Waddup guys,
I'm new here, name's JP and I've been following GC for just over a year now.
I'm not going to reveal too much about myself now, but once I get a few more lays under my belt and connect with you all better, I'll open up a bit more...that cool?
All you need to know is that I live in Asia and am currently doing some travelling.
Until a few nights ago, I was a virgin...
Lay number 1
Okay, so basically it was a Tinder lay. And the easiest lay I will probably ever have.
It was a 23 year old girl, (I'm 20) and she seemed pretty keen over Tinder.
Let's call her Becky.
I won't show the conversation, as it started off with "where you from, whatcha doing" etc. But after a few messages I implemented the "How busy are you this week? Let's grab a drink together sometime!"
She answered with a "Yes sure I'd love to
"
We then decide on the next night and Becky mentions a Nightclub she sometimes goes to and invites me along.
The Next Night
I got there and thought I saw her, but she was with a guy, so I got a drink at the bar and chatted to this other (Japanese) guy who had come alone, while I, one, waited for the dance floor to get busier, and two, see if I could confirm it was Becky (or if it wasn't, find the right girl haha). Then I look over to the girl again and see her with her phone out and she's on Tinder, and my photo is on her screen. She then walks around the bar and comes over and introduces herself, and her gay friend, who was as bent as a fucking roundabout. We then danced (nothing special) for a bit, had some small talk (couldn't deep dive much) and mainly watched her gay friend dance around, doing what gay guys do, videoing him etc.
I go to the toilet, return and chat a bit more, I then got another drink and we kind of split off a bit as the dance floor was getting busier, so I went to dance and when I look over to her she's just sitting down whilst her friend danced (again). I didn't want to go over and seem 1. needy and 2. awkward. So I just carried on dancing...
I build up a bit of social momentum, starting high-fiving some random dudes, dancing, enjoying myself. The crowd wasn't the busiest, but there was a bit of a circle going on, some people dancing in the middle etc, and I soon get talking to this small girl and her guy friend, who was fucked.
Then after a while I get dancing and grinding with this small girl, she was really cute and I definitely would of, and she was super into me.
Then after some dancing with her, I go off to drink a bit and MY girl comes over, SUPER JEALOUS, saying "Oh do you like small girls?" "I saw you dancing with the small girl".
She then basically jumps on me, snogging, basically telling the whole fucking club she's mine.
Now, in hindsight, it looks like I kind of played this article here down pretty well https://www.girlschase.com/content/making-girl-jealous-dos-and-donts
I hadn't made out with the small chick, just danced, grinding and had a small chat, but it seemed to be enough.
So Becky and I are making out.
With this small girl I was just dancing with SITTING BEHIND ME. I could see out of the corner of my eye she wasn't happy, genuinely just glaring at me as if to say "I want him."
Then we dance some more, snog some more.
I then bump into this Australian guy (who becomes relevant later) and a girl he was with. After a quick "where you from, whatcha doing here" they start saying they just say what just happened and said how I was a "Massive Player" (I'm not, I'm still a nice guy, but working on that) and that the guy friend of the small girl clearly wanted to dance with her.
He didn't, first of all because I asked earlier whether they were going out and they said "Nooo" and secondly, he was fucked. He was dancing on his own and with the floor a lot, I don't think he was that bothered to be honest.
They found it hilarious that I had this hot chick all over me whilst another sat there jealous. And they asked me to go over to Becky again and snog her. So I did.
We then snog and dance some more.
Then it's about 1.30am so I say "let's go", she says "where", I simply say "my place'". She says "okay", and goes and gets her coat.
Easy as that.
I was going to be smoother and say "surprise" but it was so obvious that she wanted me, I knew I could be direct.
We then dance for a bit, whilst her gay friend was in the toilet and she whispers to me that she's really horny. She then tells her gay friend we're gonna go (as they came together), and they for some reason decide to get another drink for him.
I thought "oh no", worrying the attraction window might shut and obviously thought the quicker the better, although I keep calm and unfazed on the outside. But then she tells me "We are just going to find him a guy, give us 20 minutes then we can go and you can fuck me, okay?"
Well...okay.
We kinda do that, don't find him anyone so we head out. They have a fag outside whilst I chill. Then Becky and I get in a taxi to go to my hostel (have a double bed)
We get dropped off. The taxi dropped us at the wrong street, so we spend an awkward minute walking around and going in the wrong building. Eventually get in to mine.
So she goes to the toilet and I take off socks, watch, jacket etc and go too. We then get back into room and she sits down, sorting things out (I think she took off her bra under her dress?) so I turn the light off...
She simply lies down so she's on her back and I climb on top, just kissing a lot, down her neck etc, I quickly spin us over so she's on top, because I knew the zip to her dress was on her back, so it was easier.
I unzip it and run my hands down her back and into her pants, she starts breathing heavily. I then take the dress off her shoulders, all the way down to her hips and her tits just pop out (hence why I think she took the bra off, as I knew she had one on earlier)
After a minute or so licking her body with her on top of me, and sucking her tits etc I spin her back over so she's on her back. I then take the rest of her dress off, so she's just laying there with her pants on. I'm in-between her legs and undo my shirt and take it off.
I start kissing her on the lips then work her way down her body. I reach her knickers and start breathing heavily over them, then licking her thigh, inner thighs and over the top of the knickers..
She's letting out some sexy asian squeals whilst grabbing my hair.
So with her like that, still lying there, I lift up her bum and swipe her pants off in one.
What is this LMR thing you speak of...?
I then (awkwardly) take off my trousers and boxers, so we're both naked.
I slowly start licking her inner thigh, and then go down on her (first time ever, so was interesting but I think I did alright). Most the time if was hard to find 'it', the right spots etc. After a good few minutes doing that and her squealing a bit and hair grabbing, I work back up her body before fingering her, first one finger, then two. I do this for a few minutes before going back down on her for a bit, I then (awkwardly) put the condom on and get on top, doing adapted missionary. (Thank you Chase)
The thing is, I wasn't completely hard. And it wasn't the easiest getting it in. I think on the 2nd or 3rd try I get it in, get hard and start pumping for a few minutes, but then I feel that it's come out, I try to put it back in but I'd gone soft (but not came), I then finger her for a bit to try and keep her wet.
