Non-Attachment & Full Engagement

[ChrisVirtue]

If there's one spiritual concept that contains immense power, it's the yin and the yang of simultaneous non-attachment while proceeding with massive action and full engagement in one's self-development.

I've been reading "Levels of Energy" recently and come to the conclusion that letting go of resistance is the key to progressing.

A lot of times I've tried to willpower my way into progression, but it's very much a power vs. force thing. Forcing yourself to approach is never as good as simply "relaxing into" an approach. Relaxing into the person you truly are.

We as humans all have infinite potential laying within us, and in order to access it, all that is required is a simple release of resistance to what is.

This goes along with the PUA tactic of expressing exactly how you feel to a given set. For instance, if you feel tired or nervous, tell the girl that early in the set... "I'm so tired today, but I thought you were cute". This actually frees up the energy around the thing and allows the tiredness to take its path.

In Levels of Energy, Dodson says that it's important to not be resistant towards lower level emotions because when you resist something, you feed it. What you resist, persists. Being honest with oneself, and honest with others, gets rid of the persona fatigue associated with trying to put on a front.

I currently live in Las Vegas. And do to certain circumstances, I've made a decision.

A commitment towards moving in the direction of a few traits I desire to embody.

Unshakable Confidence & Self-Esteem
- the ability to approach any person, say whatever I want or whatever I think is funny.
- the ability to feel a sense of self-worth and self-love that is stronger than any reactions I receive from others
- An unshakable foundation of self-belief
- masterful breaking rapport tonality no matter who I'm speaking with

Ultimate, Transcendant Frame
- the strongest frame in any room.
- piercing, unbreakable eye contact.
- complete non-reaction to any shit test, or change in environment
- entirely flexible, and spiritual understanding that nothing material matters, and that's what makes life a joyous playground
- filming youtube videos, knowing that they are dope and funny to me, having a blast making them and being unreactive to reception
- nearly everyone seeks my validation

100% Unstilfed & Non-Judgmental Expression
- ability to project my voice effortlessly
- ability to delve into any emotion shamelessly as relevant for communication and story-telling
- ability to be completely honest with others and myself
- talking about the elephant in the room at all time, and not feeling the need to justify/qualify my preferences and behaviors
- showing genuine emotions on camera and through acting and being ok with that
- the ability to love a girl and give her real unconditional love without be attached or needy

Irresistible Charisma
- the ability to get people to do things for me that they wouldn't do for anyone else, due to sheer charisma and humor
- the ability to use attraction triggers to make any girl attracted in any circumstance
- girls beg for sex with me, high status guys beg to be around me and give me money
- girls fall in love with me and tell me they love me often

These phrases excite me to my core and spark something in me. This is the path I've always been on. This is the path I've been getting slowly and surely better in as my self-growth journey has progressed.

I've realized that no matter how hot the girl is, or what the social situation is... these core things are what matter. It's not about looks, money, status. In fact, as I've become more attractive, my game results have gone down in many ways lol.

The truth is, it's all about frame. It's all about confidence. It's all about a deep-rooted sense of self-worth and thus non-neediness. It's all about non-attachment. The ability to fully love a girl and give her the best emotional stimulus possible without being attached to a given outcome. This is what makes sex happen.

The paradox is that when I love creating positive emotions in girls more than having sex with them, they literally want to rip my clothes off. And that's the mental framing I used to have.

I'm finally ready to reach a new peak in my own personal expressiveness abilities. My social communication abilities. I want direct connection with others.

And it's definitely time, to match that non-attachment transcendent frame with the simultaneous deep emotional engagement.

Every night of game is a new story to be written. The pen and instrument is me and my own charisma. This life is a playground, and cold approach is my favorite backyard game.

Right now, it's spring break in Vegas, and hot girls are everywhere. Soon, on May 1st, Vegas will open more fully, and I can have amazing cold approach opportunities every night. That means as of today, I have 35 days of preseason to tune everything up in myself socially and build the proper preselection systems as well.

But the thing that I've realized, is no matter how much preselection & status you have, nothing beats that foundation of social calibration and closing strategies. This is where I have an advantage over celebrities. That social confidence and ability is an absolute key that never goes away!

A few resources I plan on referencing in the coming weeks during my preseason:
Levels of Energy and other spiritual texts
Julien's courses, perhaps going in reverse order from transformation mastery, ten game, shift, and pimp
Todd's the system
Game Solved book series
Re-reading Jeffy's 9ball
Owen's High Status Communication Mentoring
Sartain's Men of Action
The Power of Full Engagement by Brian Tracy

I'm excited to continue on this journey. There are infinite hot young girls out there. My prime and my peak is yet to come

This journey is the most important journey for a man. I often say that cold approach is the hyperbolic time chamber of self-development for a man. Proper cold approach requires so many things to be aligned within, due to the nature of it relating with sex, which is the core driver for almost every man deep down.

I'm relaxing into that realization And it's time to go full engagement

 

[ChrisVirtue]

3/25/21: Thursday Night Spring Break in Vegas

Writing this the morning after.

Last night I popped out around midnight with my wing Silent Asian. He is honestly decent in game in many ways, but still has a long way to go. He approaches occasionally, and is a good complement to me because he builds comfort well, while I can focus on creating attraction. We still are not exactly in rhythm together as wings, so there's some things I can definitely do to create that chemistry and alignment. As well as coach him up a bit.

I did a few quick opens walking over while on the phone, and then we opened one set that was going well until we realized all three girls were married. Which is pretty crazy considering they were only 26 years old lol. Bitches getting wifed up extra quick nowadays.

Then I got Silent Asian to approach a 3set, and it went very well because they were "looking for a place to get drinks".

3 Tourist college girls, 2 of which were pretty cute. We pulled them to Chandelier bar, and they told us it was reservations only, which is kinda dumb. Right now Vegas is 50% capacity which means things are much more open than they used to be, but you still have to be slightly flexible in how you do things.

So we pivoted and took them to Vesper bar instead. These girls were very open and expressive, and did a lot of the talking. To be honest, I felt a little awkward and off initially, probably due to not approaching much recently, but I just eased into it. The line for the bar took a good 20 minutes of waiting, but the girls were engaged the whole time. We got seated, and I locked in on my girl who had the best logistics because she was in a separate friend group than the other two girls.

I slowly moved her towards more deep investment questions, but struggled to spark much attraction in her with sexual humor. This is something for me to work on for sure, to incorporate more sexual humor with sexual tonality and strong eye contact to build sexual tension. Reading some of game solved will help me with that surely.

Eventually, the 2 girls wanted to leave, and I was left with the other girl. I had preseeded pulling her to a beautiful rooftop view of Vegas, which is part of my condo. This makes my condo amazingly easy for pulling, because the view is fucking amazing, and then it's easy to access my spot from there. I can also just take them straight to my spot for a quick drink before the rooftop. But overall this system works very well, and I've pulled a ton recently, but only had 1 new close out of like 7 pulls due to miscalibrations and lack of proper sexual desire being cultivated. In fact I feel like with certain girls I honestly do too much DHVs making me unrelatable and intimidating, and if the girl is just a normal college girl, I should lean on DHVs less and focus on sexual tension.

