No second Dates. What am I doing wrong?

[noobofseduce]

I’m a 28-year-old guy who was pretty shy and introverted up until recently. I had almost no experience with women. I never approached anyone, flirted, or made a move.

Then, in August, I downloaded Tinder and Hinge, uploaded some good photos, and suddenly, the matches started pouring in. After some initial struggles with texting, I figured things out. On average, I get a woman’s number after just a few messages and set up a date. Apparently, I’ve always been what people would call a "Chad"; I just didn't realize it.

Texting goes great. I’m confident and playful, and there’s usually sexual tension. However, something seems off when it comes to the actual dates. Since August, I've been on 15 first dates with 15 different women, and not a single one has led to a second meeting.

At first, I thought it might be my looks. On the first date, I casually ask if I look like my photos. They always smile and say yes. So it doesn't seem to be that. The feedback I get is usually things like: "The vibe wasn't right," "No spark," "I'm not interested," or the classic "Let's just be friends."

Maybe I’m not creating enough tension or excitement in person. Perhaps I come across as too nice. Honestly, I’m not sure.

 

[AJAK]

I've been having the same issues. On my first date I was way too nice and was basically just an active listener, thus I was friend zoned. On my last date which was my 5th, I was more aggressive and used sex talk, and the meet up was terminated by my date shortly after.

I think we're just not meeting the right people most of the time.

i'm going to start using physical game from now on as described by Skills and I recommend you do the same since you got "the vibe isn't right" feedback. I guess the vibe wasn't sexual enough and utilizing physical game should fix that. I think using second gen sex talk can be risky sometimes and it isn't required in physical game. You mostly flirt non-verbally.

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