I then get enough of a semi and go again for a short while, then it comes out, I try again, but I couldn't 'find it' (sounds stupid but it was my first time...and it was dark haha) so I couldn't get it in and I was completely soft. So I lie down and tell her to suck it.
The condom was still on and she questioned whether to with the condom, but I wanted to keep it on so I wouldn't have to go through the trouble of putting it back on/opening a new one. I am aware girls hate giving blowjobs with a condom and in hindsight, those awkward few seconds of getting it on and off again would have been worth it to help me get hard.
Well, I think so anyway, it was my first blowjob, too.
After about 30 secs blowjob (I'm lying down, trying to control my breathing to help me relax, thus get hard) she finishes and then gets on all fours...
This hot asian chick with her face buried in the pillow shoving her ass in the air, wanting it doggy style...it's a difficult life.
I come from behind but have trouble finding it again (haha, stupid I know) and she puts her hand through trying to feed it in. I'm on my knees and her all fours, but for some reason it didn't quite level up. To stop it from being awkward I lick her from behind for a bit.
I then try going on one knee but that doesn't quite work, so I end up basically in a really low squat over her arse, I then get it in and have a really clean entry and go in deep. I'm not completely hard but better, and after about 20 secs my little fella suddenly realises what's going on and goes ROCK hard, meaning I'm drilling her a lot harder and faster, she's doing her asian squeals (SO hot haha) and grabbing the bed. I last a while before coming. I wanted to come on her back, or face or something, but by the time I realised I was about to come (I thought I was good for a little bit more) I wouldn't have had time to take condom off, or spin etc her. She then lies down, on her front still and I kiss her back and her arse, she rolls over and I go down/finger her for a bit. I then get up to get another condom, and then put it on (a LOT smoother this time), we then kiss for a bit, but it's then clear that she's done...
And she definitely wasn't the cuddling type.
And that was it.
Not a bad first time I don't think.
The Following Night - Lay Number 2
I was genuinely debating whether to go or not. Like, standing outside the door, thinking "do I, don't I?" I was knackered but I thought "fuck it, have a good time, and if you get laid again, that would be pretty cool."
The day before I had read the smooth article, ( https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-be-smooth-women-and-take-more-lovers - which is gold- and although I didn't use a lot of it the first night, a lot came to mind when I headed out then, and tried to implement as much as possible.
I've been working on my body language, eye contact and facial expressions a lot lately. It's actually quite enjoyable and I feel myself getting a few more looks.
I get to this new club, knowing it's Ladies Night and chill by the bar for like 15 minutes or so, whilst the dance floor starts filling up.
Then I notice the Australian who I saw in the club the night before, I go over and say hi and meet his friends.
He then tells me he has (another) Tinder date tonight and his date is on the dance floor, so we go off looking for her. We find her and he goes over, I then wait a bit and introduce myself to her friend (I think her name was Linda - so let's go with that) and then her (let's call her Sally), who is definitely the fittest of the two, but obviously I didn't want to step on his toes, especially as she was his Tinder date.
But I already felt some attraction from Sally towards me.
We then dance for a bit, nothing special, I go off and approach a few or just generally dancing, before ending back over towards them. The Australian guy (Let's call him James) from what I can work out was feeling a little bit awkward around Sally, he wasn't making a move but clearly liked her.
I then start walk over to Linda and give her a high five.
She then starts dancing with me and it gets pretty physical and within a few minutes we're making out. This goes on and off for about half an hour, I decided I needed to move her, to keep things interesting, so we grab a drink together. We then start dancing and feel things heating up, but then the police come in and do an ID check.
You probably haven't heard of this, but in XYZ country they come in, stop the music, turn on all the lights and ID check EVERYONE in there. Which takes about half an hour. A massive mood killer. Linda and I are just sitting on the side, chatting, wrapped up together/holding hands. I mention going then but she says she wants to dance some more and can't leave just yet because of Sally.
Finally the police leave and it all kicks off again. We start getting super heated on the dance floor and I mention going again and she said we need to speak to Sally. So I go over and say
"Linda and I are going to go."
"Where you going?"
"My place." I just hold eye contact and stand tall, with no facial expression, making it sound like it's not a big deal ('smooth' article in mind). I couldn't play the whole "It's a surprise, you'll never know!" game as they came together and I read somewhere if you can guarantee the friend's permission, you're good to go.
"WHAT?!...hhmmm...hang on, because we are in the same hostel, so we need to sort keys etc."
"Okay, go and talk to her." I said cooly.
So she goes and then comes back to me and says "We are all going to go back together" - motioning to James, herself, me and Linda.
A bit odd and a bit of a jump from the original plan, but...okay!
Unfortunately Linda starts getting a little bit drunk and goes off with this one guy, dancing around. Sally goes over to him and says something like "don't do anything, she's with him" -motions to me.
Damn, I like this girl.
The guy nods. 5 minutes later they are making out. I just look at them and don't seem bothered.
1. Because I knew she was basically mine
2. Because Sally would step in if anything further tried to happen.
3. It would seem incredibly weak of me to go up and fight over her, losing face value and trying to be a hero never works (from what I've read). I just carry on dancing, just enjoying myself. I had Anatman in mind when he was at a Frat party in the toga, just sitting on the couch dancing to himself, getting his own vibe going. So I just tried to do that.
Then Linda and I are back together for a bit, tons of snogging and body grabbing etc.
Then another guy tries to hit on her.
The creepiest motherfucker I've ever seen, he was trying to snog her about 20 seconds of dancing with her, by literally staring at her face, cocking his head and moving his eyebrows up and down. Absolute creep. I simply pull her away from him and she's all over me again.