So I pulled her straight to my condo actually, under the premise of water, because I offered her green tea after she said she was tired, and she said she didn't want any, but said she did want water.... lol

So I pulled her straight there, she asked for a shot of this "pink whitney" vodka.. so I guess girls like that shit lmao. Probably because it's pink.

We took the shot, and I used my closing line, "you know, you're actually pretty cute" then went in for the makeout. She was receptive, but then told me "I don't want to hook up". Of course, I did the classic LMR stuff of saying "of course not" and then hit her with "I'm putting you in my friendzone" line, which actually backfired a bit because it gave her an out of saying, perfect let's be friends. It didn't have the emotional impact I was hoping for, and I think it's much better to use that line earlier in the interaction rather than later. I did add a funny caveat though, saying, "it's ok though, I fuck all my friends" and that was fun to deliver lol.

No sex, and she asked to walk back to her hotel, which was like a 30 minute walk, would've been better to just get her an uber lmao.

Things I did well:
Went out!
Got in multiple good sets
Venue changed from cosmo floor to vesper bar
Pulled + Got makeout
Asked some deep investment questions and rewarded the girl for it

Things I could have done better:
Been more playful sexual, and less intimidating, I've felt a grim vibe of sorts with girls like they lack comfort with me and think I'm dangerous. This creates attraction to a degree, but the lack of comfort is killing me. It's like I lack comfort and I lack proper attraction lol
Done vocal warmup + eye contact practice
Have clean cups and shotglasses
Get a bedframe for my bed lol. My bed is currently on the floor, so I just need a bed frame for it, or I could buy a new bed

Lessons Learned:
Stock up with every mixer, fiji water, and alcohol and clean cups/shotglasses
Turn on music via my phone on spotify before entering the apartment, or just leave it on before I go out.
Try to be more playful sexual, and drop sexual lines earlier to seed the sexuality. More pressure on, pressure off as julien calls it

Goals for Next Time:
[ ] get clean cups/shot glasses and more mixers
[ ] watch one game video or read something game-related for 10 minutes.

 

[ChrisVirtue]

3/26/21: Friday Night Dinner + Game in Las Vegas

Writing this one the afternoon after. Been out gaming unnecessarily late the last few nights. It's much better if I simply get out earlier, because the sets are better from 8pm-12am. I've gone to bed at 5am each of the last two nights, which is concerning considering I have an acting class tomorrow at 10:45AM. Guess I should just roll out of bed and head there tomorrow lol.

I've been a little in my head about a model that I like in LA. I didn't respond to her last text for about 48 hours, and then she kind of left me on read for over 2 days now. And I saw on her snap story that she said she went all night without sleeping last night, which probably means she was partying lol.

This is a tendency that I often have, which is to get too attached to one girl and put her on a pedestal. Especially that I'm getting involved with model influencers in LA, that have connections and relationships with celebrities. I'm basically competing with rappers and athletes lol.

Funnily enough, she responded to my text right before I went to write this, so it definitely changes the tone a bit. It relates well to this journal. Which is, me simply succeeding with other attractive women, developing irresistible charisma, will create the sense of abundance that I wouldn't care about this girls lack of response to me. If I really think about it, if I had sex with another girl who was a similar level of attractiveness, then I probably wouldn't be so worried about her, and I wouldn't be overthinking our communication.

This leads me to the establishment of...

Chris Virtue's Golden Rule #1: Thou shall not have sex with the same girl twice in a row. Immediately after sex, Thou must set up a date or a plan to fuck another girl.

Maintaining abundance is an absolute key for our continued success and growth as men. Even if I were to date the LA model, I know that with this root neediness still existing, I would lack trust with her and still be feeling the same negative feelings if I saw her socializing with other men, etc. Thus, the best thing for me is to not date this girl, which is quite obvious from a third party view.

Still, the fact that I felt negative emotions and hurt shows that I'm still seeking validation and approval via sex from women.

Can I let go of the wanting for the LA Model to love me and fuck me?
Yes I can.

The wanting is what creates lack. Now that I've let go of it to some degree, I'm already thinking of plans that will enable me to hook up with her in the future. And focusing on things that benefit me to create a system that brings these hot girls into my life, whilst maintaining the proper game skills to close them.

So now onto the report of what happened last night!

Goals Evaluation:
[X] get clean cups/shot glasses and more mixers
- I now have plastic cups + plastic shot glasses, and I scooped up some Truli's. I also bought $1500 worth of furniture on amazon to make my condo more conducive for entertaining guests
[X] watch one game video or read something game-related for 10 minutes.
- I read Tylers classic post on the secret society of sex. Which definitely resonated with me as I realize I qualify too much, and make things too romantic/relationship seeking at times. Girls keep making me qualify about wanting love, etc. It's weird. I need to work on embodying the "guy who doesn't count" frame

Synopsis of Night:

I spent a good 2 hours with my wing, Silent Asian, picking out a bedframe and couch for my apartment. We could have been gaming during this time lol, but it is nice to know that my place will be suitable for pulling, and I plan on keeping this place for the next 2 years anyways, so it's worth it, especially come May 1st, furnishing the condo is a big part of the "game preseason".

I was invited to a party in my condo, so I popped over there, and it turns out all the girls were gone except for the one who invited me. Let's call her Blonde Divorcee. Blonde Divorcee is there by herself with 3 dudes, which is kind of odd. She invites me to join them for "one drink" at Javier's. So I do.

A friend also has set me up with 2 Chicago girls who are tourists in Vegas. I had planned to take them to dinner, so I pivot and invite them to Javier's instead.

The guy that Blonde Divorcee is with is a super rich young fuckboy who lives in LA and has a condo in Vegas as well. She met him on bumble apparently. He is a funny dude for sure, and has alpha high status game. He's got a strong edge to his personality and is always laughing. But he gets too drunk and is uncalibrated at times.

I tell Silent Wing to leave because I don't really see him servicing the set very well. And I'm pretty much stuck here, because Blonde Divorcee doesn't want me to leave. She's only with the LA bumble fuckboy to post him all over his IG story and make her boyfriend jealous lol.

The Chicago girls show up, one of them is a fairly cute brunette, a very sweet midwestern girl. A big difference from the LA and Vegas girls I've been around lmao. The other girl is not attractive enough for my standards.

And, they both have boyfriends... I'm not one to say that this makes them impossible lays, but the girl kept bringing up her boyfriend, and since they are in the same social circle as my friend, it's kind of hard to really push it. This is quite possibly a limiting belief, and it reminds me to look up material on dealing with boyfriend objection, since obviously a lot of tourists in Vegas are down to cheat on their boyfriends. And if it's gonna happen, it might as well be me lol.

So.... now I'm pretty much stuck at this table because I have to entertain the chicago bitches, and Blonde Divorcee is not wanting me to leave because apparently her boyfriend knows where she is and is coming. So it feels like it's possible a fight could happen between her bf and LA bumble fuckboy lol.

