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Fellow creative friend of mine invites me to an opening at his friend’s gallery.
Upon arriving i meet him and another friend of his he’s invited. We shoot the shit, catch up and peruse the art about the place. I’m also scoping out the talent to see if there’s anybody I’d like to talk to..
A few targets but everybody is in these insular groups of 4-5 with their backs turned, locked in. I assume when everybody gets comfortable they’ll open up to their surroundings giving more opportunities for higher odds approaches.
Open #1
30 minutes pass and i’m itching to talk to some female. I’m with my friends friend and as we pass one of the artist’s walls I open up what appears to be the artist by asking if she is indeed her..
She is, so i deep dive her on her work, motivations and meaning behind it all, and qualify her on it. I ask for some candy she has in a bowl on her desk and she offers me some canoli she has stashed away, out of sight.
Chocolate. Pistachio. Vanilla.
I tell her i’m not a very vanilla guy but i’ll take the vanilla for a change. Joke goes over her head..
Whatever we move. I qualify her on something and touch her elbow while i do it. She touches me right back and starts asking me questions. I don’t remember the rest of the conversation but it’s clear she likes me. Her sister (who is also gorgeous, i dare say more so ) saunters over, introduces herself enthusiastically and i take this as my cue to move on for a bit. I’d like to create some space and see if there is more open talent about..
I find my friends, outside and immediately they ask me where i got the canoli, so i introduce them to canoli girl and now she’s on my friend quizzing him. I give them their space, as i find out what other talent the place has to offer…
Open #2: Number close
Some time passes, people are still locked into their relative social groups, but i notice a well dressed, pretty librarian looking girl passing by in an open space between my friend group and another. She looks around as though lost. Her awareness radius is fairly open, and she does a sweep, passing by us a few times while looking up and away.
My spider senses tingle. But she hasn’t passed close enough to make an effortless approach. I open my body to the crowd and open up my awareness to make it easier for her but she goes outside.
Some more time passes while i look at some art and i notice her again in my peripherals. My body language is open and aimed somewhat to the crowd and she takes the signal sweeping past me again but a lot closer this time.
I stop her and compliment her on her outfit. I quiz her on who she is and her relationship to the place. It turns out she works for the gallerist and is also an art director. Awesome, she’s easily qualified. I get to know her a bit while periodically giving her space to see if she’ll close it (she’s pretty deadpan, so i need her to buy in to get an indication of her interest) and resume the conversation which she does each time. Qualify her a few more times then suggest we grab coffee sometime as she seems pretty cool and take her number.
Open #3: Number close
I’m off to socialize some more, when I notice a girl come in. Super confident, yet low key in the way she carries herself. Unique sense of style. Looks like the type of girl you find in industrial techno raves in Berlin. She actually looks like she might DJ or produce techno. Very cool. Balkan or from the Caucasus, or Persian I can’t tell. But she’s my type. Her energy is magnetic and draws me in. I need to talk to her.
It seems she’s a close friend of the first artist i spoke to, and she locks into her friend group. I keep an eye on her for signs of an opening. Keeping my body language open to give her an opportunity to pass me.
Eventually she does, making a beeline towards the door passing where i’m standing. I stop her, compliment her outfit and start asking her about what she does. Artist? Music producer? Creative director - none of these. She’s a product designer from a country in the Caucasus. Excellent. Speaking to her confirms that i in fact do like her so i qualify her. Then we're interrupted...
Another artist, blonde, shapely and hot, who i’d noticed eyeing me a few times in the night but who hadn’t made it easy for me to approach (deep in conversation with her friends) tells us it’s closing time and we need to head outside. I get the sense she did this on purpose…
Anyway I head towards the door, to see if my target will follow she does but then tells me she needs to help her artist friend pack up so i let her go, hang outside and scheme on a new opportunity.
Her and her group eventually come outside but farrrr away from where i’m standing and partly blocked by a wall.
I tell my mate about her, and he immediately beelines towards them and opens the group. I like this guy a lot. I join and am now in a conversation with the first artist i’d initially opened. She’s definitely into me, it’s clear: asking where i live and other things about my life. I’m within eyeshot of my target so I won’t ask for this one’s number, although it’s mine to take. I open up the conversation to her two sisters and it seems they’re all going home as they have an early morning. I slowly slowly make my way over to my target.
I reopen her and she’s warm and we deep dive eachother. I compliment her further on her fashion sense, quiz her on her art and music taste, check out her boots and bend to inspect them, have her show me them, I touch them and inspect the leather. Inspect her jacket. Pull the brim of her cap down to see what it says. Basically invading her space to test her comfort with it. She responds positively, and compliments me on the boots i’m wearing. More deep diving, though i don’t remember the specifics. My friend is locked in with the hottest sister, and i sense everyone is ready to go their separate ways so i grab her number suggesting we grab a drink.
She keeps the conversation thread open with me until our friends split and leave. She waves goodbye to me enthusiastically.
Icebreaker text an hour later:
“[name] it was lovely meeting you today..
btw it’s Topcat save my number”
she responds warmly:
“vice versa
yeah i figured
Enjoy the party!”
…i’ll respond to her in the morning and see about setting up a meetup.
Art director hasn’t responded to my icebreaker. I’ll follow up with her over the weekend and test her interest.
——————
I do very well at art events, and with creative girls (and those that appreciate art and ideas) that also lean smart (more precisely girls high in trait openness as I too am) and am happy to specialize in them going forward. They also tend to be more kinky and exploratory sexually which is a non-negotiable for me these days.
I’ll be sticking to these, and screening for these during daygame as well.
