes what you find here in terms of dating. All neatly in one group.

2. Online Dating
I can consistently get 3-4 dates per week from online dating. But here is what I've found online -

1) Girls with physical issues (went out with a girl with palsey)
2) Girls with personality issues (either deep in feminist ideals or general personality issues, making them walking red flags)
3) Single moms with very little time to date (I mean seriously, it is hard as fuck to get these women out. And when you do, you have to move very fast because they will not make the time for you!) - granted, these women are generally pretty attractive and sweet
4) Fat girls

I have not come across a woman that I would take as a girlfriend since 1) A girl I went out with who fell into the "strong conservative Christian values" trap and 2) The single mom dancer/model who falls into the #3 category above (very little time and won't make it for you)

3. Social Circle
Social circle here can produce some pretty decent results. I've come across pretty attractive women through social circle. The issue is that these women are also not immune from the traps or strikes above. It's been very hit or miss for me with social circle, but I also don't have the opportunity or ability (time/resources) to really foster a super strong social circle. It is very hard to find people here to do things with, at least in my experience. This is for a few reasons:

1) You have to drive everywhere to get anywhere. Aka no public transport/walking places. This means you only really get to meet women at your destination a majority of the time.

2) Work-life. 9-5 jobs make it very difficult here. Especially for me, who has two businesses on the side. It also makes night-life absolutely exhausting. Also, a lot of women here have to work multiple jobs to support the cost of living, making finding time to meet for dates a bit more difficult.

3) There are circles you can get into. But social circle is a generally long game. And in my experience, the guys here are very low quality. I haven't met many guys I would want to be friends with here. Not a lot of ambition, personal development, or drive. Also, many guys here are very weak in terms of what they believe, falling prey to a lot of the feminist propaganda going around in the culture.

Oh, and btw, the legal system here is definitely skewed against you if one of these crazy women comes after you!

It's been absolutely mind fucking.

This is what is driving me to want to travel and get out of here. And this is exactly why dating foreign women are so appealing to me right now.

Reason 1 - No/less of a feminist agenda
Reason 2 - More feminine and generally less bitchy from the start
Reason 3 - Much less obese women, generally can be very attractive
Reason 4 - A bump from being a foreigner would raise my results

So yeah, I'm just reiterating what I've been saying for literally the past few months. Again. Because I emotionally just get so frustrated and need to remind myself why I want to do what I want to do.

So yeah. Just me sort of getting my thoughts out on paper, so to say.

Till next time,

NBW

 

[NewBeeWinner]

Btw my thoughts on popular online dating apps -

1) Tinder: Meh results. Lots of attractive-looking women. Gotten some dates and FWBs from.
2) Coffee Meets Bagel: Not much results. Women generally unresponsive.
3) Hinge: Good results. The majority of women I match with, I can get on dates. Gotten lays from.
4) Bumble: Not much results. Very few matches, but the women generally seem hotter (similar to Tinder)
5) FB dating: Very good results. I can consistently match with fairly attractive women a majority of the time.

Such has been my experience here.

NBW

 

[NewBeeWinner]

Alright, well quick life update - I've decided August 1 on my date officially done with my full-time job.
That means putting in my 2-weeks July 18th (ish).

So I'm making the move. Right now, I honestly want to work so much on my businesses and get these going strong. I am also embracing a more minimalist lifestyle.

I've reached out to one of my old FWBs that I connected pretty well with. She's cute, not stupidly hot. But she's cute and fun to have sex with. So we reconnected and have been having sex regularly again. I've been very clear with her - I'm only here a few more months, but during that time, I'm open to a more "relationship" style thing with her. But again, I've been very clear its not a full on monogomous relationship (with me full devoted to her or vice versa).

Just that we are going to be spending more time together (having sex every time we meet still) and doing more "relationship" things like holding hands, going to events together (of course, if I want to go to something, I can go alone if I want or I might invite her along). and sharing more deep things with eachother.

She seemed to struggle with it a bit but she's accepting it and so far I've had no issues. She's started investing more and that's good.

The big benefit to me is this - it will let me focus much more of my time on my businesses and getting them up and going for a full-time thing versus spending the evenings planning on going out to events and places to meet women.

Once I'm up full-time on my businesses and have the free time, I'll go back to cold approaching (more often).

That's where I'm at.

NBW

 

[killerman]

NBW

Hey guys,

Why I'm Starting this Journal

I'm started a new journal because I want to move on from the way I was being and start fresh. There was a lot of valid comments on my previous journal and I want to respond to those with action. I'm not where I want to be - and I most likely keep moving the goal post. I'm happy with my life, but I struggle knowing it can be so much more. So this journal is my shot at that.

My goal for this journal is simple: build a lifestyle. Build a lifestyle that supports my ability to meet new women, grow business connections, and provide me new opportunities in things like travel.