The guy does show up, but just lingers at the bar and doesn't approach the table. I roll out with the chicago girls and talk with the brunette a bit. She's letting me hold her hand and touch her, even though she has a boyfriend. Maybe she is DTF to some degree lol. I use faceapp on one of her photos and this entertains her a lot.

I say bye to the Chicago girls, and text blonde divorcee to make sure she's ok. She tells me she's not and she's crying at the table because of this weird situation. She also got divorced recently, so she's really just an emotional mess right now in general. I go to the table again to comfort her, and after another 30 minutes, I get out of the situation.

One good thing is I was able to connect with the guy who is a pretty funny and dope connect to perhaps buy tables and party with, so I'll definitely be hitting him up.

After this whole affair, it is now 2am, and I meet up with Silent Asian to do a few approaches. Nothing really sticks, and the pickings are sparse because it is later. However, it is nice to get a few approaches in, and one thing I noticed is that the first approach was somewhat scary, but after that my creativity opened a lot, and I was able to go more sexual with a few girls. I think my game is coming back slowly but surely, but I definitely want to keep studying game resources in order to really refine every part of my game and master the art of making girls chase.

At the end of the night, I ran into 3 girls I'm friends with that I'm helping 2 of them grow on IG, so it was nice to see them, although kind of awkward because they were really drunk, and I didn't want to really pull them or fuck them because of the relationship lol.

Things I did well:
Bought new bed frame, mattress, and couch
Got cups and shot glasses and Truli's
Made a connection with a rich fuckboy in my condo
Got IG stories of me with the 3 girls at dinner
Did a handful of approaches
Had some walking sets go well, where I approached + walked with.
Spent time around high status guys and learned some high status guy game

Things I could have done better:
Perhaps just dodged the whole situation with the blonde divorcee
I could have met up with the Chicago girls more briefly and screened them faster
Just got out earlier, do more approaches earlier, to have more fun, and get to bed earlier

Lessons Learned:
Hot girls are very powerful when networking with guys, especially when they are strong friends with me and thus I have more compliance over them than the guys would.
Basic cold approach is MY TIME. This is MY FUN in my life. And it's the foundation of positive emotions and charisma needed for me to feel happy.
I just feel HAPPY. Making cold approach a priority and writing these reports, and focusing on letting go of attachments. This is the happiest and most energized I've felt in a while.

Goals for Next Time:
[ ] First approach by 10PM latest

 

[Toby2030]

Great stuff. I love your dedication and the amount of time you spend in field! It seem like your problem isn't growing the balls and approaching the girls around you, but rather hooking them in. You should consider adjusting your goals after where you have problems in your interaction rather than things outside of what's happening in field. Bacchus describes different transition phases in one of his articles: https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-master-transition-phases-and-be-smooth-women
1. Open to hooking her in
2. From hooking to isolation
3. From isolation to pull
4. From pull to sex

Look at each set you have and look at which transition phase you had problems in. Your problem seem to be in transition phase 1 (at least in your cold approach scenarios). You should then not focus on reading other material than material relating to your sticking point - hooking: https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-hook-girls-pt1-pre-opener As you just start out in learning game, everything can be full of anxiety, confusion and doubt. The more you go out where you focus only on what your are having troubles with right now, the more you will improve. And the more you read about just your sticking point and field test the theory, the more you'll quickly find your style and what works for you, which will make your game even better.

The faster you frame celebrities in your own head as no big deal, the easier it will be for you to focus on what really matters - the emotional experience of the girl. Once you have been around enough celebrities, you'll start to understand that very few of them have very good game. Once you learn good game, you will beat those guys out of the arena. They might get a lot of the attention but you are the one that's leaving with her when the night is over.

 

[ChrisVirtue]

3/28/21: Saturday Night Las Vegas Game Marathon

Writing this the day after at 4:30pm. Game has fucked my sleep schedule lol, but tbh I'm very happy being able to game again

High volume cold approach is what I love. It is the closest thing to a passion I've had in my life lol. Maybe that and rapping/singing.

It's worth it to have a weird sleep schedule to be able to game lmao.

Anyways.... let's get to it, you fucks!

Synopsis of Night:

So Silent Asian comes over around 5PM and basically hangs with me while I do yoga, and lift weights, which btw my muscles are sore today! Which is dope, I'm definitely trying to get jacked this year. I'm already very cut 170lbs but if I could bump it to 180 or 190 of cut muscle, I'd look fucking amazing lol.

We do a vocal warmup, and I give him some tonality + engagement coaching, and we head out around 9PM

Goals Evaluation:
[X] First approach by 10PM latest
- did my first approach at 9PM ! Success

I start approaching, and right away I have a lot of energy and vitality for a good 2 hours. Nothing is hooking that well. One of the issues is right now in Vegas, it's very hard to find stationary sets. Pretty much all of the girls are walking towards me. So, the only way to open and hook is to open at an angle and then walk with the girls while staying in front of them so you don't fall behind and either lose them or have a creepy vibe.

Basically, it requires me to be very on-top of things and somewhat aggressively with positioning. For some reason I have a mental block on opening the girls and walking with. I explain to Silent Asian that it just feels weird to do, even though I understand that from the perspective of the girl, that body positioning doesn't feel weird at all. To be honest, it probably just feels weird since I'm not used to doing it, and it's not exactly a common day-to-day behavior for me.

We actually end up practicing approach angles and walking backwards/walking with on eachother and this helps lol.

We walk all the way to the Wynn, north end of the strip, to check it out, but it's pretty dead. I hook a decent looking Russian girl there and get her number.

We walk back to the better game areas of the strip, and this is where something really odd happens. I encourage Silent Asian to open a 4 set of latinas, and he actually hooks them. I come in and start dropping solid game on this short, decent looking latina. She's loving it, and is giving me some sexual interest statements. For instance, I say "you look like a drug dealer, you probably have pounds of cocaine strapped to you" and she responds "want to search me? ".

Anyways, the vibe with this short latina is on, and I know I could fuck her right away if I isolated her from the group. Silent Asian starts leading them towards "getting drinks" which is a good leading move by him. We get to line for the drinks, and the 2 left out friends from the 4 set pull away my girl and her friend to go to the bathroom. They told us to wait where we are.

I felt like waiting for them is a bad move and that I should've just went with them. I'm starting to realize that engaging the friends more would've helped or at least I should've tried to isolate my girl and seen if she would've gone for it.

When they come back, they are in a completely different mood, apparently some girl drama is going down. They are actually extremely rude to me. I literally just wave and say "what happened" and she says, "leave us alone, walk away". So the mood just became completely fucked up.

We end up running into them on the strip again 10 minutes later, and I push Silent Asian to open them. The girls flip out on him as well, and then even pull out a taser and shock it in his direction. This is COMPLETELY uncalled for and one of the craziest things I've ever seen happen in my 1000+ nights of game. Fucking crazy latinas man lmao.

After this, me and Silent Asian have a bit of an adrenaline high, and I feel like we were a bit shook and confused. We were calibrated and kind to these girls, and they immediately became harsh with us with zero explanation. & I'll never get an explanation. Girls get a pass.

