Socializing Not fitting a type (jock, nerd, etc.) Good or Bad?

[TheEcho]

Hey all!

Have been thinking about how many of my recent blow outs may actually be attainability issues (both too much and too little for different girls), rather than lack of value. Need to troubleshoot this more, but onto the topic. I've never really fit one type, whether athletic, nerdy, punk, emo, religious, etc. Is this a problem when girls can't slot you into a type?

Reading the attainability articles, they mention highlighting your similarities to a specific girl, but what if you are this amorphous very muscular, somewhat sophisticated, pretty intellectual (I spend ALL day learning), plays tons of video games (while listening to podcasts/science/history videos), grew up religious (long-time atheist now), listens to Linkin Park and Ludovico Einaudi and everything in between, etc. Does this productively add to your mystery or create an impediment when a girl is thinking about seeing you after a short approach?

Thanks all!

 

[MarioTheDom]

Well fitting an archetype it is probably the most important thing to stand out and enable the super power of that archetype.

If you are handsome, you don't have this problem, but i'm not really sure it is the case perhaps? seriously though, it's like racing with only half of the torque you could use

 

[DonGately]

I would say you definitely need to fill one of their mental niches to have success as the above poster also hinted at. And you can be a nerd to some, jock to others, Dom to a third, concert guy to the next.

 

[TheEcho]

I would say you definitely need to fill one of their mental niches to have success as the above poster also hinted at. And you can be a nerd to some, jock to others, Dom to a third, concert guy to the next.

Huh, what is a "dom" personality type out in the world? I already know I need to be a dom in the bedroom, but my public self is (currently) pretty far from that version of me.

 

[MarioTheDom]

Huh, what is a "dom" personality type out in the world? I already know I need to be a dom in the bedroom, but my public self is (currently) pretty far from that version of me.

Not really sure what he refers to, I'm a BDSM coach and pro-Dom and I never heard we had an official "outfit"

I think he refers to some girls will catalog you as a dominant man in general (if you imagine a tall, muscular , leather dressed rockstar kinda guy you get the feeling he is dominant)

 

[Zoro]

I went through the same thing as you. You can probably still find my posts on this from years ago.

Im guessing you’re young and you have many interests. So it’s hard to pick a direction.

Once you pick a direction and commit to building something, that will become your “type”.

 

[rr2021 aka DEVENCI]

Hey all!

Have been thinking about how many of my recent blow outs may actually be attainability issues (both too much and too little for different girls), rather than lack of value. Need to troubleshoot this more, but onto the topic. I've never really fit one type, whether athletic, nerdy, punk, emo, religious, etc. Is this a problem when girls can't slot you into a type?

Reading the attainability articles, they mention highlighting your similarities to a specific girl, but what if you are this amorphous very muscular, somewhat sophisticated, pretty intellectual (I spend ALL day learning), plays tons of video games (while listening to podcasts/science/history videos), grew up religious (long-time atheist now), listens to Linkin Park and Ludovico Einaudi and everything in between, etc. Does this productively add to your mystery or create an impediment when a girl is thinking about seeing you after a short approach?

Thanks all!

this is an interesting question.

im guessing you are NOT doing night game?

because when i think about, usually in the clubs most of the attractive guys are all kind of dressed very similarly i have noticed.

so i that environment we all kind of look like the same "type"

so im not sure your question makes sense in high end/mainstream nightclubs since a lot of guys in those environment dress similarly as that is usually the only/best way they can even get inside.

i would be very surprised if you are having this problem from night game.

 

[DonGately]

Huh, what is a "dom" personality type out in the world? I already know I need to be a dom in the bedroom, but my public self is (currently) pretty far from that version of me.

Then you shouldn't give off Dominant vibes in public & discussing BDSM with them privately over drinks if it's not congruent.

Women may have differing ideas of what set of traits -exactly- constitutes dominance, but they all know a dominant man when they meet one. At least I've never had an issue getting it across. Much of it is already discussed here, leading the frame, the way you look at her, direct sexual convo, taking her by the hand to the next bar, etc, ad infinitum.

It has nothing to do with wearing leather [I never do] or being built like Arnold S.