Currently

So here's where I am right now. I'm currently still living with my parents and am looking for a place to move to with a roommate. We've been looking at apartments but recently decided to focus exclusively on houses because apartments here are relatively expensive (the average 2 bed 2 bath apartment is around 1400-1600/month). It's more worth it to us to get a house so we're on the hunt for that. The goal for moving out is by the end of May - June, July at the absolute latest.

I work a "9-5" job that usually has me doing a lot of overtime for the first two weeks of every month (I'm usually working 7 am - 6 pm on these days). But after the first few weeks, it drops to being a normal 8 hour work day. After this, I usually go home to eat dinner and either work on my photography business or, depending on the day, go out with my best bud or meet up with my grandparents for dinner. For downtime, sometimes I watch movies with my parents in the evenings or go for a walk around the block.

I'm currently on a few dating apps (Tinder, Badoo, FB) and swipe when I can. I've gotten mixed results but haven't met up with anyone yet from it (but probably will soon, actually). I've been able to get laid once in the past 3 months since a FWB and I split paths. I'm not a fan of online dating and 10:1 prefer meeting women in person but haven't figured out the best way to do that yet (hence: this journal).

So my time's a bit restricted but I can work with it. I'm getting burned out just working all the time and seriously need a break from it all soon.

The Lifestyle I Want

As properly stated, the goal of my lifestyle is to meet more of the kind of people I want to meet. So what kind of lifestyle do I want to build?

There are 3/4 potential lifestyles I can see working for me (to varying degrees).

1) The Traveler Lifestyle
2) The Artist Lifestyle
3) Digital Nomad
4) Business Owner

Let's take these bit-by-bit.

Right now, outside of my 9-5 job, I am a business owner. I own a pet photography business and have finally built it up completely after 4 months and am now ready to start taking on clients. I also own an online proofreading business I am going to do on the side and eventually grow that into freelance writing or something similar (my focus right now has been on the photography business).

Because of this, I have a lot less time and need to be more selective who I spend my time with. I've been coming to the conclusion lately that I'm dying to meet some people who can enrich my life and share some of my passions.

Therefore, one group I people I want to surround myself more with is other business owners. I want to find mentors, people I can network with, and people I can talk business with. I can host networking events, community events, connect with local pet-based businesses, and partnerships.

With my proofreading business, I want to connect to more writers and bloggers. As part of being able to work anywhere with this business, I can work out of coffee shops, outside at parks, lounges, the library, or anywhere with internet connection. I will need to ensure I am active in approaching.

Of course, with my photography business, that is also an inherently creative profession. I can go to (and host) art gallery showings, events with animals, connect with other photographers, and host local training events.

However, I am also learning the guitar and piano and enjoy playing those during my free time. In this point, I can connect with other people who play instruments, have a small group of us that play together a few times a month at different venues, and meet people that way.

As I grow in my business and financial endeavors (like renting rooms or owning rental properties), I also want to begin traveling more. Therefore, I can take a couple of weekends throughout the year (or sometimes a few weeks off at a time) and use that time to travel to somewhere new. I've been able to travel a little bit, but not as much as I would like (I've never even been on an airplane lol).

In terms of building a woman "pipeline", there are a couple ways and places I can do this at: through social circle, online, the gym (MMA or workout), going to the mall, shopping, or on hikes (cold approach), and building multiple social groups. I could go out on weekends for cold approach to meet women in different ways (hiking one weekend, the mall the next, shopping the next) and line up dates for the week. This way, I'm not feeling the time crunch to meet new women during the week and can relax and focus on enjoy the labors of the previous weekend. I can use the allure of my piano/guitar/photography as an excuse to bring women home.

For girls I don't lay or hook up with, I will invite them to social events/parties and/or hook them up with one of my guy friends. I will also allow coach-surfing at my place. This will help build my reputation, credibility, and let me provide value to others in a greater way. I can also take them on camping trips, hiking trips, and open outdoor networking events.

Places I will rotate doing cold approach at will include:
- coffee shops (as I work on my businesses)
- stores (clothing and grocery as I need to buy things)
- parks (as I host events, trainings, or go out with a group of friends)
- bookstores (as I browse for new books)
- dance classes (as I learn salsa/bachata)
- yoga classes (possibly if I get into it and don't do it on my own anymore)
- public events (for weekends that I have nothing to do or there is a really cool event going on)
- out on vacation
- social clubs
- charity events
- stand-up comedy hours
- cool, quiet lounges on nights I want to relax or chill with friends
- the lake or outdoor relaxation areas (there a couple cool places I could go in town)

This is the base of the lifestyle I want to build unique to me and my situation. Getting to this point is the goal of this journal.

I will be implementing this lifestyle piece-by-piece and documenting it all here.

Here's to the future.

NBW

Cool to see you're a digital nomad. How did you accomplish it? I'm working on accomplishing it right now, got a youtube channel with a few hundred subscribers which I post to a few times a week. The aim is to build up to a few thousand subscribers then sell some digital products to my followers. I have no family commitments or responsibilities so now's the perfect time to start doing so. Would be interested to know how you built yours.