No Response To Text? Next?

[RDawg]

Hey guys, hope everyone is doing well! So the other day a sexy girl added me on facebook and I decided to try and set something up with her. I've been super busy with exams and haven't add the opportunity to go out in about 2 weeks. So I followed some of Chase's advice that he gave me about messaging girls who add me on facebook. So..... the girl added me last Thursday. I messaged her Friday and then started texting her by Sunday.

Me: Hey! Thanks for the ad. Have we met before and i'm just forgetting or have we yet to get to know each and that's why you've added me? (this line is directly from Chase. He told me to send this message to the girl before you accept her friend request because it keeps her in the chasing position.)
Her: lol. I think we met a couple years ago on Halloween.
Me: oh okay, ya I think remember now. Weren't we suppose to grab a drink or something?
Her: aha ya, unfortunately that didn't go down.
Me: haha ya I can't remember what happened. Well, since we have reconnected here, how about we make it happen this time?
Her: Ya for sure!
Me: Alright, well either shoot me a text ********** or send me your # and we can set something up
Her: Alrighty!! Here's my # *** *** *****, feel free to send me a message as well

So I accepted her on facebook now (after she decided to agree to a date with me) and texted her.

Me: Hey Kate, hope you had a good weekend! What's your schedule like this week?
Her: Hey Rdawg! Ya it was good, can't complain. I'm free mainly in the evenings this week. What's your schedule like?
Me: Alright, well im free Tuesday and Thursday evening to grab those drinks, if either of those days work for you?
(NO RESPONSE AND IT'S TUESDAY)

So, I asked my buddy who is rather a "natural" with women and he has very good eye for reading women. After, I showed him these texts, he suggested that she is probably the "nervous/shy" type and you came off a little aggressive/direct for her then she is use too. Also, he said she it would probably be better to meet her out at a bar/club when the both of you guys are out. (This says to me she may not be comfortable enough with me and may be a bit skeptical?) Anyways, I was wondering if I could get some feedback from the GirlsChase community here. Any suggestions of what might of happened here? I'm heading out tomorrow to a busy club/bar and I was thinking about dropping a text to her (even thought she hasn't responded). Something like...

"Hey Kate, still up to grab those drinks? I'm heading out to bus n beers tonight, if you wanted to meet up? "

I don't know what do you guys think?

- Rdawg

 

[Drck]

Difficult situation... Your friend is probably right, it looks like too direct/aggressive...

She's got the message and if she were all over you she would accept either day, fast. But she didn't reply, which could mean No, or she is still thinking...

It really depends how you want to present yourself to her and on your personality. If you send another messages she could read it as nothing important, or that you are needy, chasing. But she could also read that you are really persistent, so it all depends....

A guy who has lots of girls wouldn't send another text, he would let it go as he's got more choices and options. In an ideal world, all of us would be this guy.

A guy who doesn't have that many choices would probably follow up with more text. If you are more eager, try tomorrow or rather Thursday. You can also give it a time, let this Tuesday and Thursday expire, try e.g. Next week. Remember, she's got the text and she read it, and she were interested she would reply rather fast.

I would probably wait till Thursday to show patience, and at the same time interest and persistence. Maybe I would try to throw in some challenge: Hey K, it is ok if you are a good girl and well behaved around drinks. Why don't we go to XYZ instead? Is 6 or 7 pm good for you? For XYZ I would chose something else than sitting down and drinking (as she is obviously not interested to sit down and drink beer), maybe dancing, some club or whatever equivalent (where alcohol is of course accessible so she has the opportunity to prove to you that she is not that "good girl").

I don't like this: "Hey Kate, still up to grab those drinks? I'm heading out to bus n beers tonight, if you wanted to meet up?
>>>> if she wanted to grab those drinks she would let you know.
"if you wanted to meet up?" >>>> sounds like you are asking her for permission, she doesn't really know if she wants, and my best guess is that her answer will be No. The above is more decisive and it will also give her more options.

I'm quite interested what others have to say though as this is quite challenging situation. Let us definitely know what will happen.


It is like playing a game. Wait - it is a game!

 

[Smith]

Lol this reminded me of a girl I met a month ago. We rescheduled twice but something always came up (on her side) and the third time I send her a text to set up a meet on Sunday with a non-needy text "Hey XX, Hope your week's going well! Let me know if you're still keen for a drink this Sunday and we can set something up" , she didn't reply, so I thought I lost her. Then five days later she replied and apologized that she was extremely busy and offered a day that she's free. This is a girl I had a 10 minutes conversation with on the street. Don't assume it's because she's not comfortable with you because given your fb conversation and text message, she seemed rather warm. She might just be testing if you're going to chase her like other guys.

So I think you should just let her think on it. She was keen from the start and she already agreed to grab a drink with you and even asked you what your schedule's like, so just chill! Trust that it's going to happen. If she doesn't reply by Thursday, send her another text after the weekend and throw the ball in her court.
"Hey XX, Hope you had a good weekend! guess our schedule last week didn't work out so well. If you're still keen for that drink, let me know what you're schedule's like =)"

 

[Rage]

Was gonna reply but thought that drck had given a good response.

