Hey guys, could do with some help on this issue. This site has done wonders for me, especially the articles on depression, victim mentality and the purpose of life which have really encouraged me to start taking more control of my life however there is one question.
In a lot of his articles, Chase and other authors write about the importance of 'not coming across like a boyfriend' as if a girl sees you as potential boyfriend material she'll put the breaks on whereas if she doesn't she's more likely to sleep with you sooner and ironically give you more chance of becoming her boyfriend.
I have tried this with a number of girls and tried to distance myself from the idea of being a boyfriend, sometimes by declaring that i'm not a fan of relationships etc. However this has tended to make them resist sleeping with me as they see me as someone who just wants them for sex. As in even when in my bed, a couple of them have asked about my intentions before they commit to anything.
It seems to be making them hold back, rather than just 'go for it'
Any advice would be really appreciated.
In a lot of his articles, Chase and other authors write about the importance of 'not coming across like a boyfriend' as if a girl sees you as potential boyfriend material she'll put the breaks on whereas if she doesn't she's more likely to sleep with you sooner and ironically give you more chance of becoming her boyfriend.
I have tried this with a number of girls and tried to distance myself from the idea of being a boyfriend, sometimes by declaring that i'm not a fan of relationships etc. However this has tended to make them resist sleeping with me as they see me as someone who just wants them for sex. As in even when in my bed, a couple of them have asked about my intentions before they commit to anything.
It seems to be making them hold back, rather than just 'go for it'
Any advice would be really appreciated.