BUT he's still there! She is literally dancing on me, and he is standing awkwardly to the side of the three of us with his hand still around her waist. So we start snogging, hoping he'll get the message. He doesn't, he still stands there. I never look at him, completely ignore him. I then drag her over to James and Sally, who are getting a bit closer but unsure if they have snogged yet. He then doesn't follow.
We all dance together and I can tell Sally liked me as we constantly made strong eye contact (throughout the night) and I tried to be fun and do fun dancing around her, either getting her involved or close to me and she always ate it up. If James wasn't there, I would have snatched her right up.
Then Linda goes and gets pulled away by this other guy. From what I can see he was pretty forceful and a bit reckless. Sally again rolls her eyes, in almost frustration, I just laugh.
Once again, it's not a big deal.
Sally then whispers to me "I want Linda to be with you, you are so much more attractive than he is."
I simply reply "thank you." (didn't know what else to say)
She then looks at me strongly and says "well, obviously."
AARGGHH...
Then Sally comes over to me and says "That guy has just asked to take Linda home."
Then there was a big confusion between me and Sally about whether Linda had agreed or not, or whether she just hadn't answered. We finally cleared up that Linda didn't want to, and although Sally had tried telling this guy, the message wasn't getting through. So Sally asks me to sort it out.
I simply go over to the guy and explain as best as possible that Linda doesn't want to go home with you and the four of us (Linda, Sally, James and Me) were going to go back together. He takes it a lot better than I thought he would, shakes my hand and moves on.
I get a strong smile and eye contact from Sally. More lad points for me in her book.
Linda and I dance some more, before she's pulled back by the original guy. Sally again says no to him on Linda's behalf, to help force the message home.
I could then tell Sally liked me, too, so in reference to her helping me out I whisper "You're amazing" to her. She then smiles. I pull her away a bit and then ask "so what do you think of your guy (James)?"
"He's good." said indifferently.
Now I can't remember what she said here, but it was a compliment towards me, something like "but I would have preferred you."
FUUCCKKK...
So I reply,
"And I would have preferred you, too."
"But you kissed my friend first" In reference to - if you kissed me first, you could have had me. She also tries to make it seem like its my fault for us not hooking up - shit test???
"But you got him on Tinder first and not me."
"How did you know it was on Tinder?" Laughs
I just half smile.
She laughs again.
I then say "So we are all going back together yeh?
"Yeah..."
"You'll get your chance then." I said, holding her gaze and my body language calm, but firm.
We then hold eye contact for a very short while.
The sexual tension was SO damn high.
After a bit more dancing, I suggest to Sally we go, she agrees. We all then leave, hop in a taxi together and get to their hostel.
As the four of us walk in the lobby, Sally asks the receptionist for some pillows and duvet.
It was so damn clear what was about to happen it was actually hilarious. James was clearly very excited, and as the three of us get in the elevator (Sally is getting the pillows etc), he cracks me a big smile and raises eyebrows (probably cos he was getting the slightly fitter one), but I just keep calm on the outside.
It's not a big deal...right?
We then get in the room and Sally offers for us to shower individually, James and I weren't sure, especially as the shower was just a glass door between the bed, so we weren't sure whether to just strip off and go or what. Fortunately Linda says she'll go first, so the other three of us just get in bed and watch TV. There was a little bit of flirting between me and Sally, but I tried to keep it tame and James was right there. Then Sally showers, then James, then me. We all lie in bed, me and James in jeans and topless, the girls in knickers and a t-shirt.
We watch TV for a little bit, then turn it off and turn the lights off.
Me and Linda start kissing and so does Sally and James. There is a bit off giggling from the girls. One, because they just found it hilarious and two because we were all trying not to fall out of the bed/work out how to throw the covers over us.
After a little bit Sally just giggles and goes "This is so weird, would it be weirder if we swapped?" (asking me), I only kind of heard/understood and didn't know what to reply, so I said "I guess..." then lean across and snog her. I purposefully didn't do it for too long as James was still kind of on top of her and I was still on top of Linda. We stop and she giggles and says something like "yeh a bit".
Then I slowly start getting Linda undressed, however, she was quite rigid and not up for moving around that much. Which was a big contrast to the girl I had the night before, who was rolling around, wanting this and that.
Who knows, I may have been Linda's first.
I get her on top and get my hand down the back of her pants and she is DRIPPING wet. Finger her for a bit from behind, spin her over.
I work my way down her body and then get her pants off.
I go down on her for a while (she hadn't shaved...argghh). Whilst I can see Sally on top of James on my left. I think already shagging, but there was a lot of looking at each other between me and Sally. I then go all over Linda's body with my tongue.
Then this hand appears in my face, with a condom in it.
Clearly from James, I grab it and put it down on the bed, but I don't know if this psychologically made me a bit more nervous, suddenly having that put in my face rather than me getting my own when I was 'ready'.
Me and Linda mess around a bit more and I then put the condom on and get hard for a bit and adapted-missionary her.
Then I go soft and can't get hard again. We end up grinding, me going down on her etc. I really wanted to get hard but I couldn't again. I hop up, go to the toilet and whilst I'm in there, I try and get hard. Trying to relax, think of porn, anything, but it wasn't happening.
Help?
I then get back on Linda and we get steamy again, lots of fingering and licking. I try and get her to give me hand job but her hand moved away when I directed it towards my dick.
I've had a think about why I probably couldn't get hard and have four reasons:
1. The room was quite cold. Although we were both covered in sweat, I could feel it cold on the outside and that obviously didn't help.
2. I had drunk some alcohol. Not a lot, like 3 drinks, but it could still be enough to make a difference.
3. Linda wasn't really making the noises (probably cos the others were next to us) so it meant that it wasn't as horny as it could have been. The girl I had the night before made these incredible asian 'squeaks' which were so fucking hot, helped me get hard a lot quicker.
