Normal or not?

[Erinrae101]

My boyfriend says that "is more wrapped in wanting to make me feel good and make me have orgasms" than he is how he feels. He uses that line, or excuse when we have sex and he doesn't cum. In all honesty that's probably 2 times that he doesn't cum out of 13-15 times that he does. When he doesn't it makes me very self conscience and like I'm not doing something right. But he will say that I'm doing everything right that "he's just tired" or work out. Is this normal? I've never heard it happen but my boyfriend says it is. He has NO problem getting hard or up. Thoughts, opinions, suggestions are all welcome

 

[Franco]

Erin,

It sounds like you're over-thinking this one.

I occasionally don't finish with my girlfriend either, and it's usually after I've had a few drinks or I'm just completely focused on giving her mind-blowing orgasms -- so much so that I actually lose the mental stimulation and forget to let myself finish as well. It doesn't necessarily mean she's not doing her part.

If he's having sex with you all the time, then I don't think you have much to worry about. If he suddenly stops having sex with you altogether (or much less frequently), then you might need to consider what things you can do to spice up the sex. As of right now, it sounds like you're doing fine.

- Franco