Number close / informational date / logistics

[ray_zorse]

Have been getting some more number closes in city centre w cuties who are going about their day & do not have time for lengthy conversation (a few min only) hence are not that invested, so I feel it would be difficult to get them to come out to my place which would be a 20~30 min train ride from the centre & isn't really the poshest area either...so I feel I have 2 options, (1) an informational date of say 20min to get to know them better & build some trust, then invite them to hang with me after they're more invested, (2) a structured date where i meet them in city say in the afternoon, then persuade them to go somewhere like botanical gardens or whatever to get them comfortable getting in my car, then as it gets dark say lets head back and make some dinner... this has worked previously but is a bit tedious...

Am I looking at this from the wrong angle? Should I just tell them the coffee date is in the northern suburbs and be done with it? At least in cases where response has been pretty lukewarm I am sure this won't work.

What should I do? Note: am taking steps to improve my logistics but had some setbacks, it will take a little time

cheers, Ray

 

[Chase]

Ray-

Seems like your current date format is well-suited to your logistics. Telling them to commute far out of town to meet you for a first date usually won't work, no; not if they live in the city.

However, I'd also make sure I figured out where the girl lived, too. Many times you will meet women living in the city center who are actually living in the suburbs close to you; in that case, it's quite easy to get them out to meet you near where you live. Other times, they may be from the suburbs on the other side of town, and whether they go to the city center or continue on to your suburbs on the opposite side, it'll be a long commute either way.

The key to long commute dates is that they need to feel like they're worth the while. So while you won't be able to get many girls to go 45 minutes or an hour out of their way (30 minutes there and back) for a coffee date, you just might if there's a comedy club with a hilarious show in your area, or a game of laser tag, or a really nice hot tub place. If you want them going longer distances, find more engaging things to get them to come do in order that they can justify the commute.

Chase

 

[ray_zorse]

Great...in the case of [L] she's agreed to meet me near where I initially approached and then to hang for a bit and go for dinner slightly outside the city on the north side...which happens to be nearby my work & where I park my car, though she doesn't know that yet...so after dinner I'll suggest we go for some drinks at a place I know, possibly using a yes ladder, and casually mention that we'll have to go by car..what I have not decided yet is whether to take her to say a lounge bar in inner north which would be halfway home or whether to just go for broke, will have to trust my instincts..

I did ask where she lives, interestingly its an outer suburb too, not totally convenient from here but I will be OK to drive her home if I need to..she may feel a bit anxious at being far from public transport so if this happens I will tell her not to worry and that we will sort her out at the appropriate time (haha).

Fingers crossed. Have an easy date setup for following day in case this doesn't work out... and another number from today that's promising, also a non responder from 2 days ago that's disappointing (she was cute but maybe I didn't close out well, the approach was fun tho). Also spoke to another 3 or 4 girls whose numbers I did not ask for, kinda regret it now as pipeline getting a bit empty...am getting the hang of approach body language and having a bit of fun with it tho, so can prob fix things up in coming days...thanks for the advice & help.

cheers, Ray