I do feel like this "harsh rejection" opened up my game a lot. We had the worse possible thing happen, but we are still alive and kickin'.

The next few sets we open, I start to hit a stride with my "pressure on, pressure off" pocket. This is probably the most helpful game tactic or mindset. It's crazy how when I stack breaking rapport tonality statements, the energy has to go somewhere. And if I maintain frame and proper facial expressions, the girl will start laughing. The key thing is I have to maintain eye contact and not laugh lol.

LAY REPORT #1: (going to just start over with 1 for the sake of this thread. My total laycount is slightly higher than 1, wink wink)

So we end up in a set with 3 girls and one boyfriend. Silent Asian and I are gaming the 2 available girls. And it's going well, I get the sense that I could pretty much fuck either. These are average girls btw... and let's just leave their description at that lol.

We pull them to the line to get pizza, and it's a long line. Silent Asian randomly bounces with his girl, and I'm left with this cute nerdy girl, so I pull her on the premise of showing her the rooftop quickly. I know that my rooftop closes at 2AM, and it's currently 2:30AM, but I pull her regardless to my rooftop, and then I'm like "oh damn, it's closed, too bad!" and then I show her the view from my gym. I then pull her to my condo, without pretty much any verbal leading. She's a little confused but doesn't care. We take a shot of "Pink Whitney" which bitches love... I need to buy more of this shit!

And then I hit her with my closing line "You're actually pretty cute" and then commence makeout. She is receptive and lets me finger her right away and things go well from there

Then I take her back to meet up with Silent Asian and her other friend. They end up gambling on slots for 3-4 hours. And then Silent Asian and me go get food at 7AM to end the night.

I felt like I felt unnecessarily stuck with the girls while they were playing slots and it was kind of a waste of time when I should've went to bed, because going to bed at 8AM was unnecessary lol and it made me miss something I wanted to attend this morning.

It also felt odd hanging with the girl after sex, because she wasn't exactly a dimepiece, and I wasn't interested in making much eye contact with her. So in the future, after a lay with a girl I don't have interest in seeing again, I want to do better at getting out of the set.

I showered right upon getting back, perhaps a habit I'd like to instill so I can put on moisturizer before bed to maintain good skin.

And slept well in my room that thankfully doesn't let in much light !

Things I did well:
Pulled and closed
Improved my "walk with" approach positioning and got more comfortable with it
Did my first approaches at 9PM, enabling me to reach higher levels of state by 1am
Drank coffee while out to stay energized
Improved my creation of sexual tension and sexual framing through use of "pressure on, pressure off"
Lifted weights + did yoga
Did 50+ approaches
Met a cool connect, the assistant of a youtuber I like
Maintained stronger eye contact with girls and maintained strong frame
Didn't overthink my opens much, and just went 3, 2, 1 GO

Things I could have done better:
Been more aggressive to open assertively + walk with to have a chance of hooking more sets. I could see if I got this down properly, I could maybe hook 50-80% of sets, and from there moving to a pull + close should be somewhat easy if I get a system down.
Opened more mixed sets + sets with the hottest girls.
Ditched the set and gone to bed at a more reasonable time, 4AM lol
Tried to isolate the latina to see if she would've gone for it.

Lessons Learned:
Mastering hooking walking sets is the biggest ROI thing for me to learn right now
Pressure on, pressure off is extremely effective for me
Pulling to the rooftop, and it "being closed" is a decent pull routine
Showering before bed feels great

Goals for Next Time:
[ ] Read the Article on Hooking the guy in the post above suggested

 

[ChrisVirtue]

3/28/21: Sunday Night Las Vegas Stroll

Writing this at 9PM the day after. Writing field reports directly after going out has been a bit of a struggle lol.

I have 5 girls coming over shortly to take them all to dinner, so let's dive right into this and I'll keep it short!

Goals Evaluation:
[X] Read the Article on Hooking the guy in the post above suggested
- I did read part 1 of what I now know is a 9 part article series on hooking... lol so I will read the rest at some point. I actually got sucked into the hyperlinks on girlschase and read like 10+ other articles, which increased my understanding of a few recent experiences with models

Synopsis of Night:
I head out to meet Silent Asian at Cosmo at around 10PM. We link, and start doing a few sets here and there. I'm talking a lot about the articles I just read on girlschase, and trying to consolidate my thoughts and use what I learned to practically improve my game.

One thing I did well in particular was being more aggressive in terms of positioning with walking sets. I tried a little more of a side angle approach and walking ahead of them before opening, which seemed to be more natural.

In fact with the set I ended up pulling, I was mid-set with 2 random older women, and just pivoted right off them into the next open. Which felt very smooth lol. I missed that smoothness feeling

We walk to Caesers and it's pretty dead, but we run into another wing of mine who has only recently moved to Vegas two days ago. Let's call him Latinboy. (he's a good looking mexican guy with a beard lol)

So now we have 3 dudes gaming, me, Silent Asian, & Latinboy. I've not gamed with Latinboy before, so we are still building chemistry and getting to know eachother. We run into some hiccups because he has a tendency to be very aggressive and direct, and jumps into my sets just as I am opening as well lol.

I will coach him up a bit, but he definitely has potential.

One girl I meet likes me a lot, she's a short pudgy latina girl. I would smash in a vacuum, but she's not very exciting. Less attractive than the girl from last night.

As we are walking back from Caesers. I open a 2 set of a cute short mexican girl, and a blonde girl. It hooks very well, and I immediately am venue changing them to "get drinks" at Caesers. This is one of the good things about walking sets, is it enables me to immediately enter a leading frame and the set is already moving, so it's easy to move them towards a new venue/activity.

We run into Latinboy at Caesers and he immediately dives into the latina girl at my set, almost completely ignoring me lmao. Which is kind of weird for optics because it appears like we aren't friends. Thankfully I am aware of this so I at least dap him up a bit. He basically pulls the latina girl to go get food/drinks, and then I pull my blonde girl to go check out the rooftop. I take her to the rooftop, because it's still open at 1am, and again she is super happy with it. It really is a spectacular view, so overselling it isn't an issue.

I then pull her to my spot for drinks, and we start making out pretty quickly, I'm fingering her through the holes in her jeans lol. But she hits me with the "we're not hooking up tonight" and even though I do normal LMR of "yeah of course we aren't" plus keep escalating, it doesn't work well.

I need to work more on how I handle LMR because I definitely see the ability to learn how to manage it correctly and fuck a much higher percentage of pulls than I currently am. Anyways, I do end up eating her out lol and at one point, she said, we're not having sex, at least not tonight... but I'm seeing her again in a few minutes, so hopefully she will let me seal the deal during round 2.

It turns out that Latinboy pulled and fucked his latina girl, so good for him. It's kinda impressive because where he is living is pretty far off the strip. Apparently the girl was somewhat sketched out, but it worked I guess and he helped me isolate my girl. I'll definitely need to talk to him though about making things smoother.

I walk my girl back to Flamingo where she is staying, and she invites me up so I stay the night in her bed. Her latina friend returns and instantly passes out. I push for sex obviously, but she's not down, so I sleep there. She fucking left the blinds open, so I got a shitty night of sleep. I should've taken the accountability to close them properly, so that's on me. Again, would've been nice to get out of the set better, and get home to write this field report, get a good night sleep and properly take on the day!

