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BlackBolt

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This LR is from July 17 (a few weeks back and the last new girl I slept with). Was stuck in text limbo for a little longer than I'm used to.
July 3rd
Me and a few friends head to a dance club in our college town. My fundamentals are pretty tight and this is what I'm wearing

http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=1zbt2ef&s=8

We head to the club and I dance with this really cute, energetic girl with long curly hair and a tight dress. Her friends weren't all that cute and my friends did not want to dance with them. I was able to tell they were getting visibly bored so I excused myself from the girl and told her I had to go with my friends. We walked around for a bit and decided to all take a seat. The section by the bar where people sit down and relax is on a level above the dance floor and gives the people relaxing a good view of the dance floor. We just sat there, people watched, and joked around until the cute girl and her friends eventually decided to sit down at the table next to ours. Now her friends were all sitting down but she was still standing up, bouncing around, and having a good time while also talking with her friends. Since she was within arms length and obviously still full of energy I just pulled her over and let her grind on me while I was sitting down (pretty much like a lap dance). This lasted for no more than 2 minutes before I took her with me to a more quiet part of the club (where the couches were) but that was still in view of her friends and our tables. I sat her on my lap and stroked her leg while I asked her what her name was. She was still moving her hips to the music while talking to me and told me her name is Paula. I don't remember our full conversation since it was about a month ago and I was a little tipsy but I do remember talking to her about her year in school, major, where she's from, and engaging in banter and also taking pauses to just let her grind on me before talking some more. She told me she was with her older sister (and her sister's friends) who were all older than her. She obviously wasn't the leader of the group and within 10 minutes her group of friends came over to "borrow" her. She did insist I take her number though and that's what I did. I met back up with my friends feeling pretty good and we chilled there for a little bit longer before heading out.

Text Conversation
July 4th 1:28 am Me: Hey this is Bolt from the club, save my number!
2:15pm: Hey what do you have up for the weekend?
Her: Hey
Her: Hanging with the family, reading a good book and relaxing =)
Her: You?
Me: Ha sounds good, what you reading, 50 shades of grey ;)
Her: No why you suggest that? Of all books
Her: Its called the blind side
Me: Lol don't knock it I heard its good... you're talking about the book based on the nfl player???
Her: No that was the movie this one is a mystery. And I'm not knocking it just heard its really raunchy and I thought it was funny that you suggested that one of all books lol
Me: Like you don' like raunchy books, its a bestseller for a reason lol... But we should hang out when I get back to *college town*, (I was home for the holiday weekend which is about 45 mins from campus) Sunday?
Her: Sure that sounds fun. Where you from again?
Me: Lol just ____ so its not really out of town =/... You're from * a smaller suburb area about 25mins from campus* right?
Her: Yup about to eat good
Me: Damn my family still cooking =(
Her: Yeah we usually start early
Her: Do you have a glide?
Me: Nope, is that like the face time thing? Lol
Her: Its kind of like it. You should get it
I didn't respond for the rest of the day

July 5th
Her: Heyyy =)
Me: Hey, what are you up to?
Her: Watching vines. You?
Me: Ha do something productive Kidd =P
Her: I work all the time. If that's not productive then I don't know what is lol
Me: Haha yeah yeah... What time you get back to campus tomorrow?
No response from her

July 6th
Me: Hey omw to town, you should grab some ice cream with me
Her: Hey still in *hometown*
Me: Ah ok what time you heading back?
Her: Probably not tonight. Been hanging with my Uncle haven't seen him in a bit. Rain check?
Me: Cool just hmu when you're back on campus and you're free
Her: I Will. Deff deff =)

July 14th (about a week later) she texts me back from a different number
Her: Hey this is Paula
Me: Hey stranger, how's the raunchy book reading been?
Her: Lol stagnant, I'm reading mysteries now
Me: Haha Fasho, let's get together soon when ya free?
Her: We definitely should, I don't really have a busy schedule this week =)
Me: Ok cool what about tomorrow Starbucks at 7?
Her: Okay that's fine

July 15th
Her: I'm going to be running a little late
Me: Haha yea me too, I'm still in the Gym.
Her: Ok you wanna meet a little later?
Me: Yea let's say 8:45ish
Her: Okay =)
Me 8:51PM: Hey I can be there in 20 hbu?
Me 10:09 Hey I'm getting a Lil tired, I'm about to just lay down and watch a movie... You're welcome to join otherwise we'll just reschedule
Her 10:11 Yeah sorry I ended up handling something with my sister. WYD tomorrow? =)
(Decided I was going to ignore that text and ping her back while I'm at work in the morning)

