On my road to mastery, I have had a couple epiphanies that I would like to share. This article will focus on two major points, a word out there that I think is misunderstood by most guys new to the game, Abundance. And the second part, how this correlates to building attraction and securing day 2’s after getting a phone number.
When I first got into game I read a ton of material and studied many methods. I read almost every blog post by Chase Amante at girlschase.com, studied Mystery Method, watched simple pickup, and even ABC’s of attraction. I came across Owen/Tyler and the rest of the PUA’s from RSD and found yet another new spin on things. All of these methods seemed to have different opinions on pick up and very few things in common. I have since released most of the theory and just began implementing and testing my own techniques.
One major thing in common with all types of pickup is abundance. Abundance means that you have multiple women in your life and understand that one woman is not meant to be held on a pedestal. What does this really mean though? Does this mean I have to be dating 20 girls at the same time to feel abundance? Does this mean I have to be texting 30 girls and dating heavily? So being new to the game I can’t get abundance over night right? Actually quite the contrary, abundance is available to everyone.
I think most PUA’s fail to help new guys really understand this word abundance and it is explained in a literal kind of way. If you are new, you HAVE abundance, you just have to understand what it really is. If I were to explain abundance in one sentence I would explain it as; The ability to feel like there are hundreds of thousands of women available; if there is one incredible woman, mathematically there are many more. That said you do not need tons of women actively in your life to sense abundance, you must just understand that it is possible to have them and the foundation is already in place for every man to feel this.
Before I started game, I saw women as a scarcity. I did not have many women in my life and when I would get one I would be extremely needy. Now that I finally came to terms with the fact there are tons and tons of women and I have approached thousands and also got blown out thousands of times, women come into my life faster than I can manage. So reframing this should be something along the lines of; I may not have women chasing me right now, but I know that I will get tons of numbers, and tons of dates until I find girls I like and ones that like me. Even if I do find one I will find many more after that since there are endless amounts of women.
What happens inside yourself when you come to terms with this reality is noticed by all the women around you. You naturally start caring less when a woman shows interest, uncensoring yourself, and coming across as you are surrounded by women, because you ARE. Next time you are sarging, actually take a look around, how many girls do you see that are considered a 7 or above? I live in a city of 500,000 people and I can say in any given day I see at least one and as much as 30 or more. Now, how does this help us secure the number then day 2’s and ultimately close?
During your initial reaction, if you do everything in your power to come off as congruent as possible and hold your frame of abundance; if the girl you’re talking to is single and you showed interest, you should be able to secure a solid number. You didn’t have to employ any tricks, gimmicks or pickup lines because you came across as you and exactly you. At this point you should also be socially aware if you made the mistake and she reacted negatively and you in turn reacted. This means you didn’t get a solid number and need to start over.
You got the number and need to remember to keep your frame of abundance. You should be busy since you are not only framing your life with abundance, but slowly surrounding yourself with more women. Each day you integrate talking to them and bringing them into your life. So your text messages should now show that you have abundance, you do not over text or over invest because you have a busy schedule and many women that want your attention.
Now this shouldn’t be literal messages like:
“Hey girl, just got back from a date, went well.. How are you?” or
“Wow, met a great girl at the grocery store, solid number woot! Anyway, what’s up with u?”
But more like:
“What a crazy week haven’t had time to breathe! Let’s try to meet up later this week, what’s ur schedule like?” or
“So I finally have a couple hours on Friday at 7, come meet me at (place) to unwind.”
And let’s compare that to someone without abundance mentality:
“Hey Stephanie, I can’t wait to see you again. Hopefully we can hang out this week, what days are good for you? I’m flexible, so let me know.” Or
“I can’t believe our awesome conversation that day in the store, I really felt like we hit it off. This week is pretty clear for me so text me if you want to meet up.”
In both of these examples the guy comes off as low value. He doesn’t convey that his time is important.
So when going for that day 2 remember that you want to keep your messages to the point and don’t say you can meet whenever she has time. She may be busy and it’s your job to probe when she isn’t. Even if you are free every evening after 6pm, don’t say this to her or she will automatically think you’re boring and she can call you anytime for a date. If you really are this free I suggest filling your time as soon as possible. Get some hobbies, actively go sarging daily, and make your time scarce. This will also help you feel like you’re doing your thing and if a girl is good enough for you to join your life, you may let her.
Just by framing your reality this way women will start to sense you’re more indifferent then most needy men. Just go into a club at 130 am and see how needy the Chodes become. There are very few women left and the men turn on their desperation approaches. A man with abundance would never desperately approach a woman, but if he finds her attractive enough to bring her into his life he will approach with this exact vibe. Even at 130 am in the club, he is calm, relaxed and indifferent. She senses this and there is a much bigger chance she will go home with him. He is also willing to walk away at any point if she’s not what he wants, he will not chase her around like a rare gem, because he knows another gem is right around the corner.
If you find yourself thinking about one girl, or so excited over one number, take a step back and remember abundance. Remember that yes this girl may be gorgeous, she may have a lot going for her, but so do many other women and since you are an important man these women are available to you and want someone like you in their lives. Relax and convey this with low effort and ease. You’ll see substantial results quicker than any gimmick and naturally become more attractive.
