One thing I'd wanna say before going into this is, "are you on crack?", totally sounds like a joke to me. But if you've had people be serious,
Some other things to note: Regardless of my mental state, I am always getting called a strange/odd person by friends and acquaintances. Not in a bad way though, they like it. Also I wear lots of loud clothing.
What do you mean loud clothing?
My one buddy wears a lot of weird clothing that peacocks quite a bit.. super into self-expression. One time I told him to meet me for a drink once I'm off work at restaurant I was at. The dude walks in with a Stevie Ray Vaughn looking outfit, on a Tuesday night at like 10 pm. I actually laughed out loud when he walked in, he looked so ridiculous. He's kind of a speak his mind, no filter, ignores a lot of social norms kind of guy. He sat at the bar with my coworkers while I clocked out, and as calm as he remained all but one of my coworkers assumes he was on acid. I think his demeanor was madly incongruent with his appearance.
Perhaps I will analyze what makes me so strange so I can use it in a more controlled way. Same with my fashion sense, I could tone it down a tad.
See, the same guy I'm talking about would probably never have a reflective thought like that.
Obviously, you guys are two different people. Some parts of your response just really reminded me of him.
Whenever him and I talk about communication, a point he never seems to understand is that sometimes even if you think you are coming off a certain way, or you're trying to, you really might be sending a totally different / incongruent vibe to other people through things like body language, tone, and delivery. Also, whenever he does use a little more balance in his outfit or he's more considerate of some social norms when we're out (socially calibrated), people really seem to warm up to him quickly.
All in all I think weird assumptions like that just have something to do with incongruence between what you intend to communicate through verbals and nonverbals and what you actually are communicating.
Could you expand on what you mean when you say emotional overflow?
Sure.
Overly exerting or expressing some type of emotion. Maybe there's a normal dialogue going on, but one person is speaking or appearing really intense through facial expressions and body language. Maybe that person responds with what isn't a typical emotion must people react with. Even if they're reacting with an "appropriate" emotion, it could be to a degree that's considered inappropriate or odd.
A person's visible passion (degree or type) is abnormally queued and thus considered as weirdly high for the context it's in.
Hueman
