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Old habits die hard, and faulty mentalities persist, despite the wealth of information and enlightenment that surrounds us.
These concepts that I am about to discuss are nothing new under the sun; all the new dating advice and pickup techniques are simply reinventing the wheel; human nature hasn't changed, so why would effective dating advice change either? Where do the men who fail to make progress and real change falter? It is in their application of such information and in their mindset.
We are all familiar that being "nice" does not translate to success with women. But why is that? Treating people with fairness, kindness and generosity are all traits that are highly desirable and attractive, male or female. The root of the problem does not lie in being nice or kind; being a good person is never a bad thing. Rather, the men who believe they are being nice are actually being manipulative and deceptive.
How so? What these men are doing when are they are being "nice" is simply treating a woman in a certain way, concealing their true intentions, with the hope that the woman will exchange sexual favors and affection in return. These men are hiding behind the veil of being "nice" in order to mask their intentions, while passively hoping that the woman will respond favorably. It is when that woman does not respond according to the man's hidden agenda that the man then lashes out and becomes spiteful and bitter, having an expectation and presumption that simply because he treated her "nicely", that she would give him sex as a reward. This is epitomized by the classic dinner date scenario that many men use in hopes of being rewarded at the end of the night, simply because he has paid for an expensive meal that the woman never requested in the first place.
No, these men are not "nice". They are hiding themselves behind a mask, transforming themselves into angels of light, white knights, masquerading under the ruse of chivalry and false heroism. Ironically, by treating these women nicely, they are actually treating these women unfairly and placing a social burden upon them. The interaction then becomes a financial or economic transaction, instead of an intimate, social connection.
When we treat women with respect, we will find success. Meaning that, we do not lie to them about our intentions. We do not hide our desire for them. We do not pretend not to be interested and be friendly and nice in hopes that they fall for us. This is not how masculine men act. This is not how a sexy man carries himself. When we attempt to lie, deceive, and manipulate, we are not respecting women. We are insulting their intelligence and their integrity. And when you do that, you fail to understand that women are socially savvy creatures with unique desires and aspirations. In short, you rob them of their humanity and treat them like objects, putting that "pussy on a pedestal".
If we are to treat women with respect, if we truly want to treat women the right way, we must be honest. We must be unashamed of our sexual desire and meet the women we want, without subterfuge. You cannot seduce all women, but women will respect a man who lives honestly and does not apologize for his masculinity. Few men have the emotional strength to be honest and express themselves with sexual confidence and personal integrity. When women encounter this, it is refreshing and uncommon. When we are honest and courageous -- feeling fear, but acting anyway -- women will experience your masculine presence, and they will fight to keep you in their lives.
But the choice is yours to make. WIll you live a life of deceit and manipulation, or will you live honestly and develop courage, never apologizing for being a man.
These concepts that I am about to discuss are nothing new under the sun; all the new dating advice and pickup techniques are simply reinventing the wheel; human nature hasn't changed, so why would effective dating advice change either? Where do the men who fail to make progress and real change falter? It is in their application of such information and in their mindset.
We are all familiar that being "nice" does not translate to success with women. But why is that? Treating people with fairness, kindness and generosity are all traits that are highly desirable and attractive, male or female. The root of the problem does not lie in being nice or kind; being a good person is never a bad thing. Rather, the men who believe they are being nice are actually being manipulative and deceptive.
How so? What these men are doing when are they are being "nice" is simply treating a woman in a certain way, concealing their true intentions, with the hope that the woman will exchange sexual favors and affection in return. These men are hiding behind the veil of being "nice" in order to mask their intentions, while passively hoping that the woman will respond favorably. It is when that woman does not respond according to the man's hidden agenda that the man then lashes out and becomes spiteful and bitter, having an expectation and presumption that simply because he treated her "nicely", that she would give him sex as a reward. This is epitomized by the classic dinner date scenario that many men use in hopes of being rewarded at the end of the night, simply because he has paid for an expensive meal that the woman never requested in the first place.
No, these men are not "nice". They are hiding themselves behind a mask, transforming themselves into angels of light, white knights, masquerading under the ruse of chivalry and false heroism. Ironically, by treating these women nicely, they are actually treating these women unfairly and placing a social burden upon them. The interaction then becomes a financial or economic transaction, instead of an intimate, social connection.
When we treat women with respect, we will find success. Meaning that, we do not lie to them about our intentions. We do not hide our desire for them. We do not pretend not to be interested and be friendly and nice in hopes that they fall for us. This is not how masculine men act. This is not how a sexy man carries himself. When we attempt to lie, deceive, and manipulate, we are not respecting women. We are insulting their intelligence and their integrity. And when you do that, you fail to understand that women are socially savvy creatures with unique desires and aspirations. In short, you rob them of their humanity and treat them like objects, putting that "pussy on a pedestal".
If we are to treat women with respect, if we truly want to treat women the right way, we must be honest. We must be unashamed of our sexual desire and meet the women we want, without subterfuge. You cannot seduce all women, but women will respect a man who lives honestly and does not apologize for his masculinity. Few men have the emotional strength to be honest and express themselves with sexual confidence and personal integrity. When women encounter this, it is refreshing and uncommon. When we are honest and courageous -- feeling fear, but acting anyway -- women will experience your masculine presence, and they will fight to keep you in their lives.
But the choice is yours to make. WIll you live a life of deceit and manipulation, or will you live honestly and develop courage, never apologizing for being a man.
