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Space Monkey
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I have had some pretty crappy seduction attempts at my school.
Many of these were because of chasing.
so I've been trying to adapt this caution to the wind, DmC type attitude with the juniors.
We talk about sex , art or their passions.

but I've noticed a trend.
In high school, a majority of the 11th graders are trying either to have sex or be nice guys.
They are exhibiting some behaviors like cuddling up to girls or basically letting the whole circle know that they are "dating"

But these PDA's are hurting more than helping.
I've learned, if you keep asking a girl for a hug every time she meets you,
you look kinda creepy in her eyes.
But these guys don't understand the numbers.
Now I know girls who are very affectionate, like my friend's girlfriend who clung to me at a comic convention
but here's the thing, this is outside of school
and has very little affect on her school identity
now think about this, how many times does this girl get asked for hugs a day? a lot.
I see my nice guy friends surround one girl and I'm like WHAT THE FUCK
Therefore, most hugs are counteractive and hurt your game, well unless she asks you, then its a little different.

This has been brought to my attention by my female friends and what they say
One even told her girlfriend"DOES HE THINK I'M A PROSTITUTE?!
this is because these guys, they come up to her, hug her, kiss her, think they're in a real relationship for a week
but then try to escalate to sex because , "you shouldn't move slow"
and now you get women defending themselves and what not
These young inexperienced women

and these young inexperienced guys


this made me realize, I made these same social circle mistakes,
and now I hopefully can take these lessons to college, at least the applicable ones.

Ps- this totaly got off topic about what I really wanted talk about, this junior who's been following me and clinging a little, hopefully I don't wait too long)
 

Desert Eagle

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Hugs? Lol. Oh how I wish I wasn't the obscure nice guy in my high school, because I did the exact same fucking thing. Now that I've learned better, high school girls are all over me, too bad that shits illegal now!

Learn that society has made it so that most guys learned they should beg and be nice to get pussy. Don't do that.

And, because you aren't doing that, make it a point not to hug these girls, lest you get lumped in with the rest of them. I'd go so far as to tell girls not to hug you if they want to. As long as you're still complimenting them and being warm, it'd be quite the tease.

Ps- this totaly got off topic about what I really wanted talk about, this junior who's been following me and clinging a little, hopefully I don't wait too long

Yeah... Ask her out on a date like yesterday. Unless you're already banging the whole school, then just have fun with your groupie lol.
 

Inferno

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Desert Eagle said:
Hugs? Lol. Oh how I wish I wasn't the obscure nice guy in my high school, because I did the exact same fucking thing. Now that I've learned better, high school girls are all over me, too bad that shits illegal now!

Learn that society has made it so that most guys learned they should beg and be nice to get pussy. Don't do that.

And, because you aren't doing that, make it a point not to hug these girls, lest you get lumped in with the rest of them. I'd go so far as to tell girls not to hug you if they want to. As long as you're still complimenting them and being warm, it'd be quite the tease.

Ps- this totaly got off topic about what I really wanted talk about, this junior who's been following me and clinging a little, hopefully I don't wait too long

Yeah... Ask her out on a date like yesterday. Unless you're already banging the whole school, then just have fun with your groupie lol.


yea, I remembered how in middle school, I would never let my friend's girl hug me, and she was way more attracted than when I would chase after physical contact.


I plan to slow the game down with her because most of my fast game has failed in school, but I'm feeling comfortable about asking her out now, we've known each other for about a week maybe, probably ask after school for the plausible deniability.
 
the right date makes getting her back home a piece of cake

Desert Eagle

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I plan to slow the game down with her because most of my fast game has failed in school, but I'm feeling comfortable about asking her out now, we've known each other for about a week maybe, probably ask after school for the plausible deniability.

Yeah, fast game hasn't worked too well for me in the past either. From what I've seen there's two reasons why fast game might not work:

- Not sexy enough, show too many boyfriend-esque qualities rather than lover qualities.
- Girl is inexperienced and/or is against fast intimacy.

I'm not well versed in high school seduction, because I was really unattractive in those days, but I think there's no limit on how fast you can ask a girl out on a date. The sooner the better to be honest. Sleeping with her should be a process that is a lot slower if she feels inexperienced, but you might be able to clear that up with date compression.
 

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Desert Eagle said:
Hugs? Lol. Oh how I wish I wasn't the obscure nice guy in my high school, because I did the exact same fucking thing. Now that I've learned better, high school girls are all over me, too bad that shits illegal now

Are you sure? you should check the legal age of consent in your area

And I think I just got a note from this girl
I'm not sure because I didn't see her do it , but it reminds me of our interaction
I did because you only be my friend when you want to be. You can laugh and try to talk to me downstairs but upstairs you walk dead past me and talk to someone in my face

I had left my stuff on a table and went to the bathroom ,
I found my stuff knocked on the ground , and some random girl said " A ghost knocked down your books"

I found the note about 5 minutes before I typed this

an

So the only situations that come to mind from this note is that while walking and talking to her, I left the convo to talk to my art teacher, who pulled me aside and made me talk for longer than expected

the other situation was when I walked up to where her table was and talked to a mutual friend, and didn't say anything to her
I think she thinks the mutual friend likes me because we always flirt and talk about sex
 
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