"No Asian Dating Policy" and explanation of attainability. Help me understand.

[GCCSej]

Hey guys. I need some understanding with attainability.

I want to point to this video to describe my situation EXACTLY to a tee sometimes.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SfeExPn5Jd8

The Youtuber in this video does an awesome analysis on women that are spewing out 'No Asians dating policy' from the unattractive women.

For me, I've noticed that I am in a similar situation sometimes.

It's extremely weird when a high SMV women of all races find me attractive/cute/pursue me aggressively, yet when I encounter a low SMV women they treat me like shit and spew things out such as 'I don't date Asian guys'.

According to this Girls Chase article, https://www.girlschase.com/content/bein ... rning-them

Aloof +
Compliant -
Enthusiastic -
Rude +

What really confuses me is when I get this from low SMV women of my own race. They're not really aloof but more on the RUDE scale.
Yet when they come across a white guy for example, they're extremely nice and flirty.

Can anyone provide any analysis on this?

Why would a high SMV & high self-esteem girl treat me flirty and nice while a low SMV & low self-esteem girl treat me like I'm at the lowest totem pole?

 

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Re: "No Asian Dating Policy" and explanation of attainability. Help me understan

It comes from a place of low self esteem. In the past, when I went through depressive periods where I felt like I was unattractive and invisible, I started becoming more judgmental of women, dismissing those who didn't fit a very narrow ideal of what I thought was attractive (generally young, conventionally attractive white girls). Unfortunately this also extended to race, where I would get annoyed when objectively pretty non-white girls would show interest (which was confusing as hell since I'm brown, but I guess that's what growing up in a western country will do to ya). I don't really know why, but I guess them showing interest when the ones I wanted didn't sort of reaffirmed the idea that I was an outsider, that I couldn't have what society deemed "normal", and I hated that. Interestingly, a few of my friends (white guys) were also (and still are) going through depressive periods but that didn't stop them commenting on how hot they found asian/indian chicks that I thought were unattractive. Perhaps they were secure in how "normal" they already were in that respect (they've each had success with pretty white girls) and so had nothing to prove by being with non-white girls, whereas I did...

When I started climbing out of that rot, and started getting much more affirmation and attention from women in that narrow ideal (and I'm still very much a beginner but I have a lot more reference points now compared to last year to know that a lot of them do find me attractive), I started feeling like I was normal. And a funny thing started happening - I started getting a lot more open with and attracted to all other types of women too, because I felt like I had nothing to prove.

I think this is what it comes down do. White guys are "normal" in western society. Lower SMV women want to fit in so desperately that they will give attention to white guys above anyone else, to prove to everyone else that they are normal too. Dating a non-white guy, for them, only reaffirms that they are an outsider, which they have already had enough of. Even if they find you physically attractive, they will hate that they do and treat you like garbage.

A lot of naturally attractive women of all races, however, don't have to prove anything. They receive so much attention from "normal" men that they can raise their standards and judge a guy based on other merits instead. If you're a physically attractive minority, they might be even more intrigued since they might never have slept with someone like you before - you stand out from the crowd. Standing out from the crowd in a big way is something a low SMV woman does not under any circumstances want (even with a very attractive white guy since she might start getting jealous of all the attention he receives) - she may prefer a more average looking white guy. However, naturally attractive women are confident enough that it's not an issue.

Funnily enough, you might find that if you're a minority out with a beautiful girl those low SMV woman who found you attractive but hated it will suddenly do a 180 and be nice and flirty with you, because the beautiful girl has given you the stamp of approval and so to them, you are now "normal" too.