How do i next/cut/reduce contact with a girl who friendzoned me at work where its mostly just the two of us working together...i was more of the therapist/friend role at work....i really don't wanna offer any more value to her for nothing in exchange.......any suggestions to make work more comfortable? Chase didn't mention how to next a girl i see everyday....
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How about just noncommittal responses such as "yeah", "nah", "I don't know", "maybe"... you also want to consider your eye contact pretty carefully. Try to deny it as much as possible, but if you're working with her rather than just alongside her, you'll have to give her attention on work related topics. If it goes off work related topics, then what you can do is cultivate a bored look and break eye contact for longer and longer periods of time. With girls talking on boring topics I have found this to be extremely effective. Unfortunately, when you've suffered from "nice guy" syndrome you've tended to believe you have to give a person your full attention just because they are speaking to you... girls latch onto this and put you in the therapist role. So if you break eye contact, fiddle with phone etc, they quickly lose interest. It's amazing how quickly they pick up on the difference in vibe and modify their behaviour accordingly. Women are actually quite intuitive.
Ray
Ray
Just for practical purposes I would recommend to play a Nice Guy. See how long she'll last, LOL
Show her some insecurity and neediness, show her puppy eyes, tell her she reminds you of your mom, write her a poem or at least text her couple times that you love her and can't be without her, offer her more listening therapy sessions about her past BF and so on...
Poor girl, she'll be gone in 2 days and she'll be avoiding you for the next couple of months...
Or just walk away, smile, reply at minimum as suggested above
Show her some insecurity and neediness, show her puppy eyes, tell her she reminds you of your mom, write her a poem or at least text her couple times that you love her and can't be without her, offer her more listening therapy sessions about her past BF and so on...
Poor girl, she'll be gone in 2 days and she'll be avoiding you for the next couple of months...
Or just walk away, smile, reply at minimum as suggested above
Yeah i have suffered from it badly.....but the thing is i want to do it in a way where it doesn't look like my mood/personality is too affected by her behaviour.....she said its ok if we continue to be 'just friends' and that nothing has changed between us and that she will continue being the way she was before this happened. Somehow I'm not ready to believe all this....i just got 6 more months to work with her.....