4. Nerves. At the end of the day I had a naked asian girl under me, and another SUPER hot one shagging another guy next to me, that gives a LITTLE bit of pressure.
I was virgin only 24 hours before this, don't forget.
I then still can't get hard. I then see Sally go to the toilet. I give James an 'okay' sign with my fingers but he shakes his head (from what I think) but I couldn't ask/find out why as I was half-way through fingering Linda. Using the "come-hither" technique, trying to make her orgasm.
Maybe he had the same problem.
Then me and Linda start grinding hard whilst I think the other two are done, just cuddling. Linda starts breathing deeply and making more noises. Although I couldn't stay hard to be inside her, I was still grinding in missionary and she was still loving it.
After a bit of that, we then cuddle, a lot. Lots of different sleeping positions on top/next to each other, kissing and licking.
But I just can't fall asleep.
I'm partly trying to get myself hard so I can fuck her real good again but it just doesn't happen and I almost keep 'pre-cumming'/jizzing.
We cuddle some more, which was pretty cool. Especially as the one the night before wasn't into it. (And what isn't good about having an asian chick naked all over you?)
Then my alarm goes off.
We started this all at 5am and I had to go at 7am, as I was meeting my friend at 8am for the day.
I REALLY wanted to stay, to see if I could have one f ucked her again when we woke up and two, even tried to fuck Sally, however, only if my little fella sorted himself out.
And that was it. I got changed and left.
Summary
In retrospect, I think it was good I didn't have Sally if my fella kept playing up. Especially as she was hotter (her body, my god), which would have made me more nervous, and I already felt a bit shit not getting it up for Linda.
I also felt shit leaving, knowing that James is going to wake up with two chicks naked next to him. But, depending on how things went for him, he may have just got up and left when they all woke up. I don't know whether they would've had a threesome or not.
I did find out that Sally is going to be in the same region of XYZ as I'll be this weekend, but I never got her number or anything. Luckily I just found her on Tinder and swiped right, hoping she'll match and we can talk.
We had such a connection and she was so thirsty for me.
I genuinely think a lot of this happened because of my 'new' body language and mentality I've been working on. The smooth article helped, too.
The entire time towards Sally I was almost a smooth, cool guy, not mad dancing and not boring. I was fun, I had good body language and facial expressions and my eye contact with hers was so strong (I actually barely talked to her the whole night). It all sounds silly, but all that meant that she was attracted to me (I could SO tell) which, I think, is the reason she suggested we all go back together, and then have a quick kiss swap in bed. Even though I slept with Linda, my calm exterior was attractive enough for Linda, and even more so for Sally, even though she was basically taken with James.
So why didn't you just fuck her halfway through the night?
My little johnny wasn't playing ball. If he was rock hard and going well, I honestly, no shame, would have just got up and gone, "rights let's switch" and fucked Sally's brains out.
Something I know Anatman would've done...and I WANTED to.
But, because he was a limp soldier so often, it was embarrassing and I obviously didn't want to make it worse than it was. I REALLY wanted to shag her. But hey, Linda was good fun and she wanted it bad, too.
A soppy Thank You
First of all, as cheesy as it sounds and how everyone does on their first post here, I really wanna say thank you to Chase (especially) and everyone else here. Whether you are an author, a fucking madman like Anatman or just someone who comments on other posts, which help give even more insights and tips.
This website has definitely changed me. I've grown facial hair from it's recommendation, I've improved body language, style, and non-verbals. I cold-approached a few girls (not many), but the first one I did, almost ended up in a relationship (but had a crazy ex, so I aborted), the second resulted in an entire new social circle, I didn't get the girl, but I made some friends for life and had a great few months with them (they then moved back home) and the third, although I was nervous, I got the number (despite her having a bf) via text-game I turned it around and got a date. Nothing out of it, but if she turns single, she's an option.
I also had two new resolutions this year:
1. Quit porn.
2. Meditate at least three times a week.
This is something I notice a lot of you guys do, that combined with my gym regime, will give me a strong body and mind...I hope.
I've been travelling for a bit so the first has been easy, but the second hasn't been achievable yet, but it will when I finish.
I'm still the nice guy, and seeing some of Anatman's stories of standing on bars and spitting beer over everyone and chugging just isn't me (American confidence haha), so I know my style, if I can tailor it one day (the journey has already started...eh?) will be a smooth, but enthusiastic guy.
I've always been pretty good socially, and actually okay with girls. There have been many times reading an article and think "SHIT, that girl actually wanted me so bad!" But I had no experience or clue what to do and how to get it. I would sometimes be a bit nervous if I knew I would have to talk to someone for a long time. But I've become more calm and less awkward. Silences aren't awkward any more, I just relax, half smile and watch the world go by.
I just haven't had a lot of girls.
I was in a different country a few weeks ago and went out with my hostel roommate. He had a girl joining him so he knew he was getting laid, but he was still so sociable, approaching a few etc.
I started doing the same, getting maybe 10 approaches in, but straight out rejection, every time.
Some other shit rejections happened and he said "you are the unluckiest guy I know with girls." I knew it wasn't luck (thanks to GC) and that my fundamentals were probably all over the place.
But it didn't bother me, I've become a lot more mentally stronger via travelling and GC and know that it'll simply take time and practice.
Sex help
As you can see, I got laid twice in two nights, but my little fella wasn't always cooperating. I know the first time isn't always the smoothest for everyone, but the fact it didn't constantly play ball on the second pissed me off, as I could've fucked Sally, too.
Advice? I know I mentioned the reasons earlier (what I think are the reasons, anyway) so if you have any help to overcome them that would be appreciated. I've done reading before of just "lie on your back, relax, don't think about it and slow down your breathing" but it just didn't happen.
I know I'm still a nobody here, but I'm hoping I can keep improving and some pointers will be so appreciated.
So there you are.
A foursome. 24 hours after losing my virginity.
The only way is up...eh, lads?
