Newbie Assignment by Corazon

[Corazon]

Hello everyone

Today I'm starting with my Newbie Assignment and would like to share my experience here with you

My background:

I'm 16 years old, living in Switzerland (so pls forgive me my bad english) and relatively new to pickup. I started reading about it 6 months ago. Now finally I found that it was time to get my lazy ass off the computer and start learning cold approach.

Here we go:

 

[Corazon]

Day 1

Day 1 seemed so easy, finding 4 places to approach women. Or so I thought...

I started this journey by going to my city which is about 20 minutes away from home. The first places I checked out were the two shopping malls the city had. Unfortunately both of them had the problem of barely having any girls who where on their own. Eiter they were with their boyfriends, friends, family or they were too old. Next place i checked out was our university campus. Unfortunately the students here are having holiday so the place was more or less dead. I'll have to try it again when holiday's over. After that I went to the beach. It was okay. Not really too many attractive girls were on their own, but there were some of them for sure. Later on i checked out some streets with high foot traffic. Most of them were bullshit too, but there was one place near the railway station that was really great. Lots of hot girls hanging and walking around all on their own.

So after 5 hours of walking around at 35 degrees C (95 degrees F) I found 1 place that was really good 1 that was mediocre and 1 I'm still not sure about. I'm kinda disappointed with myself but I think these places should serve for now.

Up to next time
Cora

 

[Corazon]

Day 4

I skipped Day 2 and 3 because I felt like I didn't need them. I started working on my posture since quite a while now and eye contact is something I started to do with everyone at a small age so yeah here's Day 4 of Chase Amante's Newbie Assignment.

Unfortunately I didn't made the 6 approaches I should have done... in fact I only made one approach. I'm really disappointed with myself but more on that later.

So I went to the venue I found on day one and started searching the place for hot girls. The biggest problem was finding girls that were alone and around my age (16). Everyone seemed much older than me. Anyway I tried to start approaching girls. Every time I backed down before the approach because of my approach anxiety. It was a real fight in my mind. And then finally after about 90 minutes of struggling I managed to approach a cute girl. I used the Indirect Direct opener (https://www.girlschase.com/content/easy- ... ect-direct) and it worked great. After the opener I started talking with the girl and we were walking around for about 20 minutes. As it turned out she was 5 years older than me haha. We kinda managed to keep the conversation alive all the time but I had a lot of problems showing her I'm a sexual man. Everything after the opener felt like some platonic friendzone chat. Then after 20 minutes she had to meet her dad and we exchanged phone numbers.

I was really happy because it was the first cold approach in my life and I finally overcame my fear. The problem was that my willpower was so drained at that point that I just couldn't convince myself to approach someone again. I kept walking around in the city and made some half-hearted approach attemps but no one really worked. Eventually I decided to go home and call it a day. Due to the fact that I didn't finish the task of approaching 6 girls I decided to repeat day 4 within the next days.

What I learned from my approach:

The reason I could overcome approach anxiety that time was because I builded up so much frustration after failing and failing again that I just wanted it so badly to happen. My desire was stronger than my anxiety. So if there's something I'm afraid of I just have to try it enough times and attack my problem from different angles. Persistence pays out.

Where I need help:

How do I build up willpower. Is it like a muscle that I must use everyday in order to grow? Or does meditation help?

Thanks

Cora

 

[ray_zorse]

Hey mate! Good going! You are doing superbly well, your first cold approach led to moving her and a long convo and a number? That's absolutely awesome, I'm totally impressed!!

You asked about willpower, well I don't think willpower plays as big a role as you're thinking. You need willpower to get yourself out of the house and set your goal (like talking to 6 women)... once you get out there it's more about (1) momentum, (2) being in the moment, and training your brain to see->approach without hesitation. I will try to explain.

Momentum... if you have a long interaction, e.g. 20 minutes I think you said, you'll lose momentum and have to regain it, this is totally normal. Treat the next few approaches as practice, likely your facial expression won't be on point or you'll be nervous or anxious, but after one or two approaches this goes away. When you're fully relaxed and warmed up, witty banter, etc, flows naturally and self-doubt vanishes.

Being in the moment... this means not overthinking shit, like hesitating or rehearsing your approach... and training your brain, see this article, it will change the way you think about approaching. Of course, continue the newbie assignment, because it gradually acclimatizes you to the concepts, but as approaching becomes more normal to you, do follow the tips in the article. They work great for me. They have another tip which I do not always follow, but have tried in the past as an exercise: When you see a hot woman, run up to her... don't think, just run. This removes the possibility for hesitation and also shows her that you're 100% in the moment and not shy to go after what you want.

Again, great approaching, let me know if you need any other help or advice. Stick at it my brother

Ray

 

[[GC]Jay]

Keep it up, you started 16 I'm sure if you keep this up you will become a guru someday.