Things I did well:
Went out on a sunday (4-5 nights in a row?)
Had some of my best hooks with walking sets
Approached 15+ walking sets
Went more aggressive with positioning on walking sets
Read through a bunch of girlschase articles to screw my head on right
Pulled + nearly closed
Set up 5 girls dinner for tonight
Met a new wing, Latinboy
Got latinboy laid via my set
Built my new bedframe, I now finally have a bed lmao

Things I could have done better:
Managed the LMR better. Often times I feel that LMR makes me lose my frame with the girl, and I start qualifying more and trying weird shit to overcome the LMR, I need more of a system for LMR that I know has a high success rate and that if it fails, then I know to simply exit the set quickly. I have my suspicion that it may never be that systematic, but who knows
Less theory talk in the field
Text back the LA Model I've been texting
Have more alc at my spot

Lessons Learned:
Getting used to opening walking sets is valuable and has its own set of benefits
Having a better system for LMR would be helpful

Goals for Next Time:
[ ] Focus on having fun + less theory when I'm out, save the theory for during the day

 

[ChrisVirtue]

3/29/21: 5 Girls, 1 Dinner

I'm shockingly writing this at the end of the night, 4:45am, with the blonde girl from the night before in my bed sitting to the left of me.

So that's interesting... she's giving me LMR again lol.

Goals Evaluation:
[X] Focus on having fun + less theory when I'm out, save the theory for during the day
- I definitely had fun tonight, drank a few drinks, as these girls peer-pressured me to do it. Wasn't thinking about theory at all, that's for sure lmao

Synopsis of Night:
So tonight was a Monday night, and thus cold approach is more difficult as there is currently not much volume on a Monday night in Vegas. Blonde Divorcee hits me up and tells me she has 2 friends in town and wants to get drinks with them. I hit up the blonde chick from yesterday and invite her + her friend out.

I end up snagging a 10pm dinner reservation at Javier's at Aria - a solid spot for tequila drinks and appetizers.

The 2 girl groups both arrive right at 9:45pm.

I'm still getting dressed. I throw on a shirt as Blonde Divorcee walks in with 2 friends. One has a somewhat cute face, other is not so hot. Neither are particularly attractive.

The 2 set from yesterday I head down to let them in the elevator.

I then get the girls all set up with drinks + music while I brush my teeth and put on clothes.

We do a couple small shots, I snag a couple IG stories.

Then, we all head out to get dinner + drinks. I sit in the middle of the booth, 3 girls to my right and 2 to my left. It's interesting being the sole guy here, and I try to take up lots of physical space, as well as engage each member of the group. This style of social circle game I'm learning to be quite effective at creating attraction with pretty much all girls. The ability to pivot from one girl to another creates so much social value and seeking of validation, because the amount of validation I can give is limited.

The girls also make me drink at dinner, giving me shit for being half-way through one drink. This annoys me because who cares how much I'm drinking lol. I should just pour out the drink next time or something lol. Because now I'm feeling hungover the day after.

After dinner, I seed taking them to the rooftop, but first we all go to CVS where I pickup 3 handles of tequila to stock up my bar. This is helpful that the girls help me do this, as I needed more liquor at my spot.

We go back, make drinks, fuck around, pop up to the rooftop pool briefly, but it's windy up there so the girls don't like it.

Head back to my spot, I end up on the bean bag with a brunette girl, who is giving me lots of sexual tension and prolonged eye contact, she literally invites herself to go into my bedroom to "see the view" lol. It's funny that this is what a lot of male actions must seem like to women.

I can't fuck her though, because the blonde girl is there as well, or maybe I could. Part of me is thinking this situation could turn into a 6some fairly easily if i just pull my dick out.

Blonde Divorcee calls an uber so they can head out

LAY REPORT #2:
I walk down blonde divorcee & her 2 friends, to make sure they are situated for an uber, and then I guide the brunette into the first floor lobby bathroom. It's actually a lockable family restroom, covered with mirrors, which is pretty cool. I make out and turn her around and start smashing from behind

Then I get the girls in their uber, and head back upstairs to the 2 girls still at my spot. We all lay on the beanbag, and the friend of the blonde is receptive to me running my hand on her thigh. I think I could have escalated further with competition framing, such as "who's the better kisser" and at least tried to escalate from there... maybe could have fucked them both.

The blonde has been annoying me due to her lack of compliance, and frequent odd frame challenges, such as asking me "what" all the time when I laugh or make eye contact. I'm sure there is a way to decondition this behavior. In fact, I forced her to do some basic compliance tasks such as filling up the brita filter, which she was resistant to, so I basically had to hold my ground on that, and I rewarded her after she did it with physical touch and words of encouragement.

It's funny I guess that's the way to train girls, just pull away attention and validation when they do something bad, or even say something negative, and reward when they do something good. This requires extreme awareness of the girls behavior and whether what she is doing is good or bad. It requires some discernment as well because it can sometimes be hard to know for sure if a behavior is good or bad or neutral.

Anyways, I convince both girls to stay over at my spot. They want pajamas, and the friend uses my facewash to take off her makeup. It's nice that my condo is becoming a safe-haven for girls. Even blonde divorcee knows how to get past the front desk into my condo.

The blonde girl comes to my (new!) bed and I start escalating, she lets me pull off her pants and underwear, but again won't let my dick go in her. I think I should have at least tried saying "want me to grab a condom?" and see if that worked, but tbh her noncompliance was just annoying me. It's not attractive to me when girls aren't compliant and their challenges are weak and unexplained. If they have strong challenges that are fun, then I love those type of girls. This blonde girl is just not worth the investment.

I freeze her out fairly hardcore, by picking up my laptop and writing this field report, which feels kind of odd because I don't want her to be able to read it. But maybe I just shouldn't have cared lol.

I fall asleep, pretty decent night sleep, wake up hungover.

Things I did well:
Took 5 girls out to dinner by myself. Key word = by myself, as this required strong framing. A couple times one of the girls complained about "the ratio" which I now realize was just a shit test/frame test. And I handled it well, basically responding with "well if you want to find other guys you can leave" in a very non-caring way.
Stocked up on tequila
Closed the brunette
Had a chance to close the second girl as well, she did give me a little bit of a BJ in the morning.
Put myself in position for a potential 3some
Got to check out the lobby bathroom, and now I know it's a good pull spot.
Started my field report before going to bed!

