everyone gets rejected, but harsh rejections usually comes down to calibration
..... Women when it comes to night game have to be harsh if they smell uncallibration,
cause then they can not get rid of guys, they stick around, and they have a history of experiences like that.... Actually i experience what girls experience with guys that want to be around me to be cool, and i can't get rid of them.... You are approach is blow me in blow me out stuff, which, yea it works at times, but is high risk high rewards.... pretty much a light version of "wanna fuck" subcommunication.
As i always say nights have a rhythm, change your strategy to be more mingling, more friendly, good vibes, more casual indirect at the start of the night, till you get warm on in a zone, vs going for the blow me in blow me out early.... That way you get warm up, and you read tells and intelligence early in the night..... vs what you are doing now getting rejections early, i don't care who you are getting so many rejection or harsh rejection will affect you, as you have witness, not only that it can kill your social proof, burning yourself out and making it harder to open other women.... This by sexaddict911:
I have bitten my tongue for too long, I thought I’d sit back and see if I could actually relate to the general mentality of this forum, but truthfully, it’s a bunch of haters, or people seeking validation. I see post of guy’s preaching their skills and how to do this and that, yet at the beginning of the thread they will say shit like I have been a PUA for 3 yrs WTF! You bash a guy for actually wanting to be a pick up artist rather then a fucking pick up monkey. If you guys wanna run around and approach every woman you see, then yes expect a lot of rejection. If you want to frequent a club and hit on every hot chick you see, then go ahead, but dont expect to pick up any of them.
Lets say you play the numbers game and on average, 2 out of 10 women you can pick up. Now lets say, you approach the first 8 that you can’t get. Do you honestly think your state of mind is gonna be the same as if you found the 2 that are down first? Of course not, no matter how much confidence you have you are going to be affected. Not only that, if the 2 women that you can get have been watching you try to pick up the other 8, there’s a great chance they will no longer be interested. And trust me, if a woman has interest in you, you can sure as hell believe she has been watching you.
When i first came to this forum, i talked about how i take a good amount of time to pre-screen women and look for women that show interest before I approach and I got mocked and laughed at, in my mind i was like wtf? OK i’ll shut up, maybe these people know another method, maybe they can show something I don’t already know. Maybe there is something to all this PUA mental masterbation.
A good majority of this forum are full of shit, and need to open their eyes. It’s not rocket science, it’s interacting with another human being, but if you are playing the numbers game rather then having a true passion for women and the art of pick up, you are never gonna get anywhere, sure you may get laid a lot, but if you are not learning from your seductions, learning about women, about their desires and needs, learning to identify the obtainable women, learning to identify the woman that are showing interest as opposed to the ones that have zero interest, then you will never evolve and you will be stuck in a revolving door.
If you don’t believe me, ask a dude like Poeticlyskuac, ask him what his pick up ratio is, I guarantee you it’s extremely high. Why? Because he is learning the most important things about pick up. How to correctly interpret IOI’s and body language in general
Why spam approaching does not work in night clubs.
Now there are guys that feel better after 1 rejection out of the way to help kill the ego.... A few times this has actually help me, 60yoc recommend this strategy... But i know it probably not you so just mentioning for readers....
one thing that has work for me, is a big club with different rooms, one room to warm up or if i for whatever reason get rejected can go to another room or another part of the club, this helps.... or different clubs (club hopping) this also helps with the "start all over feeling"
^ my strategy is combo of what i just wrote, i go to a particular club more chill, more friendly mingly to warm up, and yea most times i get girls doing this a lot of times, but my head is not (i got get them) cause is in the early stages of the night.... then i go to another venue/room/part of the club once warmed up and state to sarge, and if this does not go well then another room, part of the club or another club.
So my strategy is more like mingle/friendly/warm up not even thinking about hooking up just like a friendly party host (and a lot of times i get girls just by doing this) > then once warm up in state, with some wins more sarging>then at times usually towards end of the night (blow me in blow me out stuff back in the days, now i days i don't like it) cause of the shorter time to work with....
vs your strategy you start blow me in blow me out high risk strategy when women in early stages on the night, may be too strong and calibrated> get harsh rejections and kill social proof> then ruins your night....
also learn a bit of club dynamics