Until next time, GL HF!
-Tyler
When I first got into game I read a ton of material and studied many methods. I read almost every blog post by Chase Amante at girlschase.com, studied Mystery Method, watched simple pickup, and even ABC’s of attraction. I came across Owen/Tyler and the rest of the PUA’s from RSD and found yet another new spin on things. All of these methods seemed to have different opinions on pick up and very few things in common. I have since released most of the theory and just began implementing and testing my own techniques.
One major thing in common with all types of pickup is abundance. Abundance means that you have multiple women in your life and understand that one woman is not meant to be held on a pedestal. What does this really mean though? Does this mean I have to be dating 20 girls at the same time to feel abundance? Does this mean I have to be texting 30 girls and dating heavily? So being new to the game I can’t get abundance over night right? Actually quite the contrary, abundance is available to everyone.
I think most PUA’s fail to help new guys really understand this word abundance and it is explained in a literal kind of way. If you are new, you HAVE abundance, you just have to understand what it really is. If I were to explain abundance in one sentence I would explain it as; The ability to feel like there are hundreds of thousands of women available; if there is one incredible woman, mathematically there are many more. That said you do not need tons of women actively in your life to sense abundance, you must just understand that it is possible to have them and the foundation is already in place for every man to feel this.
Before I started game, I saw women as a scarcity. I did not have many women in my life and when I would get one I would be extremely needy. Now that I finally came to terms with the fact there are tons and tons of women and I have approached thousands and also got blown out thousands of times, women come into my life faster than I can manage. So reframing this should be something along the lines of; I may not have women chasing me right now, but I know that I will get tons of numbers, and tons of dates until I find girls I like and ones that like me. Even if I do find one I will find many more after that since there are endless amounts of women.
What happens inside yourself when you come to terms with this reality is noticed by all the women around you. You naturally start caring less when a woman shows interest, uncensoring yourself, and coming across as you are surrounded by women, because you ARE. Next time you are sarging, actually take a look around, how many girls do you see that are considered a 7 or above? I live in a city of 500,000 people and I can say in any given day I see at least one and as much as 30 or more. Now, how does this help us secure the number then day 2’s and ultimately close?
During your initial reaction, if you do everything in your power to come off as congruent as possible and hold your frame of abundance; if the girl you’re talking to is single and you showed interest, you should be able to secure a solid number. You didn’t have to employ any tricks, gimmicks or pickup lines because you came across as you and exactly you. At this point you should also be socially aware if you made the mistake and she reacted negatively and you in turn reacted. This means you didn’t get a solid number and need to start over.
You got the number and need to remember to keep your frame of abundance. You should be busy since you are not only framing your life with abundance, but slowly surrounding yourself with more women. Each day you integrate talking to them and bringing them into your life. So your text messages should now show that you have abundance, you do not over text or over invest because you have a busy schedule and many women that want your attention.
Now this shouldn’t be literal messages like:
“Hey girl, just got back from a date, went well.. How are you?” or
“Wow, met a great girl at the grocery store, solid number woot! Anyway, what’s up with u?”
But more like:
“What a crazy week haven’t had time to breathe! Let’s try to meet up later this week, what’s ur schedule like?” or
“So I finally have a couple hours on Friday at 7, come meet me at (place) to unwind.”
And let’s compare that to someone without abundance mentality:
“Hey Stephanie, I can’t wait to see you again. Hopefully we can hang out this week, what days are good for you? I’m flexible, so let me know.” Or
“I can’t believe our awesome conversation that day in the store, I really felt like we hit it off. This week is pretty clear for me so text me if you want to meet up.”
In both of these examples the guy comes off as low value. He doesn’t convey that his time is important.
So when going for that day 2 remember that you want to keep your messages to the point and don’t say you can meet whenever she has time. She may be busy and it’s your job to probe when she isn’t. Even if you are free every evening after 6pm, don’t say this to her or she will automatically think you’re boring and she can call you anytime for a date. If you really are this free I suggest filling your time as soon as possible. Get some hobbies, actively go sarging daily, and make your time scarce. This will also help you feel like you’re doing your thing and if a girl is good enough for you to join your life, you may let her.
Just by framing your reality this way women will start to sense you’re more indifferent then most needy men. Just go into a club at 130 am and see how needy the Chodes become. There are very few women left and the men turn on their desperation approaches. A man with abundance would never desperately approach a woman, but if he finds her attractive enough to bring her into his life he will approach with this exact vibe. Even at 130 am in the club, he is calm, relaxed and indifferent. She senses this and there is a much bigger chance she will go home with him. He is also willing to walk away at any point if she’s not what he wants, he will not chase her around like a rare gem, because he knows another gem is right around the corner.
If you find yourself thinking about one girl, or so excited over one number, take a step back and remember abundance. Remember that yes this girl may be gorgeous, she may have a lot going for her, but so do many other women and since you are an important man these women are available to you and want someone like you in their lives. Relax and convey this with low effort and ease. You’ll see substantial results quicker than any gimmick and naturally become more attractive.
Until next time, GL HF!
-Tyler