Things I could have done better:
Drank less - this is the big one, I drank 3-4 drinks maybe even 5, which is a lot for me and explains why I feel hungover
Took my vitamins - these help with hangover prevention
Did my yoga - my shoulder hurts today because I started lifting heavier again and need to stretch daily
Gone for the 3some with subtle escalators - that's one of the things I'm realizing, is that my common thing to work on, is simply trying the next logical step in sets and seeing what happens. For instance with the girls if I said "who's the better kisser", then worst case they simply say, "we're not doing that" and then it's over. Best case = leads the energy towards a 3some.
Have more money so a dinner expense like that isn't crazy

Lessons Learned:
Dinners are expensive, but currently one of the best container events.
Having 5 girls and 1 dude is fun & a good test of my entertainment and holding frame abilities
Training girls is doable, and I'm nearly there. Just require some more practice and patience
Still need to understand LMR techniques

Goals for Next Time:
[ ] Read a girlschase article on LMR or find a good resource elsewhere

 

[ChrisVirtue]

3/31/21 - 4/4/21: 5 Days of Being a Las Vegas Fuck Boy

Goals Evaluation:
[ ] Read a girlschase article on LMR or find a good resource elsewhere
- nope, but I should lol

3/31/21: Wednesday
I took blonde divorcee out to dinner and was supposed to have some girls with me. I leveraged her to open a cute girl at the bar. She hooked her easily, allowing me to build rapport and get her on IG. Then I went to Aria to find my blonde chick. It's her last night here in Vegas and she has promised me she is DTF. I can't find her and instead link with 2 NYC girl tourists who are super cool. I end up pulling them to my condo instead, and as I'm walking them out, I walk past my blonde girl. She is kinda pissed lol. Don't close either of these girls, but they are in town for the next few days so that is good.

4/1/21: Thursday
LAY REPORT #3:
A girl from LA hits me up, and I invite her to LA. We shall call her emo girl. She drives over while I nap. I needed a recovery night from my non-stop debauchery. She actually shows up and brings a ton of shit in bags. I take her to dinner, pull her back, throw on a movie and we end up fucking very quickly.

4/2/21: Friday
Emo girl is already starting to irritate me. I need to stop letting girls live at my place like this lol. It was nice to fuck her, but she keeps talking to me non-stop about her trauma, and she's kinda just a downer to be around. She very much has a victim mindset. I'm reading "Levels of Energy" while she's talking and realizing that what Dodson says about how victim mindset people basically radiate an energy that makes others want to abuse them definitely applies to her. It's crazy interesting. I'm trying to not be resistant to discussing these topics, but I'm definitely realizing she is a vibe-killer, and whilst perhaps non-attachment to going to these negative mental places is possible, for me currently being on an upward trend it could easily kill my positivity and momentum.

I take her out to a group dinner, it goes well, and it's fun, but I'm drinking a lot, which is something I'd like to avoid. Drinking seems to kill my momentum, and I'm lucky that none of these sugary drinks are causing acne for me.

On the ride back, she creates drama over something random, and moves out. I started arguing with her, which made her move out lol. But overall it was a relief since even just 24 hours with this human seemed to damage my momentum considerably. In comparison to other girls who are actually supportive and encouraging... she just sucks. And perhaps I could have changed her for the better, if I was in a better state myself and more practiced in NLP.

After she leaves I do a few approaches, but nothing really sticks.

4/3/21: Saturday
I'm rearing to go out and cold approach after last night of a "social circle dinner" feeling like a waste of time + I drank so it actually set me back. Sober cold approach is in many ways a panacea for me & sparks my creative drive.

LAY REPORT #4:
I head out and do a few approaches. I'm super energized because I had a strong coffee at dinner with some friends. I'm kinda going ham... doing 6 sets by myself. I find a 3 set of decent looking latinas and it somehow hooks. I build good sexual tension with one of the girls, and then baby step them to Aria, then to my rooftop pool for drinks, which they like and are compliant with. The rooftop closes 30 min later, and I pull them all to my room, again with pretty much no pull reason. Once the set is hooked to the rooftop, they come to my condo pretty much every time.

I end up dancing with the cutest girl in the group, and then pull her into my room to smash. She's instantly down.

4/4/21: Sunday
I'm feeling super drained today, but I'm somehow convinced by Silent Asian to go out. We get out late around midnight, and I get a few approaches in, which I'm happy about because it maintains my momentum. I've been letting my success habits slip. Haven't meditated in 7 days or done yoga in 7 days. My mind and body are certainly feeling it. I feel overwhelmed, worn out, and disorganized.

And that's ok. It's not cold approach that did this to me, in fact, cold approach is increasing my confidence and I even went to an acting class, which really racked my nerves lol. I'm sure I'd feel more comfortable filming youtube videos nowadays.

What did this to me, was simply a lack of discipline. Drinking too much. 2 hour debriefs with wings, that are nothing more than me just stroking my ego. And a lack of discipline to jump straight into my success habits at the start of the day.

This is my main challenge. Creating momentum towards the character I want to become. Threading the needle of cold approach confidence building and experimentation with my brand of being a photographer/youtuber. While also maintaining my health and spiritual goals.

Money is also slightly an issue. And although I have things in place to fix it by the end of the year, those things aren't moving as fast as I would hope.


Things I did well:
Went out 5 nights in a row and did approaches every night!
Did many solo approaches, to the point where I'd probably feel fairly comfortable going out solo
Went to a dramatic acting class and did a monologue
Pulled most nights
Closed 2 new girls
Pushed myself to keep going out
Set up my condo nicely for pulling
Became very comfortable pulling

Things I could have done better:
0 drinking - idc how persuasive the girls are, I deserve to give myself the gift of being sober and not being hungover the next day!
Focused on my success habits, and have the discipline to not let go of them. (maybe I should reduce the success habits and instead dial in on just meditation, because that is really the grounding habit that gives me the focus to do other ones.)
Focus on writing these field reports and individual growth tasks over wasting time chatting with wings.
Try going out alone - I might find it more freeing than relying on a wing

Lessons Learned:
Individual growth habits come above all else. I've noticed this tendency to become "sucked into game" and I kind of lose myself. I love game and the power it brings me. But staying on top of my own health, values, and mission is important as well. The key is certainly to strike a balance. How can I find a way to dedicate hours to crafts and missions that excite me, while also having the fun of game at night ? I think off-nights are key, as well as meditation since this allows me to let go of the mental stresses that seem to cause me to fall into escapism. In other words, game can and should be an enhancement to my life, and never a chore!
I'm just tapping into the power of my game, with continued study and success habits, I have the potential to be the best communicator in the world, and driving that ability towards youtube and acting will create spectacular results.

Goals for next time:
[ ] take an off night + get to bed early

 

[ChrisVirtue]

4/8/21 - 4/9/21:

Goals for next time:
[X] take an off night + get to bed early
- I took off monday-wednesday and slept a shit ton on monday/tuesday. I was probably fighting off something I picked up from one of the many girls I pulled recently lmao. It is important for me to recognized when my energy is overly drained and have proper recovery systems incorporated.

So, I'm excited to dive into this report, as I think there is a lot for me to learn here. I know that these reports are what allow me to properly process my experiences in the field and grow from them. Thus, they are both enjoyable as fuck to write and a valuable growth experience. Just like pick-up itself.

