Not Texting a Girl Whose Number You Got?

[Rage]

Hey guys I had a couple of approaches the past 2 days; got a number yesterday and today and was wondering about something regarding that today.

Do you guys think that girls feel bad if you get their number but then never follow up to text them or set up that date for food? I’ve been getting a fair amount of numbers past couple weeks and combined with school, have found that I sort of need to be selective about which girls I decide to have a meet with and try to do more with and which girls I just never end up texting (partly because busy with school but also because at university logistics are shit from my end and usually their end too because we’ll typically both be commuters, may have conflicting schedules, and girl may work etc.).

Would it be equivalent to same "eh" feeling as getting text flaked for us?

My guess would be that if I weren’t too special and impressive from when I met her till when I got her number (and just good enough to be attractive, sexy lover material but forgettable) then it would be all right.

Interested in hearing what you guys think

-Gem

 

[PinotNoir]

I think it's fine.

I've gotten girls' numbers before where they've never texted back to my ice breaker. I get a disappointed feeling like, "Man, what a shame," but that's about it, and I move on. It happens.

I'm sure girls are the same way. If she liked you, she probably thinks, "Wow, what a shame. He was pretty cute" and moves on. If she didn't like you, then she probably never has a thought about it.

Without any dates, there's not a strong enough connection yet to really make someone sad or something like that where you should feel bad.

 

[Smith]

Just wondering if u have tried setting up two dates at the same time in case one of them flakes? I've yet to try it, but would be interesting to see how it turns out, since girls flake on us all the time as well.

I think if u sent her an ice breaker and she replied, but u never got time to set up a date with her, u could still give it a shot even after 1-2 weeks and make it sound like that u were both busy and it was no one's fault then try to set up a date. Who knows, they might text u first after 1-2 weeks if they really like u.

Otherwise, I don't think girls would feel bad about it, might be a little disappointed if u were memorable, but I'm sure after a week it won't even be on their mind. Just like how I don't even remember which girl didn't reply to my icebreaker. U just get use to it.

 

[Rage]

Without any dates, there's not a strong enough connection yet to really make someone sad or something like that where you should feel bad.

Hey Pinot, yeah good point!

Just wondering if u have tried setting up two dates at the same time in case one of them flakes? I've yet to try it, but would be interesting to see how it turns out, since girls flake on us all the time as well.

Hey Smith, no I haven’t tried that. I know there are some players that really do treat it like a hard numbers game and do that.

I would like to move to a really big city few years in the future and do some heavy number game like that (meet 10+ girls a day) and then, yeah I might have to try that then.

Um, right now, I’ve been kind of going by how much I liked the girl and how attractive I found her and also how busy she was, what her schedule was like and stuff (also some 1 girl out of 10 I’ll meet lives on campus and I want to meet a hot girl who I can see regularly who lives on campus and has a bed and room and stuff lol).

There have been some girls that were really hot and some girls that were attractive but not super attractive to me, but I’ve been getting the numbers of these girls too (even if I’m not super into them) so I can stay in practice that way.

Thanks for the replies guys; my game’s been getting a little better lately and as it has, I’ve also noticed myself getting more emotionally detached… fine with that; but had been thinking about that sort of concerned and hoping that I don’t really depress a girl/really make her feel bad if I never follow up and give her that call/text that I told her I would.

From what I've seen, I’ll see or notice girls I’ve walked past on the street again; some will see me and smile, others won’t even remember me; some will see me talking to new girls even, but have gotten no girls calling me out or any bad experiences like that yet (my university is heavily populated but not ridiculously huge either). Still have a lot of girls left to go through on campus; love it, every day I might potentially meet a spectacular girl.

So on to the next

-Gem