July 16th
Me: Oh no problem gotta look out for the fam first, hope she's alright. I just have work then some conditioning after, should be free in the evening tho
Her: Okay that's fine
Me: Cool, so you wanna say around 8, You can head to my place and we can walk to Starbucks together
Her: That sounds fine =)
Her: WYD
Me: Just getting out of work, about to start training =/
Her: Okay well hope you had a good day at work.
Her: What are you training for?
Me: Boxing, and eh another day another dollar lol
Her: Oh that's cool well have fun training =)
Me 8:00pm: Hey just got out I'm about to head home to shower...
Her 8:54: Okay well what did you wanna do? =)
(Now quick aside I could've probably just invited to my house for a "movie" then and there but I'm still getting used to having girls straight to my place without some kind of date involved. This sort of thing happened earlier this summer too)
Me 9:34: Let's grab something at Starbucks. I live a few minutes from there so you can stop here and we'll walk together
Her 9:36: That sounds like fun
Her 9:41: I wonder when it closes
Me: I think around 12, come head over, the address is ____
Her: Ok I'm just finishing getting dressed
Her (10 mins later): I live on ___
(WTF is she telling me this for smh)
Me: Ok I should be no more than 5 mins away from you head this way I'm a few blocks from Starbucks
Her: You ready?
Me: Yea you here?
(About 1hr later)
Her: Wyd?
Her: I'm sorry I took so long. Is it too late to hang out still?
(Now within that hour I had pretty much thought she was going to flake so I started playing Madden with my roommate. When I got this message I got excited because I knew what she was hinting at so I let him know and he goes in his room while I set the living room up... Got to play it cool tho)
Me: I'm just chilling we should watch a movie since its too late for Starbucks, ik you're a big girl but I'll still walk you over since its dark now ;)
Her: That sounds fun, and okay I don't mind its dark outside
(YESSS)
ME: Aight cool what's your address?
Her: We're going back to your house?
Me: Yea
Her: _____
Her: Just text me when you're on the way
Me (about 10 mins later): Omw
Her: OK

At My Place
I pick her up and she's wearing this beautiful black and white sundress with a sleeveless denim jacket. We walk together back to my place. When we get there I turn on The Ring (horror movie) and throughout the movie I'm escalating but only getting so far so I pull back, watch the movie a little bit, then start back again. We were both on the couch laying down facing the tv and I was behind her in a sort of spooning position (I love this position when escalating on girls while watching a movie). I would press my body up against hers, smell her beautiful hair, and kiss her neck. She was obviously enjoying it but I kind of knew she wasn't ready to fuck yet. The whole time we're having a blast: we're flirting and joking about how horribly boring the Ring was. We decided to switch to Halloween (the 2007 one) which was way more entertaining. All the while I'm still flirting with her, kissing her neck, smelling her hair, rubbbing her body, trying to make my move on her and when she resists telling her how she's distracting me from the movie (in a joking, accusatory type of way). We finish that movie and just continue flirting and kissing in the dark. I eventually pull her dress up, and she wasn't even wearing panties! I take my shirt off and start fingering her. We eventually moved to my room.

Wrapping Up
Her 5:28 am: Get home safe
Me: I'll make sure to be safe in the dangerous streets of ___ lol
(its a super safe college town)
Her: FYI I don't normally sleep with guys the first time I hangout with them. I'm feeling a little embarrassed.
Me: Don't. I'm honestly just surprised you're still up... Go to sleep Kidd ;)
Her: Ok
Me: Wait before you have a nightmare of someone stealing your socks... You sock thief!
Her: Lol hahahhaha I'll give them back!
Me: Lol you better punk...
Her: Lol whatever
Her: Night Night
Me: Good morning =P
Her: =)
 

Franco

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Re: LR Not exactly moving fast but...

Congrats on the lay here, BlackBolt!

I liked your calm persistence throughout the texting situation. This girl was obviously interested, but she was borderline testing you to see how far she could take it. You never got frustrated and continually pushed for the meetup, and it eventually worked out. =)

Her 8:54: Okay well what did you wanna do? =)
(Now quick aside I could've probably just invited to my house for a "movie" then and there but I'm still getting used to having girls straight to my place without some kind of date involved. This sort of thing happened earlier this summer too)
Me 9:34: Let's grab something at Starbucks. I live a few minutes from there so you can stop here and we'll walk together

Good call on picking an easy location first. Inviting her directly over to your place at this moment might have jolted the interaction. And as you probably noticed, sometimes you can end up having her come over to your place after all is said and done anyway! ;)

Good stuff.

- Franco
 

Chase

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Well handled, Bolt. It was pretty on with this girl, but you rolled quite well with some of the bumps along the way.

BlackBolt said:
We just sat there, people watched, and joked around until the cute girl and her friends eventually decided to sit down at the table next to ours. Now her friends were all sitting down but she was still standing up, bouncing around, and having a good time while also talking with her friends. Since she was within arms length and obviously still full of energy I just pulled her over and let her grind on me while I was sitting down (pretty much like a lap dance).