-JP
I'm new here, name's JP and I've been following GC for just over a year now.
I'm not going to reveal too much about myself now, but once I get a few more lays under my belt and connect with you all better, I'll open up a bit more...that cool?
All you need to know is that I live in Asia and am currently doing some travelling.
Until a few nights ago, I was a virgin...
Lay number 1
Okay, so basically it was a Tinder lay. And the easiest lay I will probably ever have.
It was a 23 year old girl, (I'm 20) and she seemed pretty keen over Tinder.
Let's call her Becky.
I won't show the conversation, as it started off with "where you from, whatcha doing" etc. But after a few messages I implemented the "How busy are you this week? Let's grab a drink together sometime!"
She answered with a "Yes sure I'd love to
"We then decide on the next night and Becky mentions a Nightclub she sometimes goes to and invites me along.
The Next Night
I got there and thought I saw her, but she was with a guy, so I got a drink at the bar and chatted to this other (Japanese) guy who had come alone, while I, one, waited for the dance floor to get busier, and two, see if I could confirm it was Becky (or if it wasn't, find the right girl haha). Then I look over to the girl again and see her with her phone out and she's on Tinder, and my photo is on her screen. She then walks around the bar and comes over and introduces herself, and her gay friend, who was as bent as a fucking roundabout. We then danced (nothing special) for a bit, had some small talk (couldn't deep dive much) and mainly watched her gay friend dance around, doing what gay guys do, videoing him etc.
I go to the toilet, return and chat a bit more, I then got another drink and we kind of split off a bit as the dance floor was getting busier, so I went to dance and when I look over to her she's just sitting down whilst her friend danced (again). I didn't want to go over and seem 1. needy and 2. awkward. So I just carried on dancing...
I build up a bit of social momentum, starting high-fiving some random dudes, dancing, enjoying myself. The crowd wasn't the busiest, but there was a bit of a circle going on, some people dancing in the middle etc, and I soon get talking to this small girl and her guy friend, who was fucked.
Then after a while I get dancing and grinding with this small girl, she was really cute and I definitely would of, and she was super into me.
Then after some dancing with her, I go off to drink a bit and MY girl comes over, SUPER JEALOUS, saying "Oh do you like small girls?" "I saw you dancing with the small girl".
She then basically jumps on me, snogging, basically telling the whole fucking club she's mine.
Now, in hindsight, it looks like I kind of played this article here down pretty well https://www.girlschase.com/content/making-girl-jealous-dos-and-donts
I hadn't made out with the small chick, just danced, grinding and had a small chat, but it seemed to be enough.
So Becky and I are making out.
With this small girl I was just dancing with SITTING BEHIND ME. I could see out of the corner of my eye she wasn't happy, genuinely just glaring at me as if to say "I want him."
Then we dance some more, snog some more.
I then bump into this Australian guy (who becomes relevant later) and a girl he was with. After a quick "where you from, whatcha doing here" they start saying they just say what just happened and said how I was a "Massive Player" (I'm not, I'm still a nice guy, but working on that) and that the guy friend of the small girl clearly wanted to dance with her.
He didn't, first of all because I asked earlier whether they were going out and they said "Nooo" and secondly, he was fucked. He was dancing on his own and with the floor a lot, I don't think he was that bothered to be honest.
They found it hilarious that I had this hot chick all over me whilst another sat there jealous. And they asked me to go over to Becky again and snog her. So I did.
We then snog and dance some more.
Then it's about 1.30am so I say "let's go", she says "where", I simply say "my place'". She says "okay", and goes and gets her coat.
Easy as that.
I was going to be smoother and say "surprise" but it was so obvious that she wanted me, I knew I could be direct.
We then dance for a bit, whilst her gay friend was in the toilet and she whispers to me that she's really horny. She then tells her gay friend we're gonna go (as they came together), and they for some reason decide to get another drink for him.
I thought "oh no", worrying the attraction window might shut and obviously thought the quicker the better, although I keep calm and unfazed on the outside. But then she tells me "We are just going to find him a guy, give us 20 minutes then we can go and you can fuck me, okay?"
Well...okay.
We kinda do that, don't find him anyone so we head out. They have a fag outside whilst I chill. Then Becky and I get in a taxi to go to my hostel (have a double bed)
We get dropped off. The taxi dropped us at the wrong street, so we spend an awkward minute walking around and going in the wrong building. Eventually get in to mine.
So she goes to the toilet and I take off socks, watch, jacket etc and go too. We then get back into room and she sits down, sorting things out (I think she took off her bra under her dress?) so I turn the light off...
She simply lies down so she's on her back and I climb on top, just kissing a lot, down her neck etc, I quickly spin us over so she's on top, because I knew the zip to her dress was on her back, so it was easier.
I unzip it and run my hands down her back and into her pants, she starts breathing heavily. I then take the dress off her shoulders, all the way down to her hips and her tits just pop out (hence why I think she took the bra off, as I knew she had one on earlier)
After a minute or so licking her body with her on top of me, and sucking her tits etc I spin her back over so she's on her back. I then take the rest of her dress off, so she's just laying there with her pants on. I'm in-between her legs and undo my shirt and take it off.
I start kissing her on the lips then work her way down her body. I reach her knickers and start breathing heavily over them, then licking her thigh, inner thighs and over the top of the knickers..
She's letting out some sexy asian squeals whilst grabbing my hair.
So with her like that, still lying there, I lift up her bum and swipe her pants off in one.
What is this LMR thing you speak of...?
I then (awkwardly) take off my trousers and boxers, so we're both naked.
I slowly start licking her inner thigh, and then go down on her (first time ever, so was interesting but I think I did alright). Most the time if was hard to find 'it', the right spots etc. After a good few minutes doing that and her squealing a bit and hair grabbing, I work back up her body before fingering her, first one finger, then two. I do this for a few minutes before going back down on her for a bit, I then (awkwardly) put the condom on and get on top, doing adapted missionary. (Thank you Chase)
The thing is, I wasn't completely hard. And it wasn't the easiest getting it in. I think on the 2nd or 3rd try I get it in, get hard and start pumping for a few minutes, but then I feel that it's come out, I try to put it back in but I'd gone soft (but not came), I then finger her for a bit to try and keep her wet.
