Not forcing rappaport

[diegoC]

I've been reading this blog like crazy (I've also read the book 'How to make girls chase').
In some examples in different post I've found examples like the following:

Girl: I love thongs.
Guy: Oh really? Well, believe it or not, I love girls who love thongs.
(taken from post on how to flirt)

Girl: I love to cook
Guy: I love girl who know how to cook!
(don't remember on which post but it was something along those lines)

If I'm being completely polarized to what we shouldn't do, that is, forcing rappaport, shouldn't this kind of responses be avoided at all cost?

Thanks!

 

[Flames]

What your talking is about creating a rapport, something that occurs naturally between people who share the same goals and interests.

If your forcing it then that would suggest manipulation and being dishonest about about your goals and interest in order to get laid, not really what anyone is recommending I would've thought.

The best way IMO is to discover things you share by deep diving and homing in on topics you both like, there's very few things I don't like talking about, but quite a lot I know nothing about. So although (for example) I may not know anything about ballet if someone can explain what's so great about I'm happy to listen and possibly learn.

That above example I've seen about a lot but I'd probably just class that as flirting.

Hope that helps

 

[Chase]

Diego-

I've been reading this blog like crazy (I've also read the book 'How to make girls chase').
In some examples in different post I've found examples like the following:

Girl: I love thongs.
Guy: Oh really? Well, believe it or not, I love girls who love thongs.
(taken from post on how to flirt)

Girl: I love to cook
Guy: I love girl who know how to cook!
(don't remember on which post but it was something along those lines)

If I'm being completely polarized to what we shouldn't do, that is, forcing rappaport, shouldn't this kind of responses be avoided at all cost?

Thanks!

The difference is between forcing rapport where it wasn't being sought, and rewarding women seeking to impress you with rapport.

So, if a girl mentions offhandedly that she cooks - "The other night, I was cooking this chicken breast, and-" and then you jump in with, "Oh - I love a girl who knows how to cook!" you're forcing rapport, because she wasn't seeking it.

However, if she tells you, "I love to cook," in answer to a question of yours or as an effort to impress you or win you over, you want to reward her for that, by telling her something like, "Well, I love girls who love to cook," in a sexy tone of voice that makes her feel all warm and fuzzy and want to please you even more.

Chase

 

[diegoC]

Thanks Chase. Didn't notice the response.

Cheers!