When I contact girls in my phone during this quarantine period, I usually alternative calling and sending text messages (Whatsapp or Facebook). Sometimes girls aren't always available to talk on the phone, so I text them.
I dont do a whole lot of texting though because from my experience, too many guys are texting these girls, it get difficult to connect with them via text. Some girls I text I have to wait minutes or hours to hear back from them.
P.S. I am not actually sitting by my phone waiting. I have a busy life myself: day job, side business, exercise and a bunch of other activities to fill up my day. Though I am waiting for a girl to reply.
What I find is building fun conversations is next to impossible via text messages especially for those girls who take hours to reply. And even then without being able to make a girl hear my voice, jokes dont come across right and so text messages are usually a lot more boring.
So most times I call girls. Most recent conversation I am seeking some advice on:
Saturday April 25, 2020
There is this girl I have a very good rapport with every time we speak on the phone, and when I text her I sometimes wait hours for reply from her. So I am thinking, Saturday night, its around 7:00pm, it's quarantine, though people are still allowed to do essential grocery shopping. I decide to give her a call
Me: (call her phone at 7:11PM, it goes to voicemail and I hang up)
Girl: (replies on Whatsapp at 7:29PM) Txt dare, I not too long ago got in off the road. I was doing some grocery shopping
I have not replied to her text since Saturday nor have I called her again since. It is Whatsapp so I am able to read the message from my notifications without opening the message and letting her know I read it.
I opened it tonight though so now there is a blue tick showing I read her message.
I have been going back and forth, do I call her again or should I text her again?
My plan on calling her was to build some more rapport, share a couple of interesting stories and also build up interest because she agreed to go on a date with me once quarantine ends. So I wanted to call her and make her imagine what a wonderful date me and her will have once quarantine is over.
And if I started doing the whole back and forth texting, it could come across as super boring, especially since she could take hours to reply to a joke, and then I could take a couple hours myself to reply to her response.
Basically a 15 minutes phone call with her could replace a 2 day back and forth text conversation and I would paint such a better picture of myself that text cannot do.
For some more context, this girl I have been on a 1st date with her and I have kissed her before, but there was no sex on the 1st date.
Do you think I should text her again? Or just randomly call her on another day in the week and hope she answers the next time? Usually when I call her sometimes she answers, sometimes the phone goes to voicemail. The one thing I respect about her though is if she misses any of my calls, she usually texts me letting me know what she is up to for instance "I am washing my hair", "I am cooking" e.t.c.
I was thinking to send a text like so:
"Hey Kim, I really like talking over texting and it's always fun and cool when we speak on the phone. Do let me know when to call you again"
And from Saturday to now Monday, I have held back from doing so because I think I could potentially put the ball in her court way too much and she might not remember to tell me when to call her. And then I might have to break the rule and end up in a chasing position. I also feel a text like this is somewhat chasing her.
Do you think a text like this is a good idea to send her? Do you think I should just call her again another day out of the blue when she is most likely not working or doing other stuff?
I dont do a whole lot of texting though because from my experience, too many guys are texting these girls, it get difficult to connect with them via text. Some girls I text I have to wait minutes or hours to hear back from them.
P.S. I am not actually sitting by my phone waiting. I have a busy life myself: day job, side business, exercise and a bunch of other activities to fill up my day. Though I am waiting for a girl to reply.
What I find is building fun conversations is next to impossible via text messages especially for those girls who take hours to reply. And even then without being able to make a girl hear my voice, jokes dont come across right and so text messages are usually a lot more boring.
So most times I call girls. Most recent conversation I am seeking some advice on:
Saturday April 25, 2020
There is this girl I have a very good rapport with every time we speak on the phone, and when I text her I sometimes wait hours for reply from her. So I am thinking, Saturday night, its around 7:00pm, it's quarantine, though people are still allowed to do essential grocery shopping. I decide to give her a call
Me: (call her phone at 7:11PM, it goes to voicemail and I hang up)
Girl: (replies on Whatsapp at 7:29PM) Txt dare, I not too long ago got in off the road. I was doing some grocery shopping
I have not replied to her text since Saturday nor have I called her again since. It is Whatsapp so I am able to read the message from my notifications without opening the message and letting her know I read it.
I opened it tonight though so now there is a blue tick showing I read her message.
I have been going back and forth, do I call her again or should I text her again?
My plan on calling her was to build some more rapport, share a couple of interesting stories and also build up interest because she agreed to go on a date with me once quarantine ends. So I wanted to call her and make her imagine what a wonderful date me and her will have once quarantine is over.
And if I started doing the whole back and forth texting, it could come across as super boring, especially since she could take hours to reply to a joke, and then I could take a couple hours myself to reply to her response.
Basically a 15 minutes phone call with her could replace a 2 day back and forth text conversation and I would paint such a better picture of myself that text cannot do.
For some more context, this girl I have been on a 1st date with her and I have kissed her before, but there was no sex on the 1st date.
Do you think I should text her again? Or just randomly call her on another day in the week and hope she answers the next time? Usually when I call her sometimes she answers, sometimes the phone goes to voicemail. The one thing I respect about her though is if she misses any of my calls, she usually texts me letting me know what she is up to for instance "I am washing my hair", "I am cooking" e.t.c.
I was thinking to send a text like so:
"Hey Kim, I really like talking over texting and it's always fun and cool when we speak on the phone. Do let me know when to call you again"
And from Saturday to now Monday, I have held back from doing so because I think I could potentially put the ball in her court way too much and she might not remember to tell me when to call her. And then I might have to break the rule and end up in a chasing position. I also feel a text like this is somewhat chasing her.
Do you think a text like this is a good idea to send her? Do you think I should just call her again another day out of the blue when she is most likely not working or doing other stuff?