I then get enough of a semi and go again for a short while, then it comes out, I try again, but I couldn't 'find it' (sounds stupid but it was my first time...and it was dark haha) so I couldn't get it in and I was completely soft. So I lie down and tell her to suck it.
The condom was still on and she questioned whether to with the condom, but I wanted to keep it on so I wouldn't have to go through the trouble of putting it back on/opening a new one. I am aware girls hate giving blowjobs with a condom and in hindsight, those awkward few seconds of getting it on and off again would have been worth it to help me get hard.
Well, I think so anyway, it was my first blowjob, too.
After about 30 secs blowjob (I'm lying down, trying to control my breathing to help me relax, thus get hard) she finishes and then gets on all fours...
This hot asian chick with her face buried in the pillow shoving her ass in the air, wanting it doggy style...it's a difficult life.
I come from behind but have trouble finding it again (haha, stupid I know) and she puts her hand through trying to feed it in. I'm on my knees and her all fours, but for some reason it didn't quite level up. To stop it from being awkward I lick her from behind for a bit.
I then try going on one knee but that doesn't quite work, so I end up basically in a really low squat over her arse, I then get it in and have a really clean entry and go in deep. I'm not completely hard but better, and after about 20 secs my little fella suddenly realises what's going on and goes ROCK hard, meaning I'm drilling her a lot harder and faster, she's doing her asian squeals (SO hot haha) and grabbing the bed. I last a while before coming. I wanted to come on her back, or face or something, but by the time I realised I was about to come (I thought I was good for a little bit more) I wouldn't have had time to take condom off, or spin etc her. She then lies down, on her front still and I kiss her back and her arse, she rolls over and I go down/finger her for a bit. I then get up to get another condom, and then put it on (a LOT smoother this time), we then kiss for a bit, but it's then clear that she's done...
And she definitely wasn't the cuddling type.
And that was it.
Not a bad first time I don't think.
The Following Night - Lay Number 2
I was genuinely debating whether to go or not. Like, standing outside the door, thinking "do I, don't I?" I was knackered but I thought "fuck it, have a good time, and if you get laid again, that would be pretty cool."
The day before I had read the smooth article, ( https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-be-smooth-women-and-take-more-lovers - which is gold- and although I didn't use a lot of it the first night, a lot came to mind when I headed out then, and tried to implement as much as possible.
I've been working on my body language, eye contact and facial expressions a lot lately. It's actually quite enjoyable and I feel myself getting a few more looks.
I get to this new club, knowing it's Ladies Night and chill by the bar for like 15 minutes or so, whilst the dance floor starts filling up.
Then I notice the Australian who I saw in the club the night before, I go over and say hi and meet his friends.
He then tells me he has (another) Tinder date tonight and his date is on the dance floor, so we go off looking for her. We find her and he goes over, I then wait a bit and introduce myself to her friend (I think her name was Linda - so let's go with that) and then her (let's call her Sally), who is definitely the fittest of the two, but obviously I didn't want to step on his toes, especially as she was his Tinder date.
But I already felt some attraction from Sally towards me.
We then dance for a bit, nothing special, I go off and approach a few or just generally dancing, before ending back over towards them. The Australian guy (Let's call him James) from what I can work out was feeling a little bit awkward around Sally, he wasn't making a move but clearly liked her.
I then start walk over to Linda and give her a high five.
She then starts dancing with me and it gets pretty physical and within a few minutes we're making out. This goes on and off for about half an hour, I decided I needed to move her, to keep things interesting, so we grab a drink together. We then start dancing and feel things heating up, but then the police come in and do an ID check.
You probably haven't heard of this, but in XYZ country they come in, stop the music, turn on all the lights and ID check EVERYONE in there. Which takes about half an hour. A massive mood killer. Linda and I are just sitting on the side, chatting, wrapped up together/holding hands. I mention going then but she says she wants to dance some more and can't leave just yet because of Sally.
Finally the police leave and it all kicks off again. We start getting super heated on the dance floor and I mention going again and she said we need to speak to Sally. So I go over and say
"Linda and I are going to go."
"Where you going?"
"My place." I just hold eye contact and stand tall, with no facial expression, making it sound like it's not a big deal ('smooth' article in mind). I couldn't play the whole "It's a surprise, you'll never know!" game as they came together and I read somewhere if you can guarantee the friend's permission, you're good to go.
"WHAT?!...hhmmm...hang on, because we are in the same hostel, so we need to sort keys etc."
"Okay, go and talk to her." I said cooly.
So she goes and then comes back to me and says "We are all going to go back together" - motioning to James, herself, me and Linda.
A bit odd and a bit of a jump from the original plan, but...okay!
Unfortunately Linda starts getting a little bit drunk and goes off with this one guy, dancing around. Sally goes over to him and says something like "don't do anything, she's with him" -motions to me.
Damn, I like this girl.
The guy nods. 5 minutes later they are making out. I just look at them and don't seem bothered.
1. Because I knew she was basically mine
2. Because Sally would step in if anything further tried to happen.
3. It would seem incredibly weak of me to go up and fight over her, losing face value and trying to be a hero never works (from what I've read). I just carry on dancing, just enjoying myself. I had Anatman in mind when he was at a Frat party in the toga, just sitting on the couch dancing to himself, getting his own vibe going. So I just tried to do that.
Then Linda and I are back together for a bit, tons of snogging and body grabbing etc.
Then another guy tries to hit on her.
The creepiest motherfucker I've ever seen, he was trying to snog her about 20 seconds of dancing with her, by literally staring at her face, cocking his head and moving his eyebrows up and down. Absolute creep. I simply pull her away from him and she's all over me again.