Yep; I'm sure you read it, but the reason they picked that table and the reason why she didn't sit down like all the rest of the girls but instead stayed up, in motion, and within arms' reach of you were one and the same (approach invitation).

Clearly you made a good impression during that first dance.

BlackBolt said:
July 6th
Me: Hey omw to town, you should grab some ice cream with me
Her: Hey still in *hometown*
Me: Ah ok what time you heading back?
Her: Probably not tonight. Been hanging with my Uncle haven't seen him in a bit. Rain check?
Me: Cool just hmu when you're back on campus and you're free
Her: I Will. Deff deff =)

July 14th (about a week later) she texts me back from a different number
Her: Hey this is Paula

Wanted to point out for anyone reading that your consistency in telling her to get back in touch when she's back on campus and free on the 6th, and her agreeing, and then you not following up with her until she reaches out to you again 8 days later is a key to this lay.

Had you gotten antsy and texted her 3 or 4 days later, you would've had many more hoops to jump through with her, and her interest in you would've been much cooler. Instead, you told her to get in touch later, then promptly forgot about her (and went out and met more girls, I presume), and she followed through and text you later... taking the initiative this time, which ups her investment... and her attraction. It's the difference between her being lukewarm interested in you ("Oh... he's chasing me. Didn't he just tell me to contact him, I said yes, and now he's contacting me himself anyway?") and her interest in you being piping hot ("Wow, he told me to get in touch, and then he REALLY hasn't bothered to get in touch. I guess if I want this man I'd better text him and let him know").

BlackBolt said:
Me: Hey stranger, how's the raunchy book reading been?
Her: Lol stagnant, I'm reading mysteries now
Me: Haha Fasho, let's get together soon when ya free?
Her: We definitely should, I don't really have a busy schedule this week =)
Me: Ok cool what about tomorrow Starbucks at 7?
Her: Okay that's fine

All your texting is fantastic. Great mix of easy-breezy style, just enough sexual humor to keep things interesting, and a solid focus on always pushing for the meet when appropriate. Very well done.

BlackBolt said:
Me: Just getting out of work, about to start training =/
Her: Okay well hope you had a good day at work.
Her: What are you training for?
Me: Boxing, and eh another day another dollar lol

Good job here at not making boxing into a big deal / "I'm going to impress you by telling you about it" thing. It's just dropped, and then made casual "and eh, another day another dollar." Makes you just the cool guy who happens to box after work.

BlackBolt said:
Her: Ok I'm just finishing getting dressed
Her (10 mins later): I live on ___
(WTF is she telling me this for smh)
Me: Ok I should be no more than 5 mins away from you head this way I'm a few blocks from Starbucks
Her: You ready?
Me: Yea you here?
(About 1hr later)
Her: Wyd?
Her: I'm sorry I took so long. Is it too late to hang out still?
(Now within that hour I had pretty much thought she was going to flake so I started playing Madden with my roommate. When I got this message I got excited because I knew what she was hinting at so I let him know and he goes in his room while I set the living room up... Got to play it cool tho)
Me: I'm just chilling we should watch a movie since its too late for Starbucks, ik you're a big girl but I'll still walk you over since its dark now ;)
Her: That sounds fun, and okay I don't mind its dark outside
(YESSS)

Good read on this, and well-handled.

Also, your trying to meet up with her at Starbucks earlier actually plays to your advantage, because even if what she wanted was sex with you (which does seem to be what she wanted, at least from the start of this text conversation and probably earlier), had you been trying to get her straight to your place from the beginning she'd have been more likely to play the "I'm not ready for that yet... I'm not that kind of girl" card, since she's making a "concession" coming to your place, and doesn't want to "concede" to anything else too fast now and look cheap. When you've been pushing to go elsewhere and then she's the one who slows it down to the point where all she can do is come to your place, and she's still sending you fishing-around texts like "What're you doing?", at this point she's the one chasing the two of you sleeping together and you escalating on her is merely responding to what she wants.

And yeah, it's always fun cleaning the place up in a hurry with your buddy when he knows a new girl's coming over to bang your brains out =)

Smooth job on the escalation once she got over (nice that she wasn't wearing any panties!), and:

BlackBolt said:
Wrapping Up
Her 5:28 am: Get home safe
Me: I'll make sure to be safe in the dangerous streets of ___ lol
(its a super safe college town)
Her: FYI I don't normally sleep with guys the first time I hangout with them. I'm feeling a little embarrassed.
Me: Don't. I'm honestly just surprised you're still up... Go to sleep Kidd ;)
Her: Ok
Me: Wait before you have a nightmare of someone stealing your socks... You sock thief!
Her: Lol hahahhaha I'll give them back!
Me: Lol you better punk...
Her: Lol whatever
Her: Night Night
Me: Good morning =P
Her: =)

This is a really nice final series of texts. I'm sure she'll be coming away from this one with some warm memories and a lot of smiles.

Chase
 
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