Monday-Wednesday, I kind of dived into escapism and avoidance tendencies. I was feeling overwhelmed due to a lack of vitality as well as numerous tasks and responsibilities stacking up where I simply didn't have the mental energy to confront any of them. This is a pattern for me in my life - taking massive action in one area of my life until I hit a certain success barrier and start avoiding and resisting certain actions to propel my life forward. Yes, these are often "tasks" and can be viewed as such. For instance, building a business can be viewed as "work" as thus something negative to avoid. But in my case and for many, work itself is the most fulfilling thing I can spend time on quite often. It's learning the everlasting principles of business and wealth creation. It's evolving and growing myself and my responsibilities.

And that's why I'm happy with what I titled this thread. It's still 100% accurate in terms of what I want to move towards. The reason I resist things that are objectively good for me, is always related to ATTACHMENT. Attachment to a certain identity. Attachment to a certain emotional state. Attachment to a certain pattern - ex: a procrastination pattern, mindlessly consuming digital content to distract myself from resolving the internal blockages. The more I look on this, Julien is right with his transformation mastery stuff. That type of thinking (and I'd say that Julien is not the best teacher of it btw, I'm not a blind fanboy ) is the way towards massive success. Learning that happiness or state change never comes from the material success or the results you get. If you think having sex with your favorite IG model is going to make your life perfect, you're dead wrong. Why? Because you're having sex with her.... and then you're not. And when you're not, you are back to you.

It reminds me of a phrase I think of often: "wherever you go, there you are". That phrase can be expanded to: "whatever you possess, you will one day have to let go of".

My possessions, my experiences, they are all temporary. And it can be viewed as apathy or truly sweet joy in life. All good feelings and good states happen in the now. They happen from within as well. Now the external obviously can impact our internal, but it is still the internal that has the final say! And this means that we can always feel good, feel abundant, feel happy in the present.

The reason for instance, I feel lack when a girl I like isn't responding to my messages or I'm alone without sex for a few days, is because I myself am not in a fantastic emotional state at that moment. One of my mentors says, "text the girl as if you just had an orgy with 5 super hot girls". Well the truth is, learning state control and pushing myself to "higher vibration" states is the equivalent of just having an orgy with 5 super hot girls.

IE: if I simply felt happy and good, then I wouldn't care whether a girl has responded to me over text. I wouldn't feel that lack emotion. I wouldn't worry as much about the outcome, and could thus proceed to do my best to move things forward properly with the girl without letting it rule my self-esteem and feelings of self-worth.

4/8/21: Thursday LA Photoshoot
I have a 6:24AM flight from Las Vegas to LA this morning, where I'm attending a photoshoot with 8 models as a photographer. Due to my excessive oversleeping of the last few days, I somehow end up sleeping from 7pm-12am and I can stay up until 6am to make my flight. I end up finishing Avatar the last airbender on netflix. Great show, and I truly relate to the character Zuko in how he puts himself through torment to get his parent's approval... until he gets it and realizes it doesn't matter at all and he'd rather live towards his own values. It mirrors my story with my parents as well, and perhaps I still overseek their approval and haven't learned to properly live towards my own values just yet.

I end up procrastinating packing and rush to shower and pack, leaving at 5AM and when I end up walking to my gate at the airport, I missed the flight by about 5 min. This frustrated me slightly - but after a few min I accepted it and all I could do really is laugh and embrace it. Over the last 7 days or so I'd been sacrificing the self-care and self-responsibility to stay non-attached and full-engaged. I'd again been taking my success for granted to some degree and dropping the habits that empower me to be in great states.. I haven't meditated at all for 7 days and barely been doing my vocal warmups or exercising or doing yoga.

So, I actually was excited to instead drive to LA and get to use the drive to zone into an audiobook without the distractions of my condo. I often try to read a book and then end up on my laptop or my phone or various distractions. But there's something about that early morning drive to LA... perhaps early mornings in general, when everyone else is asleep or carried away with their own mornings. No distractions. And I thus became absorbed into a wonderful Frederick Dodson book I discovered, essentially an extension to levels of energy as I'm sure all his books are to some degree. It's called "Increase Your Energy". This book functions like a guided hypnosis and NLP session and a lot of things subconsciously clicked for me. This empowered my day to be very relaxed going forward. The main question I have from this is where do I go from here, because the subconscious click quickly went away by the next day. The first thing that comes to mind is to just stay dialed in using guided hypnosis and float tanks to keep learning this letting go process. And again, to not even be too attached to that process.

I tried to explain the process to some of my coaching students, and again the process of explanation itself, served to make myself feel as I was qualifying and not getting the validation. I was seeking validation in my new "paradigm shift" and when they don't understand it or excel, it weakens the theory in my head. Even though I know it is right, I lose some of the romance of the paradigm shift. From this I can learn to not overly divulge my personal paradigm shifts and instead focus on what the client needs.

So, the drive was excellent, and I pull up to the photoshoot early, which is good. I start shooting a few of the models, and my game dials in very well. I'm very relaxed and non-needy, guess the prior weeks of non-stop cold approach are doing something

LAY REPORT #5:
Throughout the shoot, I'm building rapport and drinking a few drinks with a pretty hot blonde model. After the shoot, she says she has to go, but I encourage her to stay, saying "what you're not gonna stay to have drinks with me?"

She stays, and starts downing tequila shots + encouraging me to have them. I at one point, isolate her into a different room, and kiss her on the neck, which she likes. Then she keeps wanting me to feel her boobs, telling me that they are real, which I keep saying "no way, I don't believe you"... and then I finally pull her into a bathroom, saying "ok, let me check in private" And I pull out her boobs, feel them up, and then make out with her, which she is receptive. I try to escalate more, but she declines and we go back up for more tequila, and get a hookah set up.

There's another photographer there who's trying to talk to this girl as well, but thankfully his game is shit, so every second he's talking to the girl, he's effectively gaming her for me and increasing my relative value by comparison. I do push him to leave though, and he gets an uber and fucks off.

Now we are smoking hookah on the roof, just me and the girl (which btw I don't inhale it haha because I don't smoke). And we are told it is time to leave the house, so I take this opportunity to be very assertive and authoritative, saying "we have to leave, we're getting kicked out, cmon let's go" and I pull her to my car, and start driving quickly. I pull over multiple times while driving and escalate a bit, effectively doing the fractionation towards sex. She says we need to get her a nicotine vape before proceeding so I do that, and then pull over again in a random neighborhood. I navigate though any LMR and fuck her in the car. She gives amazing head as well. Then I go back to hers for round 2 and she lets me sleep over, which is amazing, because I didn't have a sleeping location for that night lmao.

It's honestly impressive to me that I can drive to LA with no living situation planned out and meet a new hot model that also allows me to sleep at her spot.

This was a very fun day in which I was very in my element. The Dodson book helped me a lot to get out of my head and release a lot of internal things that were holding me back from simply being present and pushing towards new fun experiences, not trying to recreate anything.

4/9/21: Friday Night LA Party
I wake up in the model's bed, she let me sleep in until 11am, which is fantastic as I needed sleep. I put in earplugs the night before which she was talking, which was fantastic because she was starting to get annoying. I'm slightly hungover, so I grab coffee with her and then shower at her place. I do a tiny bit of work as well at her house, but I still haven't organized the photos or sent them to the models yet...