BUT he's still there! She is literally dancing on me, and he is standing awkwardly to the side of the three of us with his hand still around her waist. So we start snogging, hoping he'll get the message. He doesn't, he still stands there. I never look at him, completely ignore him. I then drag her over to James and Sally, who are getting a bit closer but unsure if they have snogged yet. He then doesn't follow.
We all dance together and I can tell Sally liked me as we constantly made strong eye contact (throughout the night) and I tried to be fun and do fun dancing around her, either getting her involved or close to me and she always ate it up. If James wasn't there, I would have snatched her right up.
Then Linda goes and gets pulled away by this other guy. From what I can see he was pretty forceful and a bit reckless. Sally again rolls her eyes, in almost frustration, I just laugh.
Once again, it's not a big deal.
Sally then whispers to me "I want Linda to be with you, you are so much more attractive than he is."
I simply reply "thank you." (didn't know what else to say)
She then looks at me strongly and says "well, obviously."
AARGGHH...
Then Sally comes over to me and says "That guy has just asked to take Linda home."
Then there was a big confusion between me and Sally about whether Linda had agreed or not, or whether she just hadn't answered. We finally cleared up that Linda didn't want to, and although Sally had tried telling this guy, the message wasn't getting through. So Sally asks me to sort it out.
I simply go over to the guy and explain as best as possible that Linda doesn't want to go home with you and the four of us (Linda, Sally, James and Me) were going to go back together. He takes it a lot better than I thought he would, shakes my hand and moves on.
I get a strong smile and eye contact from Sally. More lad points for me in her book.
Linda and I dance some more, before she's pulled back by the original guy. Sally again says no to him on Linda's behalf, to help force the message home.
I could then tell Sally liked me, too, so in reference to her helping me out I whisper "You're amazing" to her. She then smiles. I pull her away a bit and then ask "so what do you think of your guy (James)?"
"He's good." said indifferently.
Now I can't remember what she said here, but it was a compliment towards me, something like "but I would have preferred you."
FUUCCKKK...
So I reply,
"And I would have preferred you, too."
"But you kissed my friend first" In reference to - if you kissed me first, you could have had me. She also tries to make it seem like its my fault for us not hooking up - shit test???
"But you got him on Tinder first and not me."
"How did you know it was on Tinder?" Laughs
I just half smile.
She laughs again.
I then say "So we are all going back together yeh?
"Yeah..."
"You'll get your chance then." I said, holding her gaze and my body language calm, but firm.
We then hold eye contact for a very short while.
The sexual tension was SO damn high.
After a bit more dancing, I suggest to Sally we go, she agrees. We all then leave, hop in a taxi together and get to their hostel.
As the four of us walk in the lobby, Sally asks the receptionist for some pillows and duvet.
It was so damn clear what was about to happen it was actually hilarious. James was clearly very excited, and as the three of us get in the elevator (Sally is getting the pillows etc), he cracks me a big smile and raises eyebrows (probably cos he was getting the slightly fitter one), but I just keep calm on the outside.
It's not a big deal...right?
We then get in the room and Sally offers for us to shower individually, James and I weren't sure, especially as the shower was just a glass door between the bed, so we weren't sure whether to just strip off and go or what. Fortunately Linda says she'll go first, so the other three of us just get in bed and watch TV. There was a little bit of flirting between me and Sally, but I tried to keep it tame and James was right there. Then Sally showers, then James, then me. We all lie in bed, me and James in jeans and topless, the girls in knickers and a t-shirt.
We watch TV for a little bit, then turn it off and turn the lights off.
Me and Linda start kissing and so does Sally and James. There is a bit off giggling from the girls. One, because they just found it hilarious and two because we were all trying not to fall out of the bed/work out how to throw the covers over us.
After a little bit Sally just giggles and goes "This is so weird, would it be weirder if we swapped?" (asking me), I only kind of heard/understood and didn't know what to reply, so I said "I guess..." then lean across and snog her. I purposefully didn't do it for too long as James was still kind of on top of her and I was still on top of Linda. We stop and she giggles and says something like "yeh a bit".
Then I slowly start getting Linda undressed, however, she was quite rigid and not up for moving around that much. Which was a big contrast to the girl I had the night before, who was rolling around, wanting this and that.
Who knows, I may have been Linda's first.
I get her on top and get my hand down the back of her pants and she is DRIPPING wet. Finger her for a bit from behind, spin her over.
I work my way down her body and then get her pants off.
I go down on her for a while (she hadn't shaved...argghh). Whilst I can see Sally on top of James on my left. I think already shagging, but there was a lot of looking at each other between me and Sally. I then go all over Linda's body with my tongue.
Then this hand appears in my face, with a condom in it.
Clearly from James, I grab it and put it down on the bed, but I don't know if this psychologically made me a bit more nervous, suddenly having that put in my face rather than me getting my own when I was 'ready'.
Me and Linda mess around a bit more and I then put the condom on and get hard for a bit and adapted-missionary her.
Then I go soft and can't get hard again. We end up grinding, me going down on her etc. I really wanted to get hard but I couldn't again. I hop up, go to the toilet and whilst I'm in there, I try and get hard. Trying to relax, think of porn, anything, but it wasn't happening.
Help?
I then get back on Linda and we get steamy again, lots of fingering and licking. I try and get her to give me hand job but her hand moved away when I directed it towards my dick.
I've had a think about why I probably couldn't get hard and have four reasons:
1. The room was quite cold. Although we were both covered in sweat, I could feel it cold on the outside and that obviously didn't help.
2. I had drunk some alcohol. Not a lot, like 3 drinks, but it could still be enough to make a difference.
3. Linda wasn't really making the noises (probably cos the others were next to us) so it meant that it wasn't as horny as it could have been. The girl I had the night before made these incredible asian 'squeaks' which were so fucking hot, helped me get hard a lot quicker.