Upon arriving i meet him and another friend of his he’s invited. We shoot the shit, catch up and peruse the art about the place. I’m also scoping out the talent to see if there’s anybody I’d like to talk to..
A few targets but everybody is in these insular groups of 4-5 with their backs turned, locked in. I assume when everybody gets comfortable they’ll open up to their surroundings giving more opportunities for higher odds approaches.
Open #1
30 minutes pass and i’m itching to talk to some female. I’m with my friends friend and as we pass one of the artist’s walls I open up what appears to be the artist by asking if she is indeed her..
She is, so i deep dive her on her work, motivations and meaning behind it all, and qualify her on it. I ask for some candy she has in a bowl on her desk and she offers me some canoli she has stashed away, out of sight.
Chocolate. Pistachio. Vanilla.
I tell her i’m not a very vanilla guy but i’ll take the vanilla for a change. Joke goes over her head..
Whatever we move. I qualify her on something and touch her elbow while i do it. She touches me right back and starts asking me questions. I don’t remember the rest of the conversation but it’s clear she likes me. Her sister (who is also gorgeous, i dare say more so ) saunters over, introduces herself enthusiastically and i take this as my cue to move on for a bit. I’d like to create some space and see if there is more open talent about..
I find my friends, outside and immediately they ask me where i got the canoli, so i introduce them to canoli girl and now she’s on my friend quizzing him. I give them their space, as i find out what other talent the place has to offer…
Open #2: Number close
Some time passes, people are still locked into their relative social groups, but i notice a well dressed, pretty librarian looking girl passing by in an open space between my friend group and another. She looks around as though lost. Her awareness radius is fairly open, and she does a sweep, passing by us a few times while looking up and away.
My spider senses tingle. But she hasn’t passed close enough to make an effortless approach. I open my body to the crowd and open up my awareness to make it easier for her but she goes outside.
Some more time passes while i look at some art and i notice her again in my peripherals. My body language is open and aimed somewhat to the crowd and she takes the signal sweeping past me again but a lot closer this time.
I stop her and compliment her on her outfit. I quiz her on who she is and her relationship to the place. It turns out she works for the gallerist and is also an art director. Awesome, she’s easily qualified. I get to know her a bit while periodically giving her space to see if she’ll close it (she’s pretty deadpan, so i need her to buy in to get an indication of her interest) and resume the conversation which she does each time. Qualify her a few more times then suggest we grab coffee sometime as she seems pretty cool and take her number.
Open #3: Number close
I’m off to socialize some more, when I notice a girl come in. Super confident, yet low key in the way she carries herself. Unique sense of style. Looks like the type of girl you find in industrial techno raves in Berlin. She actually looks like she might DJ or produce techno. Very cool. Balkan or from the Caucasus, or Persian I can’t tell. But she’s my type. Her energy is magnetic and draws me in. I need to talk to her.
It seems she’s a close friend of the first artist i spoke to, and she locks into her friend group. I keep an eye on her for signs of an opening. Keeping my body language open to give her an opportunity to pass me.
Eventually she does, making a beeline towards the door passing where i’m standing. I stop her, compliment her outfit and start asking her about what she does. Artist? Music producer? Creative director - none of these. She’s a product designer from a country in the Caucasus. Excellent. Speaking to her confirms that i in fact do like her so i qualify her. Then we're interrupted...
Another artist, blonde, shapely and hot, who i’d noticed eyeing me a few times in the night but who hadn’t made it easy for me to approach (deep in conversation with her friends) tells us it’s closing time and we need to head outside. I get the sense she did this on purpose…
Anyway I head towards the door, to see if my target will follow she does but then tells me she needs to help her artist friend pack up so i let her go, hang outside and scheme on a new opportunity.
Her and her group eventually come outside but farrrr away from where i’m standing and partly blocked by a wall.
I tell my mate about her, and he immediately beelines towards them and opens the group. I like this guy a lot. I join and am now in a conversation with the first artist i’d initially opened. She’s definitely into me, it’s clear: asking where i live and other things about my life. I’m within eyeshot of my target so I won’t ask for this one’s number, although it’s mine to take. I open up the conversation to her two sisters and it seems they’re all going home as they have an early morning. I slowly slowly make my way over to my target.
I reopen her and she’s warm and we deep dive eachother. I compliment her further on her fashion sense, quiz her on her art and music taste, check out her boots and bend to inspect them, have her show me them, I touch them and inspect the leather. Inspect her jacket. Pull the brim of her cap down to see what it says. Basically invading her space to test her comfort with it. She responds positively, and compliments me on the boots i’m wearing. More deep diving, though i don’t remember the specifics. My friend is locked in with the hottest sister, and i sense everyone is ready to go their separate ways so i grab her number suggesting we grab a drink.
She keeps the conversation thread open with me until our friends split and leave. She waves goodbye to me enthusiastically.
Icebreaker text an hour later:
“[name] it was lovely meeting you today..
btw it’s Topcat save my number”
she responds warmly:
“vice versa
yeah i figured
Enjoy the party!”
…i’ll respond to her in the morning and see about setting up a meetup.
Art director hasn’t responded to my icebreaker. I’ll follow up with her over the weekend and test her interest.
——————
I do very well at art events, and with creative girls (and those that appreciate art and ideas) that also lean smart (more precisely girls high in trait openness as I too am) and am happy to specialize in them going forward. They also tend to be more kinky and exploratory sexually which is a non-negotiable for me these days.
I’ll be sticking to these, and screening for these during daygame as well.
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in set i’m generally just reading, project and responding to “energy”. I’m really just feeling my way through things. Not the easiest to translate that through text especially to more linear thinkers.