Hey i just want to give a little background on myself. I'm starting to build a habit of talking to girls and people that i don't know. It frustrating and its distracting me from living out my life and not having to focus only on girls all the time. I'm a 22 year old virgin, and I feel like the pressure is a lot, so I'm starting to going out a lot. I'm applying the knowledge from Girlschase and RSD. Both have flattened my learning curve, and i appreciate the wisdom you guys are sharing. My friends don't want to share their secrets at times, they hold back. But you guys share everything you know, and thats cool. Anyways i wanted some advice on my attempt to flirt and talk to a girl yesterday.
I went to Best Buy yesterday to talk to girls. I saw a couple, but I only talked to one. It was a Best Buy worker, and i saw that she played with her hair when i was walking her way. I knew she was interested/attracted, but she was walking with her coworker and for now im too shy to approach a girl in that situation. So i walked around, being in a good relaxed and calm mood and not putting too much pressure on myself. I was looking at the TVs when i noticed that same girl came my way. I opened by telling her if i could play the PS4, it was turned off. She said yea, and this is when I told her in a joking manner " I just had to say this but you are the shortest girl i have ever seen" She paused and didnt say anything, and then just laughed. I tried to extend the conversation by saying " How tall are you?" She said paused again, "4'9". I was too nervous too say anything else, so i told her i had to leave. When i left, she said " you are so mean" in a hurt tone of voice.
I know i should have said something better, but I'm trying not to overthink. I'm trying to say something just to get over the fear of talking to girls i dont know. I tell myself girls are no big deal, i have gone through harder stuff in life like beating depression and anxiety, and being taunted and ridiculed by many people, including family, building muscle, studying nanotechnology at a local community college, studying trigonometry physics chemistry calculus and applying psychology/girlschase advise/wisdom, improving my social skills/calibration/conversation skills but it doesnt seem to matter. I still get nervous as hell whenever i approach girls.. and I know i lacked calibration in this approach. Is there any other way i don't come across like this again? I don't want to insult girls, I want to be confident and flirt with girls and at the same time be good at small talk. I know by doing these cold approaches and avoiding all social circle i will get good fast. I need help in what i did wrong, and why? And what does it mean when you talk to a girl and she pauses before she talks to you? And when she doesn't want to look at you and looks down instead of looking at you when talking back to you? Thanks
I went to Best Buy yesterday to talk to girls. I saw a couple, but I only talked to one. It was a Best Buy worker, and i saw that she played with her hair when i was walking her way. I knew she was interested/attracted, but she was walking with her coworker and for now im too shy to approach a girl in that situation. So i walked around, being in a good relaxed and calm mood and not putting too much pressure on myself. I was looking at the TVs when i noticed that same girl came my way. I opened by telling her if i could play the PS4, it was turned off. She said yea, and this is when I told her in a joking manner " I just had to say this but you are the shortest girl i have ever seen" She paused and didnt say anything, and then just laughed. I tried to extend the conversation by saying " How tall are you?" She said paused again, "4'9". I was too nervous too say anything else, so i told her i had to leave. When i left, she said " you are so mean" in a hurt tone of voice.
I know i should have said something better, but I'm trying not to overthink. I'm trying to say something just to get over the fear of talking to girls i dont know. I tell myself girls are no big deal, i have gone through harder stuff in life like beating depression and anxiety, and being taunted and ridiculed by many people, including family, building muscle, studying nanotechnology at a local community college, studying trigonometry physics chemistry calculus and applying psychology/girlschase advise/wisdom, improving my social skills/calibration/conversation skills but it doesnt seem to matter. I still get nervous as hell whenever i approach girls.. and I know i lacked calibration in this approach. Is there any other way i don't come across like this again? I don't want to insult girls, I want to be confident and flirt with girls and at the same time be good at small talk. I know by doing these cold approaches and avoiding all social circle i will get good fast. I need help in what i did wrong, and why? And what does it mean when you talk to a girl and she pauses before she talks to you? And when she doesn't want to look at you and looks down instead of looking at you when talking back to you? Thanks