4. Nerves. At the end of the day I had a naked asian girl under me, and another SUPER hot one shagging another guy next to me, that gives a LITTLE bit of pressure.
I was virgin only 24 hours before this, don't forget.
I then still can't get hard. I then see Sally go to the toilet. I give James an 'okay' sign with my fingers but he shakes his head (from what I think) but I couldn't ask/find out why as I was half-way through fingering Linda. Using the "come-hither" technique, trying to make her orgasm.
Maybe he had the same problem.
Then me and Linda start grinding hard whilst I think the other two are done, just cuddling. Linda starts breathing deeply and making more noises. Although I couldn't stay hard to be inside her, I was still grinding in missionary and she was still loving it.
After a bit of that, we then cuddle, a lot. Lots of different sleeping positions on top/next to each other, kissing and licking.
But I just can't fall asleep.
I'm partly trying to get myself hard so I can fuck her real good again but it just doesn't happen and I almost keep 'pre-cumming'/jizzing.
We cuddle some more, which was pretty cool. Especially as the one the night before wasn't into it. (And what isn't good about having an asian chick naked all over you?)
Then my alarm goes off.
We started this all at 5am and I had to go at 7am, as I was meeting my friend at 8am for the day.
I REALLY wanted to stay, to see if I could have one f ucked her again when we woke up and two, even tried to fuck Sally, however, only if my little fella sorted himself out.
And that was it. I got changed and left.
Summary
In retrospect, I think it was good I didn't have Sally if my fella kept playing up. Especially as she was hotter (her body, my god), which would have made me more nervous, and I already felt a bit shit not getting it up for Linda.
I also felt shit leaving, knowing that James is going to wake up with two chicks naked next to him. But, depending on how things went for him, he may have just got up and left when they all woke up. I don't know whether they would've had a threesome or not.
I did find out that Sally is going to be in the same region of XYZ as I'll be this weekend, but I never got her number or anything. Luckily I just found her on Tinder and swiped right, hoping she'll match and we can talk.
We had such a connection and she was so thirsty for me.
I genuinely think a lot of this happened because of my 'new' body language and mentality I've been working on. The smooth article helped, too.
The entire time towards Sally I was almost a smooth, cool guy, not mad dancing and not boring. I was fun, I had good body language and facial expressions and my eye contact with hers was so strong (I actually barely talked to her the whole night). It all sounds silly, but all that meant that she was attracted to me (I could SO tell) which, I think, is the reason she suggested we all go back together, and then have a quick kiss swap in bed. Even though I slept with Linda, my calm exterior was attractive enough for Linda, and even more so for Sally, even though she was basically taken with James.
So why didn't you just fuck her halfway through the night?
My little johnny wasn't playing ball. If he was rock hard and going well, I honestly, no shame, would have just got up and gone, "rights let's switch" and fucked Sally's brains out.
Something I know Anatman would've done...and I WANTED to.
But, because he was a limp soldier so often, it was embarrassing and I obviously didn't want to make it worse than it was. I REALLY wanted to shag her. But hey, Linda was good fun and she wanted it bad, too.
A soppy Thank You
First of all, as cheesy as it sounds and how everyone does on their first post here, I really wanna say thank you to Chase (especially) and everyone else here. Whether you are an author, a fucking madman like Anatman or just someone who comments on other posts, which help give even more insights and tips.
This website has definitely changed me. I've grown facial hair from it's recommendation, I've improved body language, style, and non-verbals. I cold-approached a few girls (not many), but the first one I did, almost ended up in a relationship (but had a crazy ex, so I aborted), the second resulted in an entire new social circle, I didn't get the girl, but I made some friends for life and had a great few months with them (they then moved back home) and the third, although I was nervous, I got the number (despite her having a bf) via text-game I turned it around and got a date. Nothing out of it, but if she turns single, she's an option.
I also had two new resolutions this year:
1. Quit porn.
2. Meditate at least three times a week.
This is something I notice a lot of you guys do, that combined with my gym regime, will give me a strong body and mind...I hope.
I've been travelling for a bit so the first has been easy, but the second hasn't been achievable yet, but it will when I finish.
I'm still the nice guy, and seeing some of Anatman's stories of standing on bars and spitting beer over everyone and chugging just isn't me (American confidence haha), so I know my style, if I can tailor it one day (the journey has already started...eh?) will be a smooth, but enthusiastic guy.
I've always been pretty good socially, and actually okay with girls. There have been many times reading an article and think "SHIT, that girl actually wanted me so bad!" But I had no experience or clue what to do and how to get it. I would sometimes be a bit nervous if I knew I would have to talk to someone for a long time. But I've become more calm and less awkward. Silences aren't awkward any more, I just relax, half smile and watch the world go by.
I just haven't had a lot of girls.
I was in a different country a few weeks ago and went out with my hostel roommate. He had a girl joining him so he knew he was getting laid, but he was still so sociable, approaching a few etc.
I started doing the same, getting maybe 10 approaches in, but straight out rejection, every time.
Some other shit rejections happened and he said "you are the unluckiest guy I know with girls." I knew it wasn't luck (thanks to GC) and that my fundamentals were probably all over the place.
But it didn't bother me, I've become a lot more mentally stronger via travelling and GC and know that it'll simply take time and practice.
Sex help
As you can see, I got laid twice in two nights, but my little fella wasn't always cooperating. I know the first time isn't always the smoothest for everyone, but the fact it didn't constantly play ball on the second pissed me off, as I could've fucked Sally, too.
Advice? I know I mentioned the reasons earlier (what I think are the reasons, anyway) so if you have any help to overcome them that would be appreciated. I've done reading before of just "lie on your back, relax, don't think about it and slow down your breathing" but it just didn't happen.
I know I'm still a nobody here, but I'm hoping I can keep improving and some pointers will be so appreciated.
So there you are.
A foursome. 24 hours after losing my virginity.
The only way is up...eh, lads?
-JP
