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I am not there yet but pretty soon, I will be done with college (one stupid course has me doing an extra semester!). My college years have exposed me to the haves and have nots part of life. As for how that is like, I am sure most of you in here are familiar with how life is like for the higher status guys in high school and college so that is not even worth discussing.
Now I want to look forward to the adult world but it's like the only vision I have seen of it countless times is one of boredom. You're supposed to get married, have kids, complain about life, reminiscence about your glory days, "grow up", and face "real world problems". People talk about adulthood or just life after college as the end of it all but I feel like that can't be true. I see those people as losers and do not aspire to be anything like them.
At each stage, only a select few group of guys are truly winners that experience success with girls and social life, pretty sure it is true for adulthood like it was for high school and college. I have a picture of how it looked like in high school (the cool kids) and college (frats and whatever), but I don't really know what it looks like in adulthood because it seems like throughout my life I've been made to believe that after college you're supposed to get married and have kids. All of your experiences are supposed to be about getting married and somehow living vicariously through your kids, being a "grown up".
Since this is Girlschase, I am asking how life is like for winners and alphas in the adult world in regards to women because I really have no idea. I have no idea of who to aspire to be other than the fact that I want to be a guy who has a decent salary, a good social life, and occasionally hooks up with cute girls but I have no idea what the adult version of that kind of life even looks like. I know there is Leonardo DiCaprio but that is like 1 out of a hundred million guys, which is why I said not including celebrities. I am talking more about the guys on here that are living something close to that life or the guys out there that have full time jobs but are living that sort of a life.
I've been looking for a role model you can say, just some adult male to look at and go I would really love to be like that guy yet at the same time not be too unrealistic about it either. There is a reason I said no celebs because I know that being an A-list actor, famous rockstar, or Dan Bilzerian is just something that is not realistically achievable for most guys.
Some have talked about how you can ignore women and social life and follow intellectual pursuits to make a difference in the world but that is definitely not something I want to do at all, not yet at least.
Is it mainly just one night stands and forget about it the next morning? Do they also get to experience a lot of the large social gatherings that their younger counterparts in their school years did? Is it more full time work during the week and then occasionally get laid on the weekends?
Are there any shows you guys can point me to that accurately depict the kind of life I am talking about?
Now I want to look forward to the adult world but it's like the only vision I have seen of it countless times is one of boredom. You're supposed to get married, have kids, complain about life, reminiscence about your glory days, "grow up", and face "real world problems". People talk about adulthood or just life after college as the end of it all but I feel like that can't be true. I see those people as losers and do not aspire to be anything like them.
At each stage, only a select few group of guys are truly winners that experience success with girls and social life, pretty sure it is true for adulthood like it was for high school and college. I have a picture of how it looked like in high school (the cool kids) and college (frats and whatever), but I don't really know what it looks like in adulthood because it seems like throughout my life I've been made to believe that after college you're supposed to get married and have kids. All of your experiences are supposed to be about getting married and somehow living vicariously through your kids, being a "grown up".
Since this is Girlschase, I am asking how life is like for winners and alphas in the adult world in regards to women because I really have no idea. I have no idea of who to aspire to be other than the fact that I want to be a guy who has a decent salary, a good social life, and occasionally hooks up with cute girls but I have no idea what the adult version of that kind of life even looks like. I know there is Leonardo DiCaprio but that is like 1 out of a hundred million guys, which is why I said not including celebrities. I am talking more about the guys on here that are living something close to that life or the guys out there that have full time jobs but are living that sort of a life.
I've been looking for a role model you can say, just some adult male to look at and go I would really love to be like that guy yet at the same time not be too unrealistic about it either. There is a reason I said no celebs because I know that being an A-list actor, famous rockstar, or Dan Bilzerian is just something that is not realistically achievable for most guys.
Some have talked about how you can ignore women and social life and follow intellectual pursuits to make a difference in the world but that is definitely not something I want to do at all, not yet at least.
Is it mainly just one night stands and forget about it the next morning? Do they also get to experience a lot of the large social gatherings that their younger counterparts in their school years did? Is it more full time work during the week and then occasionally get laid on the weekends?
Are there any shows you guys can point me to that accurately depict the kind of life I am talking about?
