Numbers but no Responses: Where did I go wrong?

[Baldr]

So last night I went to my favorite coffee shop where this one girl I was moderately interested in worked. I walk up to the counter and receive my coffee (when she's working it's always free hehe) and we start talking. She tells me this tale of the shop being about to close and I ask her questions like where she might want to work after and what she wants to do and she basically tells me she doesn't know. Me being new at deep diving I didn't really know where to go from there so I just told her it would be alright etc etc then we started talking about normal stuff we like. Someone else came in we knew and we were talking to her as well and I noticed that whenever the other girl made a joke or said something funny she would look at me and of course I back. When I did that I started to get more positive vibes off her; her body was turned toward me, she stood very close, things like that. At the end of the night she had to go back inside and finish up so I went to give her a handshake (yeah…a handshake) but she started into a hug. And she got confused so I just pulled her into a hug and we stood there for a minute. I pulled away and promptly asked for her phone number so we could stay in touch after they closed and she gave it to me after telling me when she worked her last day and what time. I called her so she had my number too.

Here's where I'm stuck and dumbfounded. Skip forward a couple of hours and I text her asking what time they close again since, me being my stupid elated self, I forgot. A day goes by, no response. I text her about a day and a half later (about 4 hours ago actually) saying I might not be able to make it to on Friday since I work two jobs and I don't know when I'll be able to get off the second and asked what her weekend looked like...still no response! So Im confused, a bit upset but not too much, and absolutely confounded. I'll put the two texts below for reference but I'd just like to know, what did I do wrong?

Texts:

"Hey [female in question], when do yall close on Friday again? 7 or 8?"

"Sup [guuurrrrlll]? Works been hell and I don't know if I'll be able to make it to carme on the Friday X(. What's your weekend look like?"

I'd like to add this happened with another girl I was interested in and seemed to like me as well. It's sort of a trend unfortunately.

 

[Franco]

RYNO,

Your first texts to a girl should look something like this:

You: Hey Annette, it was cool chatting with you earlier today. Save my number - <your name here>

or

You: It was cool meeting you today, Megan. Let's keep in touch - <your name here>

In your texts, you not only forgot to mention your name at the end of the text (so she knows/remembers who's speaking to her), but you also put too much information for her to respond to. It's best to keep things light and simple first so that it's easy to respond, and then you can try to build up a bit of rapport or ask for a date after a few texts back and forth.

You want to move fast, but not SO fast that you don't get at least some small investment from her first before getting larger investment. =)

- Franco

 

[Baldr]

Thanks Franco! My texts to the other girl looked very similar to the ones I sent this girl so those things were more than likely my problem last time. I was so focused on following chases "send first text, wait a day, send second text, etc." and trying to go out with her quickly that I got a case of tunnel vision. I won't call it quits on this girl yet quite yet but it seems pretty grim but I feel better though knowing what I did wrong. There's another girl I spotted that works at another shop and I'm gonna try to catch her name and digits as well. Hopefully it will go better this time. Also, I think I'll just make my name my signature so I don't have to worry about forgetting putting it there. Thanks again.

-RYNO

 

[wardog]

Hey Franco,

i'm still learning myself, but RYNO said he called her right there, so she already had his number (probably under his name, too(?). I totally agree with keeping texts short and simple with girls you just met, but considering the length of the conversation and how they talked about her finishing from work beforehand, i think the text he shot her could have been alright.

My guess would be somewhere else in the interaction something went wrong.

Just some ideas:

- Hugging for a minute seems a bit long. (RYNO: Who did break the hug?).
- Maybe she was nervous to see him again. I think in "what to do when a girl doesn't text back" Chase wrote, that with girls who were very eager to meet you, you must be exceedingly warm in your texts, or they might flake out of nervousness.

Would love to hear your thoughts on that and maybe someone else on an advanced level can give his opinion, too.

-wardog