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This has kind of bothered me lately but I broke up with a German girl who I dated about a month ago, we were in a relationship for nearly 3 months. The attraction was not there for me even though she was a reasonably good looking girl. Taking the time to figure out what went wrong I finally realized what was happening.
In high school I attracted goth girls and emo girls, not even sure why that happened but I wasn't too popular and the girls I attracted didn't like the popular kids at all. I had nerdy hobbies like anime and WOW (which I quit), I never hit the gym, I didn't care about how I dressed, and I rarely went out that much. Lost my virginity at 16 to this emo girl that was a total freak in bed looking back at it now, she did it all.....
Then as I slowly transitioned to college where most of the girls I dated were international students or a part of the hipster scene we had going on.
Now transitioning to life after college, I have had more relationships with women that remind you of April Ludgate from Parks and Recreation and more women from foreign countries. I feel that I wasn't really meant to be with those kinds of girls. Most of it has to do with my upbringing, I was born and raised in the rural Midwest.
I feel like expanding to different kind of girls. The girls who were more on the emo, hipster, and international type of scene just naturally came to me but I never had any preference for them. My preference was more for an All American girl but I have no idea on how to actually meet these women (or where) and if I can be like the kind of guys they go for. It's like I have spent so much time with the international crowd and in the hipster scene that I don't know if I can find common ground with other kinds of girls.
Anyone have some experience with this?
In high school I attracted goth girls and emo girls, not even sure why that happened but I wasn't too popular and the girls I attracted didn't like the popular kids at all. I had nerdy hobbies like anime and WOW (which I quit), I never hit the gym, I didn't care about how I dressed, and I rarely went out that much. Lost my virginity at 16 to this emo girl that was a total freak in bed looking back at it now, she did it all.....
Then as I slowly transitioned to college where most of the girls I dated were international students or a part of the hipster scene we had going on.
Now transitioning to life after college, I have had more relationships with women that remind you of April Ludgate from Parks and Recreation and more women from foreign countries. I feel that I wasn't really meant to be with those kinds of girls. Most of it has to do with my upbringing, I was born and raised in the rural Midwest.
I feel like expanding to different kind of girls. The girls who were more on the emo, hipster, and international type of scene just naturally came to me but I never had any preference for them. My preference was more for an All American girl but I have no idea on how to actually meet these women (or where) and if I can be like the kind of guys they go for. It's like I have spent so much time with the international crowd and in the hipster scene that I don't know if I can find common ground with other kinds of girls.
Anyone have some experience with this?
