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I took this entire week off, and travelled to another location (southern, tropical), just to get away from work and recharge my brain. There will also be another dancing event very soon (potentially more on that later).
Naturally, I've also been increasing my cold approach volume substantially during this down time.
I have a lot of thoughts swirling around in my head, and I am not sure how many I want to put down here - but the main thing is, it is very clear to me now that my cold approach technique still needs work/practice. Several things....
- My volume overall needs work. I have been so lazy, and my volume has only been decreasing over time. The problem is of course my work schedule. But even with this, I believe I could easily double or triple the number of approaches I am doing, just because I know for a fact that I am often missing great opportunities back in my home turf just because I am not in the right 'state'.
Because of this trip, July 2021 has had more approaches than any month since October 2020. And, it beats every other month in 2020 (besides October that year) and 2021. (I know since I keep a good record/stats....). It actually took me a couple of days of being here to readjust to get back into a mode where I am consistently approaching every woman I truly find attractive. The mind is so interesting how it makes up excuses to not approach. I hope to carry this momentum back to my normal location after this trip.
- Technique needs improvement. I am following the London DayGame Model, and I still fail to do a few things properly.
-- If it's a moving target, I am often not properly stopping the girl and end up doing this 'walk and talk' thing. I really want to stop doing this, since the more dominant, masculine thing is to get the girl to stop her momentum, and sets a much better precedent for the interaction from the very beginning. Straight 12 o'clock, giving her plenty of space to see me coming. Either she stops or walks around me.
--- Need to be more creative with my stacks. Geography stack is my most common one but I need to try different ones just to increase my repertoire and avoid going into questions-mode.
--- Similarly, Need more stories for my vibing once we have a topic to talk about. This crucial part of attraction I am still missing on. But I have some ideas from Tom Torero's old material.
As a side note, I have not ruled out trying indirect approaching techniques (e.g., gunwitch and "you look like my ex girlfriend" opener, etc) later. There are a few reasons why I haven't been focusing on them (and didn't do that 'study' I talked about months ago comparing direct vs. indirect). Suffice it to say I want to focus on the LDM for now just to increase my approach volume with something that has a clear structure and is easier for me to implement, as that works better with my brain and personality, and will help prevent approach anxiety from talking me out of approaching due to not immediately knowing what to say.
Naturally, I've also been increasing my cold approach volume substantially during this down time.
I have a lot of thoughts swirling around in my head, and I am not sure how many I want to put down here - but the main thing is, it is very clear to me now that my cold approach technique still needs work/practice. Several things....
- My volume overall needs work. I have been so lazy, and my volume has only been decreasing over time. The problem is of course my work schedule. But even with this, I believe I could easily double or triple the number of approaches I am doing, just because I know for a fact that I am often missing great opportunities back in my home turf just because I am not in the right 'state'.
Because of this trip, July 2021 has had more approaches than any month since October 2020. And, it beats every other month in 2020 (besides October that year) and 2021. (I know since I keep a good record/stats....). It actually took me a couple of days of being here to readjust to get back into a mode where I am consistently approaching every woman I truly find attractive. The mind is so interesting how it makes up excuses to not approach. I hope to carry this momentum back to my normal location after this trip.
- Technique needs improvement. I am following the London DayGame Model, and I still fail to do a few things properly.
-- If it's a moving target, I am often not properly stopping the girl and end up doing this 'walk and talk' thing. I really want to stop doing this, since the more dominant, masculine thing is to get the girl to stop her momentum, and sets a much better precedent for the interaction from the very beginning. Straight 12 o'clock, giving her plenty of space to see me coming. Either she stops or walks around me.
--- Need to be more creative with my stacks. Geography stack is my most common one but I need to try different ones just to increase my repertoire and avoid going into questions-mode.
--- Similarly, Need more stories for my vibing once we have a topic to talk about. This crucial part of attraction I am still missing on. But I have some ideas from Tom Torero's old material.
As a side note, I have not ruled out trying indirect approaching techniques (e.g., gunwitch and "you look like my ex girlfriend" opener, etc) later. There are a few reasons why I haven't been focusing on them (and didn't do that 'study' I talked about months ago comparing direct vs. indirect). Suffice it to say I want to focus on the LDM for now just to increase my approach volume with something that has a clear structure and is easier for me to implement, as that works better with my brain and personality, and will help prevent approach anxiety from talking me out of approaching due to not immediately knowing what to say.