I'm kind of slow-moving. And perhaps I'm resistant to the fact that there's a party in LA tonight I've been invited to. In fact, one of the models I met yesterday is going, and I found her very cute and awesome so I'm excited to see her there.

The party situation is confusing as it's very VIP and exclusive on the guest-list. Supposedly I need to bring girls to get in, which I try to do, and now I'm stuck inviting models. I'm realizing that I need a better WMS to manage models so I know in a pinch the girls I have the most rapport with or open-threads with to quickly invite to events. I will definitely work on this.

So I'm kind of distracted with this task, and I have coaching calls with my students today. Honestly, while I like helping them, they are fairly demanding, especially the one who hasn't paid for his coaching lol. I need to confront him on making his next payment.

I go to the Roosevelt hotel to try to do work on my laptop, but there isn't highspeed internet there, and I end up ranting instead to my coaching students for hours. I want to give them value, and I definitely do... but it comes at a sacrifice to my own values. For instance, a better use of my time would've been to simply write the field report from yesterday + do a meditation, do a vocal warmup and do some tasks.

I then go to Zara because I have a giftcard there and I'm under the impression that I need some new clothes for the party so I'm not wearing the exact same clothes. Fitting rooms are closed so I have to guess on the jeans I buy, and they are probably a little too small lol, but I'm keeping them anyways.

Then I have to grab food at a restaurant that isn't that good, before directly heading to the party. It's good that we showed up early because there ends up being a huge line later on. And looking back, I'm frustrated that I didn't meditate and do my vocal warm up. Like seriously, this is a party with a bunch of social media influencers, a great opportunity to game girls that are literally famous, and I didn't bring my best voice. This has to be proof that success barriers exist for me lol....

Anyways, I'm kind of nervous and awkward at the party. I feel out of place around all these people more famous to me. Literally everyone there has more followers than me. So it's pretty awesome that I'm even there. I connect with a few people, and am able to build rapport with a famous model with 2 mil on IG. Which is dope because she's super hot and has dated a few celebs I admire.

I am drinking a little bit at the open bar, but again I don't really feel drunk haha. It's tough to do opens here - very hard environment for game as it's very social circle-y with different cliques sticking together, and there's a dance floor that's very hard to open on as well. I find a few sets that go ok, but I'm not able to build rapport with any of the guys very well. I feel kind of alone and like an outsider... and I'm not sure how much of this is due to the environment vs my internal state and my game being off. It's a different style of game than what I'm recently used to. It's much more based upon cultivating a hub of people and getting a group vibe going.

I do see the cute girl that I liked from the day before, and I lack the balls to properly approach her group the first 2 times I see her, until I eventually do approach her. She's very into me from yesterday, and I have her attracted. I'm doing decent all things considered, but I can't really figure out the outcome that I want. I'm just trying to flirt and build attraction I guess... and I'm realizing that I don't really have a solid pull plan. I isolate her at one point, with her gay friend outside, and then she says she wants to go back inside. I suppose it's the social circle, warm end of the pool thing. In this scenario it's best to be social and keep the group TOGETHER to have a group vibe, and then only isolate when it actually makes sense to have an opportunity to get a kiss or close. I even have one point with her where I can tell she's ready to be kissed, and I almost go for the neck kiss but it's kind of clunky and doesn't work. I suppose it's fine, in that I didn't creep her out and she expressed interest in visiting Vegas sometime soon, so maybe she will.

Overall, I'm happy that I exposed myself to the party, but I also am disappointed that I wasn't able to infiltrate the party and be the life of it in certain ways. My vibe was off and girls could sense it. For a night of cold approach, this would be fine as after 10-20 short throwaway opens, my state would be improved, yet with social circle setting, I can't do this as easily. I'm realizing proper cultivation of social proof is important, in that I should have stayed with the girls that I brought and leveraged their presence to open other sets. I don't even know if I intro'd the cute girl to the famous model, which is pretty dumb that I didn't leverage that connect properly. I learned a lot from the party though, and it was a good exposure for me to show myself that in many ways my game can work just as well in any environment, and thus I'm on the right path in still wanting to remain dedicated to improving my game through massive action in cold approach. I'm writing this right now, while Silent Asian is sitting next to me waiting to hit the Las Vegas strip at 2AM, and I feel like I'd like to dive into the party moreso, but I've covered the main thoughts regarding it.

Things I did well:
Drove to LA and listened to an audiobook on the way there that helped me tremendously.
Learned to let go of internal blocks and the importance of this process for my future success.
Used a new camera successfully at the shoot
Got dope photos of the girls.
Networked and met multiple influencers with solid game at the shoot
Did my vocal warmup on the way to the shoot.
Got into a party I had no business being at, being the least followed person there.
Approached multiple sets at the party
Connected with a famous IG model
Went to the shoot and the party in spite of being nervous
Banged a super hot blonde model at the photoshoot
Got a free place to stay in LA from a girl
Surrounded myself with the proper influences to motivate me and provide context to my game journey in Las Vegas (with my eventual plans to move to LA and dominate it)
Got great IG stories both days
Helped my friend film a video, and stayed dialed in on it.
Learned to be present to the moment and find fulfillment in whatever I'M DOING and thus not seeking or searching as much for the warm end of the pool, but instead just being it.

Things I could have done better:
Simply done a guided meditation and vocal warmup the day of the party.
Setting better boundaries with my coaching students to have a 1 hour call scheduled at a certain time.
Better eye contact at times.
Not "value-scanning" as much at the party, and instead zoning in on whoever I'm connecting with.
Built a better hub at the party and leverage social proof properly - in many ways social circle is more like chess while cold approach is more like a video game where you have infinite deaths, like super mario or something
At least gone for the neck kiss with the girl I liked, there was no downside.
Done some cold approach before the party to get myself socially warmed up.
Had a better list of girls on deck in LA to bring the party.

Lessons Learned:
LA is still my next frontier, influencers moving from LA make it an opportunity to come in and dominate, it's not going anywhere and the opportunity is still very alive
Cold approach is the key towards developing my social circle networking abilities and social circle events are the balancing act that makes cold approach training worth it. It's like the golf game that makes all the driving range practice maintain relevancy.
Must host more container events and content trips to have proper future projections with the girls.
Must have a pull plan for LA events, and figure out exactly how I can close from events or have a proper one-on-one date funnel
Focusing on letting go of internal blockages, reading more dodson and this type of stuff is what I need to get out of procrastination and into effortless action.
There are hundreds of super cute, bubbly girls in LA that will be awesome relationships for me. I don't have to stick with toxic women. And I never have any reason to put girls on a pedestal as there are tons of girls I can connect with easily and have more love and fulfillment in my life.
To succeed at a party like that, I need better social media content, better social proof or better use of social proof. If I can let go properly, I can do this and have fun creatively, finding win/wins with content creation without making it a big deal or making it a weird value taking thing.
Game is the greatest skill I have, and I've still only just reached the cusp of my abilities and applications of it. I will leverage it to insane levels and I'm just so fucking excited to see what I can do with it.

Goals for next time:
[ ] Set up bed at my Vegas place
[ ] Do a guided meditation.