Smith replied exactly what I had wanted to said actually haha (have had the same thing happen to me several months ago, girl text back like 5 or 6 days later in that same way).

A lot of these chicks are (stereotypically) busy girls with a lot going on in their lives (work, fitness, school etc.) and have all that coupled with not a ton of experience with guys, being a shyer type and into you but not sure what to do with that and also too busy to think about it and then go about it in a savvy way.

Would go with what smith suggests, you might be able to salvage this one still

Good luck bro

-Gem

 

[RDawg]

- Drck, Smith and Gem

Well, wouldn't ya know it? The girl texted me back today with "Hey, sorry for not getting back to you, i've been finishing up with exams so I haven't been to tentative to my phone. How've you been"

I guess I over thought this one quite a bit but at the same time I'm not use girls taking 3 days to text me back. It was rather a unique situation because I haven't had a girl be that warm and take that long to respond back. At the same time though, a girl doesn't need to take 3 days to respond back. It only takes 2 seconds to send a message but at the end of the day, it's all a "game" like Drck said.

Thanks for the great advice guys, nailed this one down. I'll see what I can pull off now

All the best!

- Rdawg

 

[RDawg]

- Drck, Smith and Gem

Well, wouldn't ya know it? The girl texted me back today with "Hey, sorry for not getting back to you, i've been finishing up with exams so I haven't been to tentative to my phone. How've you been"

I guess I over thought this one quite a bit but at the same time I'm not use to girls taking 3 days to text me back. It was rather a unique situation because I haven't had a girl be that warm and take that long to respond back. At the same time though, a girl doesn't need to take 3 days to respond back. It only takes 2 seconds to send a message but at the end of the day, it's all a "game" like Drck said.

Thanks for the great advice guys, nailed this one down. I'll see what I can pull off now

All the best!

- Rdawg

 

[mindful]

- Drck, Smith and Gem

Well, wouldn't ya know it? The girl texted me back today with "Hey, sorry for not getting back to you, i've been finishing up with exams so I haven't been to tentative to my phone. How've you been"

I guess I over thought this one quite a bit but at the same time I'm not use to girls taking 3 days to text me back. It was rather a unique situation because I haven't had a girl be that warm and take that long to respond back. At the same time though, a girl doesn't need to take 3 days to respond back. It only takes 2 seconds to send a message but at the end of the day, it's all a "game" like Drck said.

Thanks for the great advice guys, nailed this one down. I'll see what I can pull off now

All the best!

- Rdawg

I thought everyone else answered this quite well but just wanted to say I def feel where you are coming from. This has happened to me a few times, and like you, I over thought it and wanted to cave in and text again (and I'm glad I didn't). Sometimes it's easy to see it from your own perspective and what you would do. To any normal person, yeah, 3 days to respond? The fuck is that? But like the others have mentioned, it really is a game to a certain extent (with girls). This is where abundance mentality is huge and you can easily focus on another girl or meeting other girls.

Good Luck.

 

[Drck]

This is definitely tough one, there is always the "What if I do this and she might do that, but if I don't do anything she will be gone...". It's like she is 50/50, and you just need to push it to 55 so you can have a great date.

IMO the best way is to wait couple of days and then try for a date again. If she's gone she's gone, you can't do anything anyway, and you have nothing to loose.... She might be thinking though, and decide several days or even weeks later to go for a date, probably like this one, 3 days later. She is not hot about it but she is still interested, and if she goes for a date you could use the momentum in your favor... If you show that you are interested but not too pushy and not chasing, it might still be a great date.

You definitely want to invite her for a date again, don't make her push you to a friend zone by texting back and forth without seeing her face to face. Make it clear that you don't want to be her friend, that you are interested in only dating her, and stick to it no matter what she does...

 

[RDawg]

- Mindful, Drck

Yes, abundance mentality does come in huge here, as I've basically written this girl off at this point. I ended up trying to set up another date with this girl and she did the exact same thing when I suggested a few possible days. She gave me no response and it's been like 3 days again. Here's the texting:

Her:Hey, sorry for not getting back to you, i've been finishing up with exams so I haven't been to tentative to my phone. How've you been
Me: Good! Just finished exams up the other day and going out tonight to celebrate lol. How'd your exams go?
Her: Nice, that sounds like fun. Pretty good! I've just been really busy studying and I have my last exam Thursday morning.
Me: Oh nice! Well, I guess our schedule's didn't workout this week. When are you available to grab that drink or even maybe a bite?
Her: Well, i'm free anytime for the next 2 weeks after Thursday
Me: Alright! well how does Friday or Sunday work?
(No response)

Weird scenario. I've never had a girl do something like this before, twice in a row now lol. I get the feeling she has another guy in her life right now but it's on to the next for me lol. I've got a couple potential dates lined up this week, so if this girls decides to hit me up, then so be it, will see what happens but i'm not gonna beat around the bush with her and keep texting her like Drck said.

- Rdawg

 

[Chase]

RDawg-

Call her - she needs more rapport before she's ready for a date.

She's interested in you, but doesn't know you. Get her more comfortable first with a little phone conversation.

Chase