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I'm posting this because I've seen a number of people with these same problems on the boards.....
Well, I've pretty much found the solution to my temporary problems:
1.) Location. I mostly like Asian women, and they seem to be a scarce commodity where I live.
2.) Living with parents.
Of course, the optimum solution is to move out to a different city, but I'm still helping my parents out financially.... and, I'm working (and have been working) on a few different career paths that will make my life more enjoyable (which require staying with the folks in case they go belly up).
Well, every other weekend, I've started visiting my friends that live 2-3 hours away. The city has more women (and women of my type), and I can say to women that I am just visiting (perfect excuse to go to their place, and if they like me, they'll work on making their place more available; also, they don't ask questions about my living situation once they know that I'm an out-of-towner).
If you don't have friends there, you can try making friends in that town. A bit harder, but not too difficult if you go to some basketball/soccer/sport pickup games or some other activities (or even offer to be a wingman for a random guy in a bar/club). You'll still have to either make day trips or pay for a hotel for a month or so. If you don't want to do this and no friends, then when you think about it realistically... $160 for 2 nights at a hotel, twice a month, so $320 a month; that's not bad if you're currently not getting laid at all, and you'll have some great experiences/memories/adventures.
Anyway, I've found this to be the perfect solution for my current situation.
Major pros:
1.) You're novel/unique/out-of-towner/mysterious.
2.) If you fuck up or do some crazy approaches, who gives a fuck? You only see the city twice a month. Helps eliminate approach anxiety.
3.) Girls are more anxious to move faster because see you less. And if you make a really strong first impression, the 1-2 weeks of not seeing each other builds a lot of tension.
4.) Great for instant dates and rapid dates to create whirlwind romance that Chase talks about in his articles. "Well, hey, I'm leaving town in 2 days, how about we go on a 2nd date tomorrow as well?" and now you have 2-3 dates with a hot girl in 1 weekend.
5.) Easier to not talk as much or to see each other as much, so you become less needy (and sexier).
6.) Easier to get back to her place; therefore....
7.) ....if she makes an effort to get you over, you know she likes you. Helps weed out girls that don't really like you and just want to string you along.
I haven't tried this yet, but also possibly an excuse to crash at her place (if have gone on a date or 2).... "I'd love to come see you.... but all of my friends are out of town, so I can't crash with them. Maybe I could crash on your couch?").
Cons:
1.) Money (but if have friends living there, gas money isn't too bad).
2.) Travel time and time in general.
3.) Girls are harder to get into a relationship; girls that have LDR problems will usually write you off quickly if they're only looking for something serious.
4.) Less familiar with places, people, etc.
5.) Girls that also live with their parents (unless have a hotel).
Well, I've pretty much found the solution to my temporary problems:
1.) Location. I mostly like Asian women, and they seem to be a scarce commodity where I live.
2.) Living with parents.
Of course, the optimum solution is to move out to a different city, but I'm still helping my parents out financially.... and, I'm working (and have been working) on a few different career paths that will make my life more enjoyable (which require staying with the folks in case they go belly up).
Well, every other weekend, I've started visiting my friends that live 2-3 hours away. The city has more women (and women of my type), and I can say to women that I am just visiting (perfect excuse to go to their place, and if they like me, they'll work on making their place more available; also, they don't ask questions about my living situation once they know that I'm an out-of-towner).
If you don't have friends there, you can try making friends in that town. A bit harder, but not too difficult if you go to some basketball/soccer/sport pickup games or some other activities (or even offer to be a wingman for a random guy in a bar/club). You'll still have to either make day trips or pay for a hotel for a month or so. If you don't want to do this and no friends, then when you think about it realistically... $160 for 2 nights at a hotel, twice a month, so $320 a month; that's not bad if you're currently not getting laid at all, and you'll have some great experiences/memories/adventures.
Anyway, I've found this to be the perfect solution for my current situation.
Major pros:
1.) You're novel/unique/out-of-towner/mysterious.
2.) If you fuck up or do some crazy approaches, who gives a fuck? You only see the city twice a month. Helps eliminate approach anxiety.
3.) Girls are more anxious to move faster because see you less. And if you make a really strong first impression, the 1-2 weeks of not seeing each other builds a lot of tension.
4.) Great for instant dates and rapid dates to create whirlwind romance that Chase talks about in his articles. "Well, hey, I'm leaving town in 2 days, how about we go on a 2nd date tomorrow as well?" and now you have 2-3 dates with a hot girl in 1 weekend.
5.) Easier to not talk as much or to see each other as much, so you become less needy (and sexier).
6.) Easier to get back to her place; therefore....
7.) ....if she makes an effort to get you over, you know she likes you. Helps weed out girls that don't really like you and just want to string you along.
I haven't tried this yet, but also possibly an excuse to crash at her place (if have gone on a date or 2).... "I'd love to come see you.... but all of my friends are out of town, so I can't crash with them. Maybe I could crash on your couch?").
Cons:
1.) Money (but if have friends living there, gas money isn't too bad).
2.) Travel time and time in general.
3.) Girls are harder to get into a relationship; girls that have LDR problems will usually write you off quickly if they're only looking for something serious.
4.) Less familiar with places, people, etc.
5.) Girls that also live with their parents